Economists point out what every grocery shopper already knows—that the cost of many products and services continues to increase. There are several broad categories where expenses are increasing much more rapidly than the Consumer Price Index. One of these is the cost of a college education.1 Given the sticker shock of college, parents and students are asking if the return on investment justifies the expense. Is it worth it? What does one get from a college education? Even further, what are we trying to get? What is the purpose of a college education?
In our instant-communication, always-connected, present-tense culture, often we don’t take sufficient time to reflect deeply on such questions. Your typical American is busy with life, activity, noise, and commotion, and thus may not stop to wrestle through the long-term ramifications of their decisions. When facing a significant decision, I find it is helpful to consider the various consequences and implications of the upcoming decision and to ask, “So that?” repeatedly as I try to discern my motives, goals, and desires. That is, to ask questions beyond the initial wave of answers and to keep asking until I discern the ultimate direction.
Our children are exceedingly precious to each of us, and as they move closer to the end of high school, questions about their post–high school training and education often occupy a large amount of time and thought. It is challenging enough to guide a child through his early education, middle grades, and high school years. And then students and parents face an overwhelming number of alternatives and options for the post–high school path.
How does one wrestle through such decisions? To begin, it is beneficial to articulate the purpose of higher education. Understand that secular philosophies and Christian philosophies differ markedly on the purpose of a college education. For the present-day secular mind, college is invariably about preparing for one’s future job. Certainly it is laudable to want to be well prepared for the future. Here is a point, though, where one gains further clarification by asking the “so that” questions. For example, it is desirable to be well prepared for one’s future job so that…certainly so that one will be able to perform that role well. Perform the role well so that…what? To gain recognition? So that one will receive more compensation? So that society will function well? Again, in and of themselves, these goals have positive aspects, but is job satisfaction really the highest goal? Is a well-functioning culture the highest good? It is valuable to state out loud what your philosophy of education is. Then you will know what you are looking for, and if your college choices satisfy those criteria.
For the Christian, a primary purpose of education is to understand God and His world from His perspective (as best we are humanly able), so that we are equipped to glorify Him by loving Him and serving Him. God calls His people to serve Him in a marvelous multitude of callings—from the most humble to the grandest. Whatever our calling, we want to be equipped to serve with excellence and joy.
Does kingdom service require a college education? In many fields, no; in many other fields, yes. As parents shepherd their children through questions about the possibility of attending college, there should be thoughtful discussions about what a calling is and how to discern God’s calling in one’s life. Most seventeen- to nineteen-year-olds do not know with certainty the role to which God is calling them. College provides an opportunity to learn more about the world and about oneself. This is a period when many people wrestle with the big life questions of who am I, where do I come from, and what is my purpose in life?
Each of our children is different, and there is no “one size fits all” institution. So how are high school students and parents to go about the process of selecting the college that is the best fit? According to the US Department of Education, there are more than four thousand colleges and universities in the United States, almost three thousand of which grant bachelor’s degrees.2This is an enormous selection from which to choose! (Note: given the number of colleges, there are several able to meet the particular needs of your student.) Although the majority of colleges are secular institutions, a student who is considering Christian colleges still has a very large array from which to choose. Religion had a significant role in the university curriculum from the founding years until into the nineteenth century, when other influences increased. Desiring higher education that includes the spiritual part of our being is not new.
What would be some reasons to consider Christian colleges along with or instead of secular ones? Scripture informs parents that they are responsible for the nurture and training of their children, and that this training is to familiarize them with God and His ways. While some parents feel comfortable with hands-on educational training in the early years, most do not feel equipped to teach their own children at the post–high school level. Colleges offer professors who have devoted their professional careers to expertise in a particular discipline. When a professor is integrating into the subject matter God’s perspective—whether in humanities, history, art, math, music, or any other area—college students are gaining a fuller understanding of God and His works. Conversely, when God is not made a part of the curriculum in each of the various fields, professors are implicitly teaching that God either does not exist or does not have any relevance to that subject. Hundreds of years ago, Martin Luther cautioned Christian parents not to turn their offspring over to the pagan thinkers of the day when he advised parents not to send their children where the Holy Scriptures are not supreme.3
For Christian families who desire a strong academic setting thoroughly penetrated by biblical thought, there are still Christian colleges that faithfully execute that mission. There are schools that are committed to offering both strong academics and biblical perspective. They work to train young people mentally as well as spiritually. We are called to love God with all of our mind as well as all of our heart; those are integrated rather than mutually exclusive goals. As an honest warning: Christian colleges are filled with sinful people and are not perfect. Yet even the manner in which good Christian colleges deal with the difficult issues of sinful people honors God; the process teaches the students how to live authentically. A wise high school guidance counselor once said that if we are serious about our faith, we should consider a college that takes our faith seriously.4
If you decide your student will pursue college, perhaps even a Christian college, what are the next steps, given the hundreds of possibilities?
