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Guest (Female): You're listening to the Gospel in Life podcast. What kind of relationship does God actually want to have with us? The Bible uses many images to describe how God relates to us—as a father, a friend, a spouse, and a king. Today Tim Keller takes a closer look at one of these dimensions of God and how it helps us see the depths of his grace and love more clearly.

Tim Keller: Let me read you Psalm 103, just the middle part really, the introduction, which is verses 1-2, and that middle section, 8-18.

"Praise the Lord, O my soul; and all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits. The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust. As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more. But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children's children—with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts."

This is God's word. Back in March, we looked at this passage, we looked at the whole Psalm, but we looked at the beginning of it, and it just killed me not to be able to get to the meat of it. Today we are. Last week we laid down a thesis, and that thesis is going to serve us for a series of studies on the nature of God, who God is.

The thesis goes like this. In action movies, especially with the kind of movies we see in the summer, all the players are cartoon characters. They are one-dimensional. They're either heroes or villains, or they're stereotypes of some kind. They're not nuanced. They're simple and they're one-dimensional. As a result, there's no personal engagement with them. We're not supposed to have personal engagement with them, so when they're blown away, we just applaud at the special effects. It doesn't bother us.

Most people still, even in Western society, most people still believe in God. But the God they believe in is a cartoon God. He is a one-dimensional God. All kinds of varieties—they might believe in God as a great force of energy, or they might believe in a God who is a benevolent grandfather, or a God who is a stern judge, or a wonderful loving friend, or a God who is the unmoved mover, the cause of all that is, and so on.

But in almost every case, people's views of God are flat. They choose from the many metaphors—that's my God—and after all, this is a culture of choice. But when you do that, when you choose the metaphor—and there are so many metaphors that come out of the Bible for God—you choose the one. If you choose one or two over another one or two, you come up with a one-dimensional God, a cartoon God, and as a result, there is no personal engagement.

What the Bible teaches us is that God, because he's a real God, is complex. He's a father and he's a friend and he's a king and he's a judge and he's all these various things. If you choose one or a couple in favor of another, if you refuse to hold them together as he reveals himself to be in the Bible, there'll be no personal engagement. And that is not the biblical God.

The biblical God is a complex God. The biblical God is a father and a friend and a lover and a king. Frankly, that's how you become a Christian: the day the penny drops that he's all these things. He's a real God. That's also how you grow as a Christian, because it's always one of these kinds of love or some of these kinds of love that aren't vivid to us that has to be rekindled in our life, our heart, our mind. It's always one of these kinds of love that is what will heal you or get you unstuck.

Therefore, we're looking for these four weeks at these various sorts of love, these various images of God, each one of which is absolutely critical. You can't just choose one over the other. What makes you a Christian, what helps you grow as a Christian, is to be able to hold them together, to understand them, receive them, and respond to them appropriately.

Today what we're looking at is the fact that God in the Bible is a father. God's love, among other things—he's other things, but we're going to look at this today—is father love. Let's just ask two questions of this text, a classic text on what that means. Let's ask first the question: what does it mean that God's a father? And then secondly: how should we respond?

First, what does it mean? Obviously, all these metaphors go like this: what we're being told in the Bible is if you reflect on the very best possible kings, the very best possible lovers, the very best possible friends, and the very best possible parents, you will learn something critical, something absolutely crucial, something irreplaceable about God that you have to take into consideration if you're going to relate to him.

So what does it mean that God's a father? Let's look at three things that are in the text. It means absolute safety, compassionate anger, and ultimate home.

First of all, absolute safety. Verse 13 and 14: "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. For he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust." Absolute safety. Notice first of all the deep emotion of God for us. There's almost no way to get this across right. The New International Version, which we have printed for you, a modern translation of the Bible, translates this particular word "compassion." The old King James Bible says "pity." As the father pities, both those words don't work very well.

The Hebrew experts will tell you that the word that's being used here of God is a surprisingly remarkable, unbelievably deep emotional word. By the way, it means to be viscerally, overwhelmingly in love with something. Viscerally, overwhelmingly. And it tends to be usually used for mothers, with regard to mothers. There are two particularly memorable places where the word's used.

One is in Isaiah 49:15, where it's talking about a nursing mother, and God speaks to his people and says, "Can a woman forget the baby nursing at her breast? Can she fail to have compassion on the child that's sucking at her breast? Yes, she may forget, but I will not forget you." What's going on here? First of all, the word compassion, as I said, it's hard to really get across, but I'm beginning to. It's talking about an incredibly visceral love. There's a kind of love, there's a kind of compassion, it's overwhelming, it's visceral, and here God has the audacity to identify this word, rightly actually, with this word, which has to do with the biologically rooted, overwhelming love that a mother has for an infant as her milk's coming in.

