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Ron L. Deal

Avoiding the Teeter-Totter

April 14, 2020

Parents need to get off the teeter-totter.


Have you ever been in a conversation where the other person’s position led you to take a polar opposite position? Normally you wouldn’t take that position, but because they do, you do. This is a trap for some parents. One is strict so the other becomes permissive. When one goes down on the teeter-totter, the other goes up. Well, if a parent and a stepparent don’t get off the teeter-totter, the family suffers. Stop trying to counter balance the other, move toward the middle, and find balance.

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Ron L. Deal is the Director of blended family ministries at FamilyLife®, and is the author/coauthor of the books The Smart StepfamilyThe Smart Stepdad, The Smart Stepmom, Dating and the Single Parent, and The Remarriage Checkup. Ron voices the FamilyLife Blended short feature and is one of the most widely read authors on stepfamily living in the country. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today® and Focus on the Family, and he conducts marriage and family seminars around the countryRon and his wife, Nan, have been married since 1986 and have three boys.

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