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Dave and Ann Wilson

Mission-Minded Kids

August 23, 2017

If we're going to raise mission-minded children, then we need to make sure they understand the same three things that Jesus understood in John chapter 13.  The passage reads, "Now before the feast of the Passover, Jesus, knowing that His hour had come that He should depart out of this world to the Father, having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end."  First of all in this passage, Jesus knew He had come from God.  He knew who He was.  Secondly, He knew where He was going.  He was going back to God.  He knew that even death couldn't rob Him of His ultimate purpose.  Third, what did He do?  He rose and He served and ended up washing the disciples' feet.

One final thought.  Our job as parents is to give our children a context of who they are and where they're going.  The rest is up to their heavenly Father.

I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.

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Hmm.  You know, I'll never forget hearing Elisabeth Elliot speak one time at a singles conference.  And I don't remember how it came up, but she shared how her Dad prayed for all five of their children, and the people they would marry.  Know what?  All five of their children married the people he prayed for.   For example, when Elisabeth was only a child, her father spotted a young man who loved Jesus Christ and her dad began to pray for him.  His name? Jim Elliot.  Sure enough, in time Elisabeth married him.  And, of course, Jim Elliot's journals, even though he was only 25 years of age, are some of the deepest thoughts that came out of the church in the 20th century.  One final thought.  Maybe you as a parent can keep up your antennae, and spot someone to pray for that your child will marry.  Remember, God loves to answer prayer! I'm Dennis Rainey, don't stop praying, because that's Real FamilyLife.
August 22, 2017
I once was preparing to speak on the topic of accountability, when I came across a magazine article.  It described a practice gaining popularity among mountain climbers called, "Free Soloing."  The magazine showed a picture of a man on the face of a mountain hanging only by his fingertips.  The article went on to say that relying on ropes is out.  Depending on people is passé.  Climbers want the danger and thrill that comes from being on their own. You know, I've observed a number of Christian leaders who have fallen into sin and I've noticed something about all of them.  They had all been "free soloing."  They had refused to accept the safety and perspective that accountability provides. One final thought.  Is there anyone who holds you accountable for your actions?  Why don't you ask a good friend to help you in this area.  None of us were created for free soloing. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 21, 2017
I learned many wonderful things from my parents, but one of the very  best was to enjoy laughter.  My mom and dad used to make me laugh so hard, tears would literally stream down from my eyes.  Practical jokes, good-natured teasing, and spontaneous fun were all a part of our home. My dad, whose name was Ward, had a rumbling laugh, and my mom had a finely tuned sense of humor, that she had up until her death at the age of 90.  I recall one Christmas, when my mom gave herself a new vacuum cleaner.  Under the tree was a huge wrapped present with a tag that read, "To my dear wife, from Ward."  Well, that was one of many Christmas mornings when laughter filled the air. One final thought.  When's the last time you made your family laugh?  Take some time and think about a way you can brighten their spirits.  They may never forget it. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 18, 2017
If you've ever sewn a dress (or attempted to sew one), you know how a pattern works.  There are many pieces, both large and small, none of which resembles the finished product.  I'm told that every pattern has pairs of parts: two sleeves, two bodice pieces, a front and back skirt.  Well, your marriage is similar.  God has designed a master pattern for husbands and wives.  When we follow it, we'll create a whole, usable, beautiful, purposeful marriage. One final thought.  In the same way a dress can be made various sizes and colors with numerous differences in detail from one pattern, so my marriage may look different from yours.  The key is for us to follow God's plan, to know our part, and to work to fit in with what He wants to do in our lives. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 17, 2017
Well, I wish my wife, Barbara, were here to do this instead of me, but let me give you some tips that she shares with wives on how to become a "dynamite" wife: 1) Be a helper to your husband.  He needs you.  I promise you, he really does.  He is incomplete without you. 2) Love and respect your husband.  Accept him unconditionally.  And, yes, love him sexually, too.  3) Submit to his leadership.  As you voluntarily submit to your husband, you are completing him.  You're helping him fulfill his responsibilities, and you're helping him become the leader God intended him to be.  There.  I said it. One final thought.  God's plan for you as a wife doesn't restrict your creativity in expressing who you are.  I believe if you trust Him, the finished product will be a life that reflects the full beauty that the Creator intended. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 16, 2017