PRAY FOR YOUR STUDENT
Winnowing through the multitude of options is a huge undertaking, and thus it is important for Christians to pray. Ask God to give you wisdom as you and your son or daughter face these big decisions. God promises that He will guide us as we seek Him and His will. Followers of Jesus will desire to make decisions about college from a biblical perspective, which is radically different from, and countercultural to, the general voices around us; we need God’s guidance.
In conversation with your son or daughter, consider “what matters” and “what really matters.” It is so easy to get caught up in the details of the process that it is helpful to keep the big son or daughter really want out of college? What do you want for your child? How will the college impact and transform your student? People and events around us shape us, so where we place ourselves for college does affect and imprint us. Classroom instruction is a powerful influencer, but so are nonclassroom experiences.
If your student already knows what area of study he or she will major in, it is wise to seek colleges that have a strong program in that field. For the vast majority of students entering college, however, college is the time to learn about and try out various options to discern better what their calling is. High school students may not have the opportunity to find that philosophy or audiology or engineering really appeals to them. Getting a broad liberal arts core contributes to a rich life experience and expands learning. Colleges report that students commonly change majors three times before graduating,5 so there may be wisdom to sampling coursework before finalizing a major.
Ask questions of and about the faculty. These are the adults positioned to have a significant impact on your son or daughter. Are classes taught by professors or by graduate students? What percentage of teaching faculty has earned doctorates? What level of interaction do professors have with students? Do they know students by name? What are the standards for choosing faculty members? Are there theological expectations for faculty members? Are faculty members known in their academic field? One of our son’s professors prayed through his class roster every day. Can you imagine how blessed we were to know that this man was sharing in the training of our son?
God created us to be in community and the influence of the community we join is powerful. Lifelong friendships are formed during the college years, and it is important to consider the college community dynamics. What level of interaction is there among students? What kind of expectations and rules are there? When visiting, does your student feel comfortable, safe, and welcomed? A residential college experience is vastly different from a commuter college or online coursework.
Living options contribute to the community and culture of a college campus. Do most students live on campus, or are most commuters? How are housing decisions made? What are the alternatives if the initial housing assignment is not working for your student? What level of adult supervision is provided?
Colleges vary from less than one hundred students to multiple thousands. What is the size of the student body? What are the sizes of the classes? While we may be acquainted with several hundred people, our close relationships comprise a much smaller number. Wonderful friendships are available even on the smallest campuses.
How important are interscholastic or intramural athletic opportunities to your student? Is this an avenue your son or daughter hopes to pursue professionally after college?
Does this college offer the fine arts or extracurricular activities your son or daughter is seeking? Are there various opportunities to try some new things or to pursue current passions? Are there service opportunities?
Families considering Christian colleges are investigating schools that are not funded by public revenue. Each generation experiences shock at the cost of college, and while the cost may appear significantly higher than other options at first glance, there are ways to decrease those costs through financial assistance packages, scholarships, and grants. Amazingly, if we have sought God’s direction and believe He is guiding us to this particular Christian college, He has ways to provide. We are called to be wise stewards and “count the cost.” But I encourage you not to eliminate a school right off because of cost. Follow the process to the end, and if the Lord closes the door, you will know with certainty that school was not the one. Surprisingly, you may find He provides a way.
VISIT THE CAMPUSES
Where is the college located? Is this a distance that is manageable? When your son or daughter is considering various colleges, it is of the utmost importance to visit the campuses of the top contenders. More than merely meeting with college admissions staff, there is tremendous benefit to sitting in on classes, spending the night in the dormitories, and eating in the college dining facilities. Yes, this is an additional expense and takes time, but when considering the long-term impact of the college choice, this is an essential step. In the long run, actually visiting a campus can save a great deal of grief.
