Foxes in the Vineyard
As Barbara and I started having children, and as we began to experience more of the distractions and troubles that face a family, we discovered what Solomon calls the "little foxes that are ruining the vineyards, while our vineyards are still in blossom," things like financial pressures, poor health, and teenagers who won't go to bed.
But the biggest threats to romance in marriage include such things as wrong priorities, passivity, selfishness, unresolved conflict, unrealistic expectations, and having a critical spirit. But the deadliest romance-robbing fox is indifference, having an "I don't care" kind of attitude.
One final thought. If the excitement is gone in out of your marriage and you're not sure why, you and your spouse need to just sit down and have a talk. It may not be fun, but together the two of you can start doing some "fox hunting."
I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.