There's no doubt: Spanking is becoming a cultural no-no.  Many people equate any type of physical discipline with abuse.   I may be in the minority when I say it, but I don't believe that's necessarily true.  All discipline (not just spanking) is a measured amount of pain administered to the child in love, for the purpose of showing him or her the error of their ways.  Parents need to have lots of tools in their discipline tool box.  And spanking certainly ought to be one of them.  The Bible explains that the rod of correction drives the foolishness out of your child.  "And if you don't use it," God says, "then you hate your child."  Pretty strong words, aren't they? One final thought.  The difference between spanking and abuse lies in why you spank.  Venting your anger on your child is both abusive and wrong.  But carefully administering some physical pain for the purpose of training your child is true love. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 15, 2017
My wife Barbara is good at many things.  I try to praise her for the wonderful abilities and traits she has.  I can never express too much appreciation for her, but I don't mind trying. You know, in marriage, we really ought to be more like a mirror that reflects the talents and gifts that our spouses have.  If our husband or wife does a great job in a certain area, you should tell them so.  It's amazing how much life is given to a marriage, when you and I  focus on the positive things our spouse does.  The writer of the Proverbs had it right when he said, "How delightful is a timely word."  One final thought.  I want to encourage you to take five minutes tonight, and list on a 3 by 5 card a couple of strengths you see in your spouse.  Then, tonight, at the dinner table, share your observations.  I promise you, it will encourage your husband or wife more than you realize. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real Family Life.
August 14, 2017
Collecting can be a fun hobby.  In 1950, Francis Johnson, a farmer in Minnesota, started a unique collection.  He decided to make the biggest ball of twine in the world.  He worked on this project four hours a day, every day for twenty-nine years.  When he was finished, his ball weighed 8.7 tons. Johnson's twisted monument is still proudly displayed in Darwin, MN.  And in case you wondered, residents there will celebrate their annual "Twine Ball Days" tomorrow. But you know what?  That ball of twine won't last forever.  There's nothing wrong with having hobbies or maintaining collections, but I hope your greatest energy is being spent on the things of eternal value. One final thought.   I Timothy 6:18 tells us to "be rich in good works."  Consider what kind of good works you could start collecting today. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 11, 2017
It is important for Moms and Dads to teach their children manners, and to be unified as they do it.  But there's something also to be said for occasionally doing something goofy at the dinner table.  One evening in our home, we threw marshmallows at one another and laughed so hard we had tears streaming down our faces.  Laughter needs to be a welcome member in our homes.  Martin Luther once said, "If the earth is fit for laughter then surely heaven is filled with it.  Heaven is the birthplace of laughter."  As moms and dads, we shouldn't get too busy to have fun, or become so goal - oriented that we think members of our family are simply "in the way."  One final thought.  What can you do tonight to let the laughter bounce off the walls?  What would your children do if you let a marshmallow fly or squeezed mashed potatoes between your teeth? I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real FamilyLife.
August 10, 2017
That IS a tough situation.  C.T. Studd was a missionary in Africa.  He faced a tough situation as well.  His family had run out of food.  They were facing starvation.  They had a night of prayer, pleading for help.  The next day they received a substantial check from a man they had never heard of.  In the note he said simply that God had told him to send the money. Does God always respond to our requests as dramatically as that?  No.  But what He does respond to is humility that expresses utter dependence on Him.  I've observed one of God's most prized prayers is one that cries out to Him in total desperation. One final thought.  If you find yourself in a hopeless situation,  express your needs to God in prayer.  Confess your helplessness in dealing with them and your total trust in God's power to bring you help. I'm Dennis Rainey, and that's Real Family Life.
August 8, 2017
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About Dave and Ann Wilson

Dave and Ann Wilson are co-hosts of FamilyLife Today©, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program.

Dave and Ann have been married for more than 40 years and have spent the last 35 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® since 1993, and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country.

Dave and Ann helped plant Kensington Community Church in Detroit, Michigan where they served together in ministry for more than three decades, wrapping up their time at Kensington in 2020.

The Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released books Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019) and No Perfect Parents (Zondervan, 2021).

Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame Quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as Chaplain for thirty-three years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active with Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small group leader, and mentor to countless women.

The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

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