There's another place where this very same word is used with regard to mother love. It's very vivid. It's in 1 Kings 3:26, and it's a very famous story about a woman whose infant baby boy dies at night, and in her despair and in her anger, she goes and finds another mother who's asleep with her infant baby boy and steals the child while the mother's sleeping.

The next day the true mother, the mother of the child, realizes what has happened and drags the mother who has stolen the child to the King Solomon, and King Solomon hears the dispute. After listening to the dispute and how in the world is he going to know who's telling the truth, he finally says, "I've got an idea. Let's do this: cut the child in half and give one to her and one half to her."

We're told in 1 Kings 3:26 that the true mother, we're told, was moved with compassion, was viscerally moved and said, "I'm the liar. She's the mother. Give her the child." To say to the king, "I have lied before you, I have committed perjuries," practically possibly a capital offense. What it meant was, here's the mother love. Here's the love that comes in when the milk comes in. Here's this unbelievably overwhelming emotional visceral love. She realizes what was going to happen and is willing to sacrifice her life and give her child to the liar, to the thief, to save the child.

God has the audacity to say that's the kind of love I feel for you, for my children. By the way, this is a small tangent, it's worth saying. The reason why there's always people say, "Why does the Bible so often talk about God as Father? Does that mean God is a male deity in the Bible?" This kind of mixing and matching shows that no. The Bible is not saying that fathers are in the image of God but mothers are not. This is showing us that both father love and mother love, all parent love, is rooted in the heart and in the image of God himself.

The point here is, first, God is using an unbelievably emotional word and says I feel that love for you. But now look, we're not quite done with this. Look at verse 14. Why does he love us like this? Why? Verse 14: "For," which means because. Verse 13 is this incredible emotional involvement with us. Verse 14 tells us why, and it says he knows we are dust.

At first sight, if I asked you, why does God love us? Why does God love his children? Right away you'd say, "Well, it's because we fear him." God loves those who fear him. But if you look carefully, Hebrew always loves parallelism. Notice fearing him and being children are the same thing. In verse 13, it says, "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him for..."

Those who fear him—and we're going to get back to this near the end—to live in fear, which means awe and wonder, and to be children is the same thing. So he's not saying he loves you because. No. The word "because" is there. The word "for" is there. Why? Because you're a wreck. Because you're flawed. Dust is a metaphor for falling apart. Dust is a metaphor for being broken. Dust is a metaphor really for being almost falling apart, broken, flawed, sinful.

Here's something weird. We know from what the Bible says and you know from common sense that when you're good, when you're right, when you're doing what God wants you to do, he loves you more. And yet we're also told that when you're doing bad, when his children are doing poorly, when his children are falling apart, he loves you more. Does this sound like a non sequitur to you? God is emotionally, deeply involved with his children because they're such idiots, because they're so stupid, because they're such dust. Is that a non sequitur to you?

Listen, you don't understand parents. One of the things that's so interesting, and this is the point here: God is emotionally involved and doesn't matter what his children do. Whatever you do, good or bad, it just—he just loves and loves you. You are absolutely and completely safe in his indissoluble emotional commitment.

The reason we have to bring this out under father and not under friend, lover, and king, think for a minute. Friends can be patient, but at a certain point, if your friend continues and continues to divulge your secrets, continues and continues to divulge your confidences, you just can't keep doing the friend thing. Right? At a certain point, you've got to stop doing the friend thing if your friend acts like that.

Or love. You can reach out to hug and kiss and your lover can push you away, and you're having a bad day, all right. But over and over and over and over and over and over again, if your hugs and your kisses are again and again and again spurned, you're going to stop doing the lover thing. At a certain point, the friend has to stop doing the friend thing if the other person is not being a friend. And the lover has to stop doing the lover thing if the other person is not being a lover. And even kings, at a certain point, if their citizens are trampling on their laws, you can't be in a good relationship here.

But even us below-average parents—and there's many, many of us, at least 49%—even us below-average parents know something. When you have three or four or five children and one of them is the most stupid, and one is being the worst son or daughter, and one is being the most messed up, if anything, you feel more parent love. Your heart goes out more to them.

Parents know that almost as soon as they're born, your heart locks on and you realize that no matter how this child acts for the rest of his or her life, you're never going to be happy unless they're happy. God has the audacity to say the reason for that is because parents, even you bad parents, even you below-average parents, are made in my image. That's how I am. I'm Father. You are absolutely safe in my love. That's the first thing. His children are absolutely safe in his love.

That's what you need. You need family love. You need counter-conditional love. You need love no matter who you are, no matter what you do. In fact, you need love just because you're a child, not because of anything you're giving to the father or mother, just because you're the child. We all need love like that, and God says it's with me. That's where it is. That's where the thing that you most need in the world is. You need that absolute safety. You're not going to get it from anybody else. You're not only not going to get it from friends and lovers and kings by definition, you're not even going to be able to get it from fathers and mothers here on earth because they are broken to some degree. They're dust too. But I'm not. Absolute safety.