Congratulations on being at the point of launching your offspring to the next stage of preparation. This is what you’ve been working toward for many years. So begin with prayer and trust that you will be able, with God’s help, to navigate the process successfully. And when you are ready to drop your child at college, a final word: bring a box of tissues—a big one.
Maren Halvorson (EdD, Nova Southeastern University, Ft. Lauderdale, FL) and her husband are parents of four grown sons, each of whom graduated from a Christian college before attending graduate schools. She taught in Christian schools and served as head of school in a K–12 Christian school in Charlotte, North Carolina, for more than twenty-five years. Currently she consults with schools.
“She’s five foot wide,” a kid in the campground pool shouted out in jest; he was countering eleven-year-old me who had just shared that I was only five foot tall. The comment stung a little as my chunky physique produced self-consciousness in my insecure adolescent heart, but it was just a joke, and no big deal. Right? Yet years later, I still remember how I ducked under water to hide my tears. Today I can still recall feeling shame and, of course, ugly. Maybe it wasa big deal.
My adolescent body was chubby and, though only fifteen pounds heavier than my petite friends, my weight put me in “Pretty Plus” sizes. I felt blobby and ugly. However, I had my naturally curly hair going for me, and no-cost ringlets brought attention from others. From friends to strangers to hair stylists, my curls were frequently praised, and more than a few told me they were jealous. I have to admit, it felt great!
Unexpectedly, as I got older, my body image woes and joys reversed themselves. I began to “grow into” my body. A friend’s recent Facebook post said she was “60 years old and finally comfortable in a swimsuit on the beach!” I too now feel at home in my own skin. Today my body is an infrequent distraction.
However, I realized in my forties that a bad hair day could trigger feelings of insecurity, lack of confidence, and…feeling ugly. A frizzy head of hair sent my self-esteem spiraling. Somehow my feelings about my hair had become deeply attached to how I felt about myself! Foolishness? To some degree, yes. Unusual? Absolutely not! Female body-image struggles are a global phenomenon.Should Christians Fear Profanities? By Richard Poupard
Recently I conversed with a friend who told me that his daughter had begun a job at a local coffee shop. He related that she enjoyed the company of fellow employees, who had been kind and welcoming, and she felt she would have opportunities to be a witness to Christ. However, he voiced concerns about the profanity many of the young employees used in her presence. She had been taught that using foul language was sinful, and their language made her uncomfortable. Hearing profanities at the coffee shop made this devoted Christian question her employment. It was this thought-provoking conversation that made me question the role and power that profanity has in our culture and our faith.
Christians are also understandably concerned about language that is allowed within their home. For instance, many stores sell a device called the “TVGuardian.” This device allows viewers to watch DVD movies or TV by removing “bad words.” The device does not change the visual content, but it mutes any word that is on a list of profanities. By eliminating certain words, an otherwise offensive movie can be transformed into one that is family friendly. Their website asks a provocative question: “What message does allowing an unprotected TV in your home send?”1Another filtering service released a video in which a family is pelted with more than seven hundred paint balls signifying their exposure to bad language. The video provocatively states, “Every word has impact.”2
What power should hearing particular words have on the Christian believer? Can Christians keep their hearts clean by avoiding exposure to cuss words? I believe it is wrong to flaunt our freedom in Christ to offend others intentionally with the language we use. However, should our fear of particular words keep us out of certain environments or relationships?
Just hearing certain words is seen as grossly immoral by many Christians. A mental list of bad words is made, and the Christian simply avoids those particular words, thus resulting in clean language. Many believe that this is effective in keeping the third commandment as well as the various commands in the New Testament against “unwholesome” or “filthy” speech. It would seem our speech is made clean merely by the substitution of a few words, regardless of the true message that our hearts are attempting to communicate via our words.
On today’s Bible Answer Man broadcast, Hank offers an in-depth response to a thoughtful listener who questions whether Hank’s phrase “truth matters, life matters more” is really true. Hank explains that if we relegate the Christian experience to a headful of knowledge—mental assent to logical truth propositions—we are in danger of devolving into a transactional rather than transformational relationship with the Lover of our souls. A transaction that offers heaven and avoidance of hell yet strangely devoid of the transformational intimacy that Christ offers His apprentices right here, right now—life to the full. Not a mere headful of knowledge but active participation in the kingdom of God. Entrance into the divine life of the Holy Trinity. Union with the triadic One. Thus, yes, truth matters—it truly matters—life matters more.All Sermons by Hank Hanegraaff