A Set of Problems

January 19, 2018
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How Many Kids Do You Have?

January 22, 2018

So, how many kids do you have?


I have three children but one died. So, if I say three I’ll have to explain what happened which makes most people feel awkward and retreat from the conversation. So, depending on how much energy I have, I'll avoid answering the question directly and talk about my other two boys but then I feel weird. It’s not simple. So it is for stepparents who love their stepkids but aren’t sure what the right answer is. Speaking for those of us with complicated answers, please be understanding. 

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FamilyLife Blended® provides  biblically-based resources that help prevent re-divorce, strengthen stepfamilies, and help break the generational cycle of divorce.

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Ron L. Deal is the Director of blended family ministries at FamilyLife®, and is the author/coauthor of the books The Smart StepfamilyThe Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Remarriage Checkup. Ron voices the FamilyLife Blended short feature and is one of the most widely read authors on stepfamily living in the country. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today® and Focus on the Family, and he conducts marriage and family seminars around the countryRon and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys.

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