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Dr. James Dobson: Welcome everyone to Family Talk. It's a ministry of the James Dobson Family Institute, supported by listeners just like you. I'm Dr. James Dobson and I'm thrilled that you've joined us.

Roger Marsh: Well, welcome to Family Talk. I'm Roger Marsh. In an age where entertainment bombards our children from every angle, how can parents protect their families while still enjoying quality media? Well, today's Family Talk guest has spent decades answering that question. His name is Dr. Ted Bear, and he's the founder and publisher of MovieGuide. He's also chairman of the Christian Film and Television Commission.

A noted critic, educator and media expert, Dr. Ted Bear has dedicated his life to redeeming the values of media while teaching families discernment in their entertainment choices. Dr. Bear's influence extends from Hollywood to parliaments worldwide, and his research on media's impact is unmatched.

But perhaps his greatest credential is this: he led his own father to faith in Jesus Christ, and raised children who now raise their own kids to love the Lord as well. On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. Ted Bear joins Dr. James Dobson to discuss his devotional book called "Reel to Real," which is R-E-E-L and R-E-A-L. It uses quality films to teach biblical truth to families. So let's listen in now to part two of this conversation about becoming media wise here on Family Talk.

Dr. James Dobson: Ted, I really enjoyed talking to you last time about the culture, what's happened to it and the dangers that all of our children are under. What they hear in the neighborhood, what they hear in public schools, and sometimes what they hear in Christian schools is not helpful to them. That's an overstatement, but you know what I mean.

You're trying to make a difference and you're out there working in a very pagan world. I asked you last time how you kept your optimism in the midst of the evil that's around you because you are in one of the most godless communities anywhere, I think. But you have stayed there and you have won many people to Christ. Before I go on to where I was leading with that question, you have something you call a Gala every year. Tell everybody what the Gala is designed to do.

Dr. Ted Bear: Well, the Gala is a gigantic witness to Jesus, but it's a net. Instead of picking out the known Christians who are making films, Corbin Bernsen or any of the others, and honoring them, we look at the films that are out there and pick out the best films. We pick ten best films for families and we give out 40 awards. We give out a big cash prize for the very best of the ten best. We do the best films for mature audiences, the best films with faith and values, and the best films with patriotic content. That's where "The Long Road Home," about the troop leaving Iraq and trying to get freed from being trapped, was honored.

So we get the people there and quite often they're just Hollywood people. It's a net. We've got the net out and the whole thing is designed to help them see what's going on. Quite often we're helping them to see what's in their film. When the movie "Nine" came out, about the man who made the nine puppets, this is sort of the God figure and one of the puppets becomes the Savior and there's a picture of Jesus in a stained glass window.

The people said when they got there, until they saw the clip, "Why are we here? Tomorrow night is a different awards show." When they saw that clip they said, "We didn't realize there was so much Christian content in our film." So we see people transformed. We're throwing out a net, we're getting friends for the Gospel. We're even getting friends from people we honor, like Pat Robertson. We honored him and people came out saying this was the best event in their lives to meet Pat Robertson.

We're trying to build a bridge. We're trying to build a bridge to Jesus and to faith and values. We have people who've come for years like the one who did "Boss Baby," "Shrek," and some of the biggest movies for Dreamworks. Now he's done a movie that God creates children, which you and I believe. That's why we hate abortion and we believe that Jesus is God.

Dr. James Dobson: All right, let's talk about your book, "Reel to Real." This is a series of devotions that you have written that take people in the direction of their faith and especially an introduction to Christ. Describe it in greater detail.

Dr. Ted Bear: Well, I've done books on media literacy since I was head of the department at City University of New York and we brought 60 professors together. I was invited to join those 60 professors to do the first media literacy course. So I've written "The Media-Wise Family," "The Culture-Wise Family," and those are direct teachings.

But this is a fun way to do it. When I was coming to Christ at the age of 28, and I had not known anything about Him, one of my friends whose father owned Technicolor said, "Have you seen 'It's a Wonderful Life'?" I took a look at "It's a Wonderful Life," and it was part of the process of me coming to Christ to see the beauty of the transformation.

So in the book, there are 150 little sections to say, how do you know what God's purpose is for your life? How did George Bailey know? So you've got the movie, but you've got the biblical insights from 1 Thessalonians.

Dr. James Dobson: George Bailey is "It's a Wonderful Life." Do you consider that one of the best movies with moral content?

Dr. Ted Bear: It's got a strong content about him finding out what God's purpose is. It starts off with Clarence being told to consider George Bailey, and he was so depressed that he saw what town would be like without George Bailey. What would the world be like without Dr. Dobson? It would be terrible.

But there are a lot of movies that come. For instance, we live in an age of political correctness. So there's a chapter, they're all short, called "By What Authority?" By what authority can the government take some man, because his wife's left him, and the little daughter that he's trying to raise properly? It's him going to the Supreme Court in Ireland, a true story, to stop the government and he says, "By what authority?"

That's the question the Bible asks. It says, "By what authority do you do these things, Pilate?" Pilate says, "I have the authority," and Jesus says, "You don't have the authority to do this. The authority is in the hands of God." So each one of those asks, how do you have real beauty if you're a woman? These are questions that the Bible answers.

But quite often the movie helps reveal the answer to your heart and then it opens you up to considering the biblical passages. A lot of kids don't read. If I could get them all to read my "Culture-Wise Family" and "Media-Wise Family," I'd be happy. But this way they enjoy the movie, they get to ask questions and they get to reflect. They are movies that have been carefully chosen to help guide them closer to God so they can know God better and make Him known.

Dr. James Dobson: This may surprise you. First of all, Shirley and I love movies. A good movie is really a fantastic medium if it's really done right and if it grabs the heart. I hate movies where the message is cars flying through the air and landing in swimming pools and helicopters with gunships. I hate things that are based on sensationalism and blowing things up in order to attract an audience. Believe it or not, what we love are the movies from the 30s and 40s. We watch them on Turner Classic Movies.

Dr. Ted Bear: I do, too.

Dr. James Dobson: I just love those old movies. Now, every single one of them, they light up and smoke all the way through, and they also drink. I don't know how any of them managed to have livers that even functioned because they drank all the time. So they're not perfect, but there are some good solid values in many of those movies.

Dr. Ted Bear: Now, my father was a Western star for 12 of those years and you couldn't drink, you couldn't smoke, and you couldn't kiss the horse. So you didn't have any of those.

Dr. James Dobson: When did he start?

Dr. Ted Bear: His first film was in 1926, and then his last film was just before World War II.

Dr. James Dobson: So he was a silent movie star.

Dr. Ted Bear: Most of his movies are talkies. Most of them are in the 30s, but then he went off to World War II, which you can read all about. Then he came back and did mostly Broadway, although he did some movies. Some of them I don't want you to see, so I'm not going to mention the names.

Dr. James Dobson: And you were close to him.

Dr. Ted Bear: Well, my mother died when I was young, so I was very close to my father and I was part of the world of the entertainment industry all along.

Dr. James Dobson: Neither one of them were believers.

Dr. Ted Bear: No, he came to Christ eight years after me.

Dr. James Dobson: You led him to Christ, didn't you?

Dr. Ted Bear: I led him to Christ. I had my little son, Pierce, and my father being from Broadway, I was doing "The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe." I was head of that organization. Children's Television Workshop was hired to do it and they hired Bill Melendez. It went down the ladder to who produced it. My father was cursing because he always cursed and I said, "You can't curse in front of my son. I don't want that."

I came back to his room. He'd been in the cavalry, he was tough, and he was crying. I said, "I don't want you to leave, but you've got to change." So he accepted Jesus and he changed. He just changed completely.

Dr. James Dobson: What made him accommodate you and what you were saying to him?

Dr. Ted Bear: Oh, I think it's always God's grace. It's always the Holy Spirit. It's always God moving on your heart.

Dr. James Dobson: You didn't coerce him.

Dr. Ted Bear: No, I couldn't.

Dr. James Dobson: Being the son and respecting your father, isn't it difficult to do that and try to teach the teacher, so to speak?

Dr. Ted Bear: I came from such an area of brokenness and all the things that you do in the entertainment industry. To me, what I see clearly is that this is just a great blessing. The chance for you to receive Jesus and be delivered from the bondage of our age, which includes cursing, confusion, anti-family behavior, and self-destructive behavior. This is all bondage.

You can be set free from all that bondage. I was set free from that bondage. This is good news. I don't know anything else that you wouldn't want to tell somebody. I do this with Muslim groups around the world. I do it in every country I go to, whether it's Cambodia or on the border of Laos or anywhere else. It's good news. To me, it's good news.

Dr. James Dobson: Ted, we have just a little time left and I would really like to devote it to my introduction yesterday. I talked about the responsibility of parents to protect their children as much as possible from the wickedness that surrounds them. It's everywhere.

I'm agitated by what 13-year-old children, boys especially, see on the internet when they stumble onto the worst of the pornographic material. If the parents aren't paying attention, the children will be warped forever. Does it bother you when you see parents take their young children into dirty movies?

Dr. Ted Bear: I see it all the time. I'll see them take their three-year-old into a movie which is slashing and gashing. What they don't understand is that three-year-old is in the imagination stage of development. They're picking up their scripts of behavior and it's so powerful.

When I was head of the department at Berkeley in the early 2000s, there were over 500,000 studies on the mass media. When I started at City University of New York in the 70s, there were 7,000 studies that came out from the National Institute of Mental Health. That was the first start. Now every university does studies. I would imagine USC, your alma mater, does studies every year on something.

But 99% of the studies show the influence of media. A friend of mine who's with the University of California, who's a Christian, does these mega-studies. 99% show the influence of media. We know how, when, and where it happens. But it doesn't get past the news media that this is exactly what "13 Reasons Why" does.

The program about suicide is killing, not just children, but adults, telling you that you should get revenge on people and get out of life. These are evil programs. The two new children's programs are on drag queens. How do parents deal with that? Parents feel overwhelmed. It's like this big tsunami is about to hit them in the face.

I showed you a little clip that I wish I could show the audience of two little children copying the movie "Frozen," which was a good movie. If you show a bad movie, everybody goes bonkers. So the question is, how do you do it? You show them how to do it in your books and in your lectures.

That's what we do in "Reel to Real," that's what we do in "MovieGuide," and that's what we do in "The Culture-Wise Family." You can train your children so that they will want to choose the good and reject the bad. You want them to be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit to choose the good.

It's just helping them to understand the things that are important. One, understand the consequences of their actions. I get people in my class who are depressed and on the edge. They come out and they go to law school and they get married. I want to see people transformed. You get transformed by asking, "What is the consequence of you following '13 Reasons Why'?"

Dr. James Dobson: Here's a scripture that I wish parents would teach to all of their children. It's a short verse in Psalm 101 verse 3. From the King James version, it says, "I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes. I hate the work of them that turn aside, it shall not cleave to me." Every child should learn that the Lord is paying attention.

I've said this on the air many times. I was like any other boy and in dating in high school, I was attracted to girls just like every other boy is. But I remained a virgin not because my mother and father threatened me, not because they yelled at me or punished me. I remained a virgin and was respectful of girls because I knew I was not alone in that car.

Jesus was in that car with me. He was seeing and hearing everything that took place there and I would be accountable someday for what took place. That's because I was taught that at home.

Dr. Ted Bear: I want to use that segment on my radio program. That is a beautiful, beautiful segment. That's exactly right.

Dr. James Dobson: Especially today where girls are more aggressive than the boys are and often throw themselves at boys.

Dr. Ted Bear: It's for all the wrong reasons. You and I know that's not what they want. They are the ones that get hurt. There are five steps to teaching media wisdom and I guess I should add six. The first step is knowing Jesus and knowing how much love He has for you and having parents that love Jesus and love their children in incredible ways. But number one is to understand the influence of the media. Most people say it has no influence on me, and it does have an influence.

Dr. James Dobson: Baloney.

Dr. Ted Bear: It has influence whether you're smoking, drinking, carousing, or using bad language. We have hundreds of thousands of studies. You've got to break the myth, the spell of the fantasy that it has no influence.

Dr. James Dobson: Imagine the advertisers spending billions of dollars to put their message before people because they know they can influence behavior. Why would that not work in a movie?

Dr. Ted Bear: It works in everything. There are about 1,200 lobbying groups in Hollywood and the big advertisers are there in force trying to get Coca-Cola into whatever movie it happens to be.

Dr. James Dobson: Talk to the parents in the remaining moments. What do you suggest to them, especially in a wicked world?

Dr. Ted Bear: Do not feel defeated. You're not defeated, you're more than a conqueror in Jesus Christ. You need just to have the tools to be able to do this. The tools are the books that Dr. Dobson has written, tools like "The Culture-Wise Family," "The Media-Wise Family," "Reel to Real," and "MovieGuide." These are all tools to help you and to help your children to become enthusiastic.

I'm always meeting parents and children whose lives have been changed. You can make a tremendous difference. One of the things that I notice which really bothers me is that I'll speak in another country. I have to go and speak in Greece and then I have to go speak in Indonesia. You'll fill up a large space or a stadium in Korea with people who are passionate about their children. In the Philippines, there were about 70,000 people passionate about their children.

You'll come to America and you'll get five or six people coming. We think we're in a hot tub having a good time. We're the frog being boiled in the kettle. We have to be able to see that we are at the front line of spiritual warfare, that we're in the country that's producing all of this stuff. We can make the difference if we teach our children to choose the good and reject the bad. I can show you how to make a difference, Dr. Dobson can show you how to make a difference. You need to take a stand now and say, "I'm going to take five or ten minutes of my day and invest it in changing the lives of my children."

Dr. James Dobson: The most important thing I would emphasize with parents is beware of getting so busy and so exhausted and so distracted and so worn out that you don't have time to notice what's going on around your feet. If you listen carefully, they'll tell you what they're thinking and what they're learning. They'll give you a clue as to what they need if you're paying attention. But if you're working 12 hours a day and you come home and fall in bed and you've got a two-career family both mom and dad are too busy to pay attention, I'm telling you the culture will take them to hell.

Dr. Ted Bear: I've got a great story about that that occurred here in Colorado Springs. I went to a church to speak on culture wisdom and a girl said, "My father's too busy. He comes home, he's tired, he turns on the news and he's watching television until 11 o'clock." Now, that's not too busy if you're watching television until 11 o'clock.

Dr. James Dobson: Unless you fall asleep doing it.

Dr. Ted Bear: I said to her, this lovely young girl, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" She said, "An actress." Everybody in the church laughed because they knew she wanted her father to see her. I get these people coming as interns to our office to find out more about Hollywood. What they find out is more about Jesus. Turning on the news at night is not as important as sitting down with your children for a half hour and talking to them.

Dr. James Dobson: You have grandkids and every one of them knows the Lord. And your children all know the Lord. How did you pull that off? You're a busy man, you just told us you're flying all over the world and you're doing all this stuff. Your resume is a mile long. How did you accomplish that?

Dr. Ted Bear: I spent a lot of time with them. With my children, I spent a lot of time. Now my children are spending time with my grandchildren and they're taking beautiful care of them. I'm happy about each of them.

Dr. James Dobson: So they get a lot of the credit.

Dr. Ted Bear: They get all the credit. Jesus gets all the credit.

Dr. James Dobson: We're talking to Dr. Ted Bear and talking about his book "Reel to Real." You're an optimistic man. Whenever I talk about the wickedness in the culture, you always rush to say that there are a lot of good people out there too and God's doing wonderful things. Of course I agree with that. God be with you. Thank you for the work that you're doing in a pagan world. Wouldn't you like to see in one place all the people you've influenced to come to Christ?

Dr. Ted Bear: Yeah, I'm looking forward to it someday.

Dr. James Dobson: I want to be there when that happens. Would you invite me?

Dr. Ted Bear: Oh, absolutely.

Dr. James Dobson: Ted, I love you. I appreciate you and hope to see you again. Thanks for being our guest.

Dr. Ted Bear: Excellent, thank you.

Roger Marsh: Dr. Ted Bear's simple wisdom rings true. If we teach our children to choose good media and reject harmful content, we can transform not just our families, but the culture itself. You're listening to a special edition of Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk featuring Dr. Dobson's conversation with Dr. Ted Bear about becoming media wise families. By the way, if you'd like to hear today's program again or to share it with someone who needs this guidance, visit JDFI.net.

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