Can God Be Grieved?
Dr. Craig responds to a discussion with John Piper on what it means for God to be 'grieved,' and whether God's will is always accomplished.
Kevin McClure: John Piper started an interesting topic at a recent panel discussion, Bill. The panel was held at the 2026 Serious Joy Pastors Conference in Minneapolis. It was hosted by Bethlehem College and Theological Seminary. We're going to look at some of the segments of the video and get your response. Let's go to the first clip here. Here's what Piper asked theologian Kevin DeYoung.
John Piper: Complete the sentence: quenching the Holy Spirit, grieving the Holy Spirit means. I want to know what it means for the Spirit, not for me. That's easy. So I'd like to hear Mr. Aseity and impassibility explain to me how the Spirit can be grieved. It's not an easy question, and I like those words. I mean, I get it. We're talking about God. God. You're going to grieve God? What in the world does that mean?
Kevin McClure: Well, he's referring to Paul's statements in Ephesians 4:30 and 1 Thessalonians 5:19, for example: "Do not grieve or quench the Spirit." But first, he good-naturedly called DeYoung Mr. Aseity and Mr. Impassibility. So let's take one thing at a time. Do a little refresher here. Refresh God's attribute of aseity, Bill, then we'll get to impassibility a little later in the podcast.
William Lane Craig: All right. God's aseity comes from the Latin *a se*, which means "by itself." And what it connotes is God's self-existence. That is to say, God does not depend upon anything else for his existence. He is the sole, ultimate reality who depends upon nothing, and all other reality depends upon God for its existence and is therefore contingent.
Kevin McClure: I think you can see what's coming, Bill, just from this first clip. The issue may be to what extent the scriptures use anthropomorphic language—that is, giving God human characteristics that he may not actually have, at least in the way a finite, limited human like us would have them.
That's a sneak preview though. That's coming up. But before Kevin DeYoung answers, I'd like to hear your thoughts on grieving and quenching God the Holy Spirit, Bill.
William Lane Craig: It seems to me that what Paul means basically is resisting the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is attempting to draw us to God, to sanctify us, to conform us to the image of Christ. The person who resists the Holy Spirit is said to grieve or quench the Spirit of God. It seems to me that that is quite a literal notion. I don't see any difficulty in thinking that we have the ability to resist the Holy Spirit.
Kevin McClure: I think our listeners understand that John Piper is being facetious a little bit here. He's not mocking the scriptures, but he's just trying to communicate the potential difficulty of the topic. He continues with the question in this next clip.
John Piper: You're going to quench God? You're going to stop God from doing what God wants to do? All the language we've been using here is we're stopping him. He's coming with fire and we're putting it out. Who do you think you are? You can't put out the fire of God. All the purposes of God will be established.
So that's the question for me. It is a much more difficult question than what do I do to do it, but rather, what's it like for him?
Kevin McClure: My first impression was that Piper's Calvinism is showing a little bit here, Bill. I think that Molinism comes in strong at this point. For example, Paul talks about his plans being hindered by Satan in 1 Thessalonians 2:18, and then we have the instance of the Prince of Persia intercepting God's messenger in Daniel 10, which seems on the surface that God's plans were at least interrupted.
I anticipate that you would agree with Piper that ultimately God's will prevails, but is there a Molinistic way of speculating how God might deal with obstacles as they occur in the course of his will?
William Lane Craig: I agree with you, Kevin, that Piper's difficulties here are self-generated. They are the result of his Calvinism, which thinks of God's grace as irresistible and all-determining, and we do not have libertarian freedom to resist God. The reason that I think that is an unbiblical view is because the New Testament says that God wants everyone to be saved. 1 Timothy 2:4 says God our Savior desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. That desire is obviously thwarted. Not everyone is saved and comes to the knowledge of the truth. Some people are separated from God forever. So that desire of God is obviously thwarted.
On Molinism, God works with the free agents' decisions in order to bring about his will. But ultimately God does not impose his will unilaterally upon human agents. He has to work with them to bring about his desires. In some cases, his absolute intentions, like universal salvation, are thwarted by human beings.
Kevin McClure: He is asking Kevin DeYoung to give an answer to this, and he does answer. Let's see if you agree with what he says. Here is the next clip.
Kevin DeYoung: I have a good answer that John won't like, because impassibility is really important in understanding how to describe. God is never rendered passive, and in particular that God as God does not suffer and that God does not experience emotion as we experience emotion. We know that we do not want to reduce the Bible and be afraid of the Bible's affective language relative to God. It's all over the place.
We have to understand how do we interpret that language. The Westminster Confession does have a helpful phrase that God is not consist of parts or passions. The language of "he doesn't have parts" is the attribute of his simplicity. God is not a composition of many parts. You do not get justice and mercy and love and you get all of these attributes and you duct tape them together and there's God. If you take one of those, you no longer have God. God is everything that he has. Every attribute he has, he has to the fullest.
