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Stop Looking to Your Spouse

August 20, 2026
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Okay go back to our ten year anniversary...

Dave Wilson: Okay, go back to our 10-year anniversary. We're sitting in the Honda Accord and we're thinking our marriage is over. You've just said, "I've lost my feelings for you." What would you say to that couple today?

Guest (Male): This is Real FamilyLife with Dave and Ann Wilson.

Ann Wilson: We got on our knees to pray and to repent. "God, we can't do it apart from you, and we've been trying."

I would say to that couple, being on your knees is the best place you can be. You're going to have to be on your knees over and over and over again because marriage has its ups and its downs. We can't do anything apart from Jesus and the gospel.

Dave Wilson: I would add, as we've learned over now 40 years of marriage, it's all about Jesus. Keep your eyes on Jesus, not your spouse. She or he is not going to fulfill you. Jesus is, and that can save your marriage.

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About Real FamilyLife®

Real FamilyLife® is conversational in nature and provides practical, biblical tools to address the issues affecting your family. You'll receive motivation, encouragement, and help.


About Dave and Ann Wilson

Dave and Ann Wilson are co-hosts of FamilyLife Today©, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program.

Dave and Ann have been married for more than 40 years and have spent the last 35 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® since 1993, and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country.

Dave and Ann helped plant Kensington Community Church in Detroit, Michigan where they served together in ministry for more than three decades, wrapping up their time at Kensington in 2020.

The Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released books Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019) and No Perfect Parents (Zondervan, 2021).

Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame Quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as Chaplain for thirty-three years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active with Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small group leader, and mentor to countless women.

The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

Contact Real FamilyLife® with Dave and Ann Wilson

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Orlando FL 32832
 
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