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Bonnie Sala: Sometimes someone else's good news hurts, and we don't really like what that reveals about us. I'm Bonnie Sala with Reset. Researchers studying Olympic medalists found something surprising. Bronze medalists often appeared happier than silver medalists. Why? Bronze medalists tended to think, I almost went home with nothing. Silver medalists looked at the person wearing gold and thought, I almost won." Comparison made an extraordinary achievement feel like a loss. A king in the Bible named Saul knew that feeling. After a young hero named David defeated the nation's enemy, people celebrated in the streets.

They sang that Saul had killed thousands, but David tens of thousands. Saul became furious and kept a jealous eye on David. Comparison turns someone else's good fortune into evidence that there isn't enough for us. Envy isn't pleasant to admit, but pay attention to what it's revealing. Maybe someone else's success exposes how badly you want to feel important. Their recognition exposes how deeply you want to be noticed. We can find ourselves measuring God's goodness by what he's given someone else. Yes, envy can point toward places in us that need God's attention. If left to grow, envy is destructive.

The Bible says, where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. Saul let jealousy grow until David became an enemy, but we can choose another path. When someone else's life stirs in you, bring the truth to God. You don't have to pretend disappointment doesn't hurt, but you don't have to turn another person's blessing into your loss. Their story isn't evidence that God has forgotten yours. I'm Bonnie Sala. Ready to grow your faith? Discover practical tools and more at guidelines.org.