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Dannah Gresh: What hard thing are you going through today? Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth says painful situations can shape you into something beautiful.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: God is committed to making you and me like Jesus. And that involves a process because we didn't start out that way. There's so much in my heart, so much in my attitude, so much in the way I deal with people, so much in the way I respond to life that is not like Christ. So what does God do? He sends hardship.

Dannah Gresh: This is the Revive Our Hearts podcast with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author of Adorned. For February 5th, 2026, I'm Dannah Gresh. Today, Nancy's continuing in the series "Ruth: The Transforming Power of Redeeming Love."

We've been studying the book of Ruth, and we've seen that a man named Elimelech took his wife and his two sons into a far country, running from a famine in their homeland, thinking they'd be better off in the far country. But when they got there, they found that God was creating circumstances, even there in that foreign land, that place of escape, to bring them back home.

Now, three of the four who left to go to Moab in that family never did make it back. But God had plans for Naomi, and part of those plans involved the loss of her husband and the loss of her two sons who by this time had married two Moabite women.

We said yesterday that God uses even painful and evil circumstances of life to teach us, to discipline us, to train us in His ways, and to bring us to the place where we really are ready to come back home. Naomi didn't come back home after her husband died, but after the loss of her two sons, we're going to see she was ready to come back home.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: Now I want today to take just a little parenthesis in this story and to examine a bit further this matter of the chastening of God, the discipline of God, and His purposes in bringing affliction into our lives. And to do that, let me ask you to turn in the New Testament to the book of Hebrews, chapter 12. Hebrews chapter 12.

This is a New Testament passage that I think sheds more light on the story that we're looking at, the story of Naomi, and it sheds light on our stories. The circumstances and situations of life when things just seem so out of control, when we're suffering hardship. I think of a young woman I know who lost her dad at the age of eight. When she was a teenager, she had a brother who was killed, and then as a college student, the night before she was to go home for Christmas break, a man broke into her apartment and she was assaulted—just a terrible, horrible experience. It seemed like there was just one thing after another in the life of this young woman.

Well, it's been about a dozen years since that last episode, and now if you could meet this young woman, you would say as difficult and painful as the circumstances were that came into her life, none of which did she have any control over, but now you look at this woman and you say, "Here's a young woman who knows God. She has been taught in the ways of God. There's a freedom and a fragrance there that has come about in part as a result of some of the pain and the circumstances that she has walked through in her life."

God uses affliction for the purpose of discipline and chastening, and Hebrews 12 talks about that. The writer to the Hebrews is talking to believers who are going through persecution, going through some difficult era as believers for their faith. He says to them that he's writing to encourage them. Part of what he says is, "Remember Jesus. In your suffering, remember Jesus. Don't forget there's one who has suffered more." In fact, he says in this passage, "You have not yet shed blood. You have not suffered to the point of shedding blood." So keep your eyes on Jesus.

But then he talks about some things that give us some perspective about this matter of God's hand of discipline. The writer to the Hebrews says in verse 5 of chapter 12, "You have forgotten that word of encouragement that addresses you as sons." Now there are times of life, and Naomi is in one of them where we have just left her in Ruth chapter 1, where we need a word of encouragement. Some of you in this room today need a word of encouragement about what's going on in your life, in your family, in your situation.

The writer here says you've forgotten something that you need to be reminded of. Here's the word of encouragement. Then he quotes from the Old Testament and he says, "My son, do not make light of the Lord's discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son." The writer here is saying that discipline is an expression of God's love.

You've probably said it to your children: "I'm doing this because I love you. This is not easy for me." Discipline is not easy to take; it's not easy to mete out. But you as a mother know that, and Proverbs tells you if you don't know it, that if you love your children, you will discipline them. The scripture is saying here in Hebrews 12 that we have a loving Father who disciplines His children, and that discipline is an expression of His love. It says He disciplines everyone that He accepts as a son. If you skip down to verse 8, it says, "Everyone undergoes discipline, every child of God."