Kevin McClure: We better stop right there and discuss divine simplicity before we get to what is meant by passions, Bill, and impassibility. Your view on divine simplicity is prominent in your writings and in these podcasts.
William Lane Craig: I'm afraid that Kevin DeYoung gives a very poor explanation of this alleged attribute. You see, everybody agrees that God is not a composition made up of parts. Moreover, everybody agrees that God has his attributes to the maximal degree possible. That's not sufficient for a robust doctrine of divine simplicity. It's uncontroversial that God cannot lose any of his essential attributes. Really, what DeYoung has said fails to express what the doctrine of divine simplicity states in its strongest form.
I think he comes closer when he says that God is his properties. But notice that the real issue then here is not composition but whether there is complexity in God. Whether God is a complex being who is not only, for example, omnipotent but also omniscient and morally perfect and eternal and omnipresent and so forth, which seem to be clearly distinct and different properties. That's not composition. That's complexity.
Kevin McClure: When we first hear that God has no passions, our reaction might be, "Well, of course he does." But we need to explore that. Here is what DeYoung says it means.
Kevin DeYoung: You cannot rank the attributes as some being essential, some being relative. He doesn't have parts and he doesn't have passions. Not passion in a "passion for the supremacy of God." We use that word in a different way. In a 17th-century long tradition in Western theology and philosophy, passions are understood to be that which is passive. Passions come over you.
Affections are different. There's a reason that Jonathan Edwards' famous book is *Religious Affections*, not even *Religious Emotion*, some would argue. The word emotion as an English word didn't exist until later the 18th or the beginning of the 19th century. An affection is a motion of the will. It's different than Edwards saying you must have these emotions. Related but different. So God does not have passions, meaning things do not just happen to God. So all of that is some theological ballast.
Kevin McClure: Passions and affections, Bill. Sort that out for us. Let's hear your thoughts.
William Lane Craig: To say that God has passions simply means that God can be affected by us and the things that we do. To say that he has passions is not to say that he's passive in the sense of being inactive, but it just means that he is able to be affected by what we do. The classic doctrine of divine simplicity and impassibility denies that God has passions in that sense. He is utterly unaffected by anything that we do, which is, I think, a deeply unbiblical idea.
The classic doctrine of divine simplicity and impassibility, in order to defend God's not having passions, has to state that God does not stand in any real relations with anything else. He does not really love us or know us or will certain things. Rather, the only relation that is real is on the other side. We are loved, we are known, we are willed. But on God's side, he does not love us, he does not know us, he does not will us because God is utterly unrelated to things outside himself, lest you introduce passions into God.
DeYoung's definition of affections is very strange. He says it's just a motion of the will. That makes God like a machine and not like a person who is genuinely moved by compassion or anger or joy.
Kevin McClure: Let's continue that and get into anthropomorphisms some more. In this next clip, here again is Kevin DeYoung.
Kevin DeYoung: The answer, which I think John may find slightly unsatisfactory, is that just as there are anthropomorphisms in scripture, which we understand instinctively—God's right arm, God's fiery eyes, burnished bronze—we understand these depictions of God and his majesty. We don't think he actually has hair white as wool and eyes of fire. We understand these are anthropomorphisms. They are describing God in ways that humans can understand with human bodies.
So anthropopathisms are describing God with human emotions in ways that we can understand. A condescension and accommodation of his language, analogous language.
Kevin McClure: Big topic here, Bill. To what extent does God have these human-like characteristics, and to what extent is it mere analogy? It seems to me that, like you said earlier, God could have some kind of emotional component. We see in the Bible his anger, his patience, his love, his zealousness, and so forth. He desires to gather Jerusalem in his wings. But if you would, go ahead and comment on that clip.
William Lane Craig: I agree with you, Kevin. I see no reason at all to think that every ascription of emotions to God is a case of anthropopathisms. Why would DeYoung adopt a view like that? It's certainly not a biblical view. DeYoung's God is a cold, unfeeling, unmoved being that is not at all like the God of the Bible.
Kevin McClure: We're going to continue with DeYoung's answer, and again I want to get your evaluation of what he says, Bill. Here's the next clip.
Kevin DeYoung: I would say grieving the Holy Spirit, obviously biblical language, I used it yesterday, we should not be afraid to use it, but we should help our people lest we think that we are preventively forcing or preventing God from doing what God in his decree has not decreed to do.
William Lane Craig: I think that what he's talking about, Kevin, frankly, is the Calvinistic doctrine that everything is unilaterally predestined by God and that therefore we cannot prevent God's will from being done. God unilaterally determines everything that happens. I think that this kind of unilateral divine causal determinism is really destructive of human freedom and significance.
Kevin McClure: Let's continue with DeYoung's thoughts. He goes to 1 Samuel 15 in this next clip. Here it is.
