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Gain for Adults, Loss for Kids

June 22, 2017
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When a 20-year-old stepson said it from the stage there was a gasp from the audience. “It’s kind of a gain for you but it’s a loss for the kids.”

 

I was interviewing a young man and I asked him the question, “What do you wish adults knew about being a stepchild?” He said, “It’s a gain for the adults. They have new love and a friend to share their life with but for us kids it’s a reminder that mom and dad can’t be together. And it means more family change. It’s just hard to adjust.” He’s right, which is why adults should not rush into marriage and why they need to be very patient with the children after the wedding.

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About Ron L. Deal

Ron L. Deal is the Director of blended family ministries at FamilyLife®, and is the author/coauthor of the books The Smart StepfamilyThe Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Remarriage Checkup. Ron voices the FamilyLife Blended short feature and is one of the most widely read authors on stepfamily living in the country. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today® and Focus on the Family, and he conducts marriage and family seminars around the countryRon and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys.

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