Number one. The second thing it means: compassionate anger. This is the next thing we need. Verses 8 to 10: "The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever. He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities."

What do we see here? On the one hand, we see a God, a father, who's talking about here whose anger is not a payback anger. It says right off the bat in verse 10 the anger is not paying us for our sins. The anger is not tit-for-tat anger. The anger is not requiting us for our sins. The anger is not retributive.

By the way, if—and this happens all the time and because I'm a below-average parent, it happened a lot to me—if when your children inconvenience you or humiliate you or cause you pain in some ways, a very natural thing is to let the child experience payback anger. In payback anger, you're trying to frighten the child, you're trying to scare the child, you're trying to maybe emotionally beat up the child, and what you're doing is you're trying to basically pay the child back. It's payback anger. You humiliated me, I'm going to humiliate you. You hurt my feelings, I'm going to hurt your feelings. You created unpleasantness for me, I'm going to create incredible unpleasantness for you.

I want you to know that payback anger in a family never works. It always poisons. Payback anger is not like the anger that passes over us. It's not like the rain that passes over us and leaves everything lush and green for it. It's more like the rain that parks over us and just swamps and floods and destroys everything. The reason why payback anger never works, ever works in a family, is because our families are just images of God. Our parenthood is just an image of God's parenthood, and God never, to his children, gives payback anger.

But on the other hand, this is a God who gets angry. One of the things that struck me—I'm trying to meditate on this in order to bring it to you and to teach it to you—I suddenly realized one of the implications of verse 9. It says he will not harbor his anger forever. Okay. But what does that mean? It means he will harbor anger. He won't harbor it forever, but that means God harbors anger. This is not a humanistic God. This is not a God who never gets angry. This is a God who gets angry but who does not give us payback anger.

What are we talking about here? Verse 8: this is compassion-driven anger. It's slow. It's utterly under his control. The compassion is permanent, see verse 8 and 9. The compassion is permanent, and the anger is temporary. Why? Because compassion is driving the anger. It's deliberate. It's intentional. It's purposeful.

What are we talking about? Just this: there's two kinds of parents that will destroy your life, two kinds of parents that'll make you feel like orphans because you are. One is the completely permissive kind of parent, so detached that he or she just never gets angry, never lays down standards, never engages, never confronts. Detached, permissive, do what you want. We call that neglecting parents.

And then on the other hand, you have abusive parents: payback anger, lots of anger, lots of confrontation. I want you to know that either a neglecting parent or an abusive parent destroys that child. Either a neglectful parent or a payback parent makes the child say, "I don't know who I am. I don't know if I'm loved." And that's because payback anger or no anger means the child's not loved.

If you love, you get angry. My favorite quote on this: "The more a father loves his son, the more he hates in his son the drunk, the liar, and the traitor." If God were not angry over how we are destroying ourselves, he wouldn't be good and he certainly wouldn't be loving. For anger isn't the opposite of love, hate is. And the ultimate form of hate is indifference.

On the one hand, if you don't have a parent that gets angry at you, you're not loved. If on the other hand you have a parent who is ever paying you back, you're not loved. Either way, you're going to feel like an orphan. Either way, you're not going to know who you are. And here's what's interesting. What kind of anger we talking about? Anger that looks at your flaws, anger that looks at your dustiness, anger that looks at what's wrong with you, and very deliberately and very purposefully is concerned, is upset. The anger is emotional, and yet it's under control because it's unselfish and says, "I'm going to bring into your life a disciplinary action. You can't go to the party. You can't do this. You can't do that." Bringing pain into your life but only so that it'll wake you up, so it'll change you, so you can avoid the destructive pain that will surely come into your life later on if I don't do this now.

You and I need compassionate anger desperately. We need someone emotionally involved enough with us to get angry, but unselfishly so, with no axe to grind, with no desire to wreak vengeance or retribution on you. We need that more than anything, and God says I got it. The thing that you need, that you look for, which you get only partially elsewhere, I got it. I'm Father. I'm the Father.

And lastly, it means ultimate home. For God to say I'm Father, I'm the Father, is to say in me and in me alone is absolute safety. Secondly, in me and in me alone you have the wise guide, the compassionate anger, in a context of absolute safety, unconditional love that you need. But then thirdly, I am ultimate home.

Why? Let's look at the third place, verse 15: "As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more." Why does that last line get me? Why does that last line get you? Or at least it will as I let you think about it for a minute. "Its place remembers it no more." The place you grew up. The place you grew up remembers you no more. There is nothing worse, no worse nightmare, than that place in *It's a Wonderful Life*, the Frank Capra film where Jimmy Stewart, remember George Bailey? He's sent back to Bedford Falls, New York, and his place remembers him no more. He's sent back, and it's as if he'd never been born.

He goes to see his mother; mother has no idea who are you, get out before I call the police. He goes to see his brother; well, his brother's dead because George wasn't around to save him. He goes to see his wife, his wife Mary doesn