Kevin DeYoung: The quenching and the grieving is a human way, inspired by the Spirit, to describe. What's a rationale for thinking this way? 1 Samuel 15 is a great text. Saul should not be made king, and it says that the Lord repented. He repented of making him king. But it says at the end of that that God is not a man that he should repent or change his mind. You can't go to the Hebrew and find your deliverance and say it's a different Hebrew word. It is the same word.
So we have to say that there's some way in which God repents, namely from our vantage point as we see time unfold. He did something, now he is undoing that thing. 1 Samuel 15 tells us we must absolutely say there's a way that God cannot repent. So in the same way, I would say we speak of him grieving and let's safeguard that he does not grieve as we grieve, does not experience emotion as we experience emotion. These are anthropopathisms.
Kevin McClure: He completes his answer by admonishing us to strike a balance with what 1 Samuel 15 teaches. God repents from making Saul the king, but God's regret or repentance may differ from the way we humans experience that. How in the world do we work that out, Bill?
William Lane Craig: I discuss these passages in my book, *The Only Wise God*. What I show is that when scripture speaks of God's repenting, what it means is that God was pained by what had happened. That is incompatible with divine impassibility. It means that God is affected by what we do, and these passages, I think, are proof positive of that.
I agree that God does not repent in the sense that he failed to foresee the future and so had regretted what he had done. He knew the future, but nevertheless he is pained by human sin and disobedience.
Kevin McClure: Two more clips to look at, and these are from Pastor Piper. Here's the first one.
John Piper: I think the most important thing about impassibility is you do never want to say that God is taken over by anything. That's the value of that doctrine in my mind. I think that 1 Samuel 15 text is exactly the right place to go. We can put the word grief in there as well as repent. God is grieved; he is not grieved as a man. God is not a man that he should be grieved as Piper is grieved. That's exactly the right thing to say.
Then I think it is helpful to try to say how he is grieved. I don't find it helpful to stop with anthropomorphisms, to just put that name on it and then not leave it corresponding to some reality that is totally ineffable. That's not helpful.
Kevin McClure: If I'm hearing him right, Bill, he's not convinced that descriptions like God's grieving are totally anthropomorphic, but that they in fact may have some kind of referent in God's character that we need to contemplate.
William Lane Craig: Yes, that does seem to be what he's saying, Kevin. But notice then what a weak understanding of impassibility he has. For him, it just means that God is not overtaken by anything. But that's perfectly consistent with God's having emotions, loving us, being hurt by our sin and intransigence, being wrathful when people are victimized. Piper is expounding a doctrine of impassibility which is so weak that it's perfectly consistent with God's having emotions and being grieved.
Kevin McClure: Here is the final clip. John Piper concludes.
John Piper: God disapproves of what Saul has become. He does not like it. He's not obedient. He knew that was going to happen. To say that he regrets making Saul king does not mean it snuck up on me and I didn't know it was going to happen, and I'm looking back with remorse as though I didn't know it was going to happen.
If you can now say the disapproval was there already, and it was, God disapproves of what he's planning. If you can handle that theologically, I think you can talk about some element of regret or grief in God that doesn't have any of the defects of human grief.
Kevin McClure: Piper calls for theology that allows for God to disapprove of what he's planning. So my mind is whirling with Calvinism, Molinism, and Arminianism, Bill. What's our theology to be that he's calling for?
William Lane Craig: I think what Piper says here is very close to what I said a moment ago—that God has a will that takes into account what human beings will do, even if he disapproves of what they'll do. The problem is that is not compatible with Calvinism. That's Molinism or Arminianism.
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William Lane Craig is Emeritus Research Professor of Philosophy at Talbot School of Theology in La Mirada, California. He and his wife Jan have two grown children. At the age of sixteen as a junior in high school, he first heard the message of the Christian gospel and yielded his life to Christ. Dr. Craig pursued his undergraduate studies at Wheaton College (B.A. 1971) and graduate studies at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School (M.A. 1974; M.A. 1975), the University of Birmingham (England) (Ph.D. 1977), and the University of Munich (Germany) (D.Theol. 1984). From 1980-86 he taught Philosophy of Religion at Trinity, during which time he and Jan started their family. In 1987 they moved to Brussels, Belgium, where Dr. Craig pursued research at the University of Louvain until assuming his position at Talbot in 1994.
He has authored or edited over thirty books, including The Kalam Cosmological Argument; Assessing the New Testament Evidence for the Historicity of the Resurrection of Jesus; Divine Foreknowledge and Human Freedom; Theism, Atheism and Big Bang Cosmology; and God, Time and Eternity, as well as over a hundred articles in professional journals of philosophy and theology, including The Journal of Philosophy, New Testament Studies, Journal for the Study of the New Testament, American Philosophical Quarterly, Philosophical Studies, Philosophy, and British Journal for Philosophy of Science. In 2016 Dr. Craig was named by The Best Schools as one of the fifty most influential living philosophers.