In fact, the fact that you do experience affliction and chastening and discipline is one evidence that you are a child of God. If you never experience discipline in your life, you better ask yourself, "Am I even a Christian?" Because the scripture says that everyone that God claims as His child, He disciplines. You don't discipline your neighbor's children; you discipline your own children. God disciplines His children. If we're one of His children, we will experience that discipline.

Now this passage goes on to talk to us about how we should respond in those times of discipline. He says in verse 7, "Endure hardship as discipline." It doesn't say here what is the cause for the hardship. It doesn't say the hardship was the result of your sin or it was the result of somebody else's sin. In a sense, it doesn't really matter. He says it's hardship and endure it, take it. Don't run from it, don't resent it, don't resist it, but endure. Endurance suggests that there's a long haul involved here. It suggests that there's a race that's not a sprint; it's cross-country.

I'm thinking about a little trek I took with a friend who asked me if I'd like to go hiking. We went over to a mountain here in the area and couldn't get up the easy route because there was something else going on and that part wasn't open, so we went around the backside of this mountain and did what I would not consider hiking; I would say it was rock climbing. About halfway up, we were panting and some of us probably wondering if we were going to live through this hardship. We kept looking up at what we hoped was the top and saying, "There looks like there's sky up there. It looks like there's a top somewhere," but in the process of getting from the bottom to the top, there was hardship and the need was to endure.

He tells us another way to respond. He says in verse 9, let me read beginning in verse 7: "Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined, and everyone undergoes discipline, then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live?"

What is the response he's saying? Not only endure it, but respect God for it and submit to Him if you want to get life through that discipline. Submit. This is what you're telling your children when you're disciplining them. Submit to the instruction, submit to the discipline, submit your will. When you discipline your children, if it's effective discipline, you're going to put it in place until you know that their will has been broken. God puts discipline into our lives until He knows that our will has been broken, that there's no more kick in the spirit, no more resistance, but that we are soft and pliable and tender in His hands.

Goes on to say in verse 10, "Our fathers, our physical fathers, disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness." He's talking here about God's goal, God's object. It's important to keep that in mind when you're going through the discipline: that there's a purpose to this. What is God's goal? This is for our good. This is for our blessing. This is for our benefit. And the purpose is that we may share in His holiness. One translation says that we may be partakers of His holiness.

God is committed to making you and me like Jesus. And that involves a process because we didn't start out that way. There's so much in my heart, so much in my attitude, so much in the way I deal with people, so much in the way I respond to life that is not like Christ. So what does God do? He sends hardship. That hardship can take many, many different forms. It can be the little things in life that just trip us up in the course of a day. It can be big monumental crises. But the goal is always that we will become partakers of God's holiness, that we will become like Jesus.

Now he goes on to say in verse 11, "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful." If it's not painful, it's not discipline. We wouldn't mind having God discipline us if it just didn't hurt. But the nature of discipline is that it's painful. It does hurt. It's not pleasant. No discipline is pleasant at the moment. Your children don't just walk up to you and say, "I think I'd like to be disciplined. Could you give me some hardship? Give me some more chores, give me a spanking." We don't ask for discipline; it's not pleasant.

But the scripture says it produces something that is pleasant, something that makes it worth all the hardship. He says, "Later on, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." Now the suggestion there is that it doesn't happen immediately. You don't just put seeds in the ground and all of a sudden up pops a harvest. He says for a time we have to go through this discipline, and later on it produces a harvest. You say, "How much time? How much later on?" I don't know, you don't know, but we know somebody who does know. God knows, and He's saying, "Hang on, hang in there, don't give up, don't get weary with this, be encouraged, and know that in your life there is being produced righteousness."

There is the certainty that if you endure, if you submit to the discipline, there will be a harvest of righteousness if we're willing to be trained by the discipline. Now the discipline doesn't always have its desired end. If we resent it, if we resist it, if we run from it, then we just get the discipline, but we don't get the harvest of righteousness. How much better to say, "Yes, Lord, I embrace this." Maybe it was your fault, maybe it wasn't your fault. Maybe somebody else got you in this trouble, maybe it was circumstances that you couldn't control. But still to have a teachable heart that says, "Lord, I want to come to know You and Your ways through this circumstance. I submit myself to this exercise. I'm willing to be trained by it." And then you have the promise that there will be a harvest of righteousness and peace.

You'll look back and you'll say, "Thank You, Lord. You knew some things I didn't know. You had a good end in mind. You had a purpose. You were committed to make me like Jesus, and thank You for all the choices that You made, as painful as they were, because now I can have a union and a communion and a fellowship with You that is richer and sweeter than I ever could have enjoyed without that discipline."

Are you undergoing some kind of discipline right now? I think we can all think back to times when we have, but I wonder if there's someone going through some kind of discipline right now. I know I am. The question is not, "Is it going to happen?" There is going to be hardship. The question is, "Will I endure? Will I submit my will to God? Will I embrace the hardship? Will I embrace His purposes, and will I let God teach me through the discipline?"

Will you let God teach you through the discipline, the hardship, the challenges, that person, that situation at work, that situation at church that seems so painful and you can't figure out, "What did I do to deserve this?" Maybe nothing. You don't really have to know the answer to that question. The question that you do know the answer to is that God has a purpose and a plan that is bigger than you. It's bigger than what you can see. He is fulfilling it. He is going to accomplish His purposes, and when you've been tried, you will come forth as gold. You will come forth as gold.

Father, I just want to stop and thank You for Your hand of discipline. I usually don't love the discipline, but I love You more today because of that discipline. I know that there are areas of my life that are more like You today because of Your discipline in my life. And I don't exactly relish the idea of having more discipline, but I do in a way because I know that that's an expression of Your love, it's an expression of relationship, of Your commitment to me. And Lord, I want in the midst of those times of discipline to endure, to submit my will, to be taught, to be humble, and to be conformed to Your image.

And I would pray right now for one of my sisters in this room or more who are going through a time of affliction or discipline. It may be because of their own wrong choices; it may be because of someone else's wrong choices. It may be just circumstances You have engineered because You want to conform and mold them to the image of Christ. Would You encourage their hearts? Would You strengthen them? Help them to look beyond the discipline to the harvest of righteousness and peace that You've promised for those who are trained by the discipline. I pray in Jesus' name, amen.

Dannah Gresh: Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth will be right back. I hope today's teaching from the book of Ruth is pointing you to Jesus in the middle of any difficult situation you might be facing. If you'd like to dive deeper, I want to remind you about our six-week study, Ruth: Experiencing a Life Restored. It's yours when you make a donation of any amount this month. To give and request a copy, visit reviveourhearts.com.

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When you wander from God's will, He brings about circumstances to bring you back. Nancy's about to show you how God drew Naomi back to Himself. She's in Ruth 1, verse 3.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: And we read that Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died. Now here she is in a foreign land where her husband has led her. We said last week that we don't know whether she was a part of making that decision or she just followed him out of obedience, but regardless, God is still King. God was still on His throne. She was now there in Moab. She was left with her two sons; she's left as a widow.

The two sons, verse 4, married Moabite women, one named Orpah and the other Ruth. After they had lived there about ten years—now keep in mind when they first went to Moab, we read this last week that they intended to stay there just for a little while. But as sin often does, it had taken them into a place where they ended up parked in a foreign country in Moab, out of the will of God for all these years, now for a decade. And after they had lived there about ten years, this widowed woman with her two sons and her two daughters-in-law, verse 5, both Mahlon and Chilion also died. And Naomi was left without her two sons and her husband.

Now the story is told kind of matter-of-factly there. We see that this was a situation where Naomi is really left destitute and lonely and in a desperately difficult and painful situation. Now I believe that in this case, these circumstances were evidence of God's hand in that family's life, trying to restore them from Moab where they had run and bring them back to the place where they belonged, Bethlehem and Judah.

Let me be quick to say that not every painful circumstance in our lives is the result of sin. Some will try and tell you that in the loss of a mate—some here have experienced that—in the loss of a parent, the loss of a child, that this is because you sinned against God. That's what Job's friends tried to tell him. The fact is, sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn't the result of our sin.

Death is always the result of sin in some sense because we live in a sinful world, but sometimes it is the direct consequence of our wrong choices, and sometimes we've been living a life of obedience and still walk through these difficult times. The wonderful thing about the ways of God is, in a sense, that it doesn't really matter. That there is still a God who's in control and is fulfilling His purposes and has purposes in your life regardless of how you got into that situation.

Now in this case, the family had left the will of God, I believe, had run from the famine and had gone to Moab. God immediately began creating circumstances to bring them back. These circumstances, as painful as they were, were an expression of God's love, of God's commitment to this family. Now you say that seems like a kind of strange way to show love, kind of a strange way to show your commitment. But God knew exactly what it would take to get this family back home.

And God knows in your life exactly what it will take to mold you and sanctify you and conform your life to the image of Christ. Sometimes the circumstances are a result of your sin; sometimes they're just a result of living in a fallen world where disease and death take their toll. But regardless, God is working and expressing His love. What comes to us when we have gone to that place of escape, the circumstances we end up in are designed by God to bring us back home, to cause us to repent of our wrong choices, and bringing us to the place where it seems far less attractive to stay in the far country, where home seems like the better place to be.

The temptation in those times is to see the circumstances as coming from the hand of an angry God, rather than seeing the love and the mercy of God in creating these circumstances in our lives. Now we're going to see that there were two things that brought Naomi back to Bethlehem. The first one we're going to look at today, the second one tomorrow. The first one was God's hand of discipline.

Naomi had to come to see, as we do, that the circumstances she was facing were not for punishment, but rather for training, for teaching. That's the purpose of discipline. So when we're in times of adversity and pressure and problems, the important question is not so much, "Why is this happening to me?" as "What is God wanting to teach me through this circumstance?"

And often what He wants to teach us is in relation to some area where we've gone astray and we need to be restored. We need our heart to be brought back home. We may have been blind to our need or blind to our failure, and God wants to open our eyes to teach us. Now in this case, Elimelech's death was not enough to bring Naomi back home. She continued to stay in Moab. Maybe she thought, "I'm so alone, I can't make that trip back." Maybe she thought, "I've made friends here, I just think I'll stay here." We don't know what she thought, but we do know that God knew exactly what it would take to get her back to her home country.

Now Naomi stayed in Moab long enough that her sons took wives among the Moabite women. It was not expressly forbidden by God for Jews to marry Moabites; they were forbidden to marry Canaanites. God had not said you can't marry Moabites, but God had cautioned the people, "If you marry outside your faith, you're likely to be taken captive by idolatry and pagan religions." So this was definitely a foolish choice on the part of those young men.

And let me just say, by the way, mothers, that when you take your children to live in the world's system, when you allow things into your home, when you take your family into worldly ways of thinking and living and practicing, don't be surprised when your children grow up to be attracted to the world. These sons were apparently comfortable enough in Moab that they decided to settle there and have wives. The foolishness of marrying outside your own faith—and moms, this is something you need to teach your daughters and your sons. The foolishness. How many have shipwrecked their own faith because of marrying a young man or young woman who doesn't have a heart for God?

In this case, the sons lost their lives. But even that, I want you to see as an act of God's mercy. What was God about? He was trying to get Naomi and her family back home, back to a place of obedience, and not just for their sakes, but you see God had a bigger plan, a bigger purpose that had to do with redemption. It had to do with the Messiah. It had to do with a family line of holiness and purity that God was wanting to create that would bring salvation to the world.

God has purposes that are bigger than my comfort and my convenience and my well-being. And I've got to be willing to let God accomplish those purposes, whatever the cost to my own life. When Naomi's sons died, she was left in a situation where she had no heir for her husband's name. The family line was stopped; it would not go on any longer. There was no way those names would be continued; there was no way their inheritance would be guaranteed. These were two things that were very important in Jewish culture: the family name and the family inheritance, the family lands. Now she had lost it all.

Someone has said that a good summary of this part of this story is that sin will take you further than you want to go, it will keep you longer than you want to stay, and it will cost you more than you want to pay. Sin will take you further than you want to go, it will keep you longer than you want to stay, and it will cost you more than you want to pay.

So in Naomi's life, we see that she experienced grief, she experienced loss. We see that choices have consequences. Sometimes it's our choices that bring those consequences, sometimes we're having to suffer the consequences of someone else's wrong choices. But regardless, God has purposes in those consequences. God's goal is to restore. His goal is to build a family line, a godly legacy, a godly heritage.

Naomi thought she'd lost it all, and it appeared that she had. And I wonder if you've found yourself in a position at one point or another in your life where it looked like through your own failures or through the failures of some member of your family that there was no more chance for you to have a godly family line. And you thought, "We just can't be a godly family." It looked like all hope was gone in Naomi's case.

But this is the story of how God takes a destroyed, ungodly family line with wrong choices, lots of failures, and redeems it so that it becomes a family line leading to Christ. There's that kind of hope for your family. And that means you've got to be willing to embrace the circumstances that God uses to restore you. They may be painful, they may bring tears, they may involve even at times something as severe as death. But remember that it's always an expression of the love of God. That those circumstances in our lives are actually expressions of His mercy.

That they're intended for our instruction. That doesn't mean that it's God's fault that when choices are made and we live in a sinful world and consequences come into this world that God has ordained sin. But it does mean that when we do sin and when other people sin, that God ordains circumstances whereby good will come out of those negative consequences.

I'd just like to know how many of you can look at your life, either currently or in the past, and you can see some circumstances that were painful, that were difficult, that brought tears to your eyes, but you can see that God had a purpose and there was something He was wanting to teach you through those circumstances and you believe that you've learned something through those circumstances that you might not have learned any other way. Can I just see your hands?

Now, knowing that, doesn't that give us cause to want to bless the Lord and surrender our hearts to Him and trust Him even in the midst of whatever we may be going through at this juncture of life? Or whatever we may go through tomorrow that we have no idea we're going to face? You see, we have a God who can be trusted because He's a God who uses even the evil circumstances of life to teach, to train, to discipline, and to fit us to be useful instruments for His purposes.

So Father, we say thank You. Thank You when we can understand and thank You when sometimes we can't understand. Thank You that You are a God who is always teaching and training, sanctifying, and that You use even the disastrous circumstances of life to woo our hearts back to a place of greater obedience and faithfulness and surrender. Thank You, Lord, for the things You have used in my life to bring me back from my Moabs and to show me that I was running and to bring me to a place of repentance. I didn't like those circumstances at the time, but now I bless You because I've learned things about Your heart and Your ways that I might not have known any other way. So Lord, we say thank You and we trust You, in Jesus' name, amen.

Dannah Gresh: Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth has been showing us the redemptive heart of God. When we wander from the truth, He is so gracious to bring us back. Nancy has taught and written on the process of repentance, and you can find resources on that topic at reviveourhearts.com. Search for the transcript of today's program; we'll have some links for you there.

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Tomorrow's program is an invitation for the woman who's wondering to come back home. Nancy's continuing in the book of Ruth. I hope you'll join us. This program is a listener-supported production of Revive Our Hearts in Niles, Michigan, calling women to freedom, fullness, and fruitfulness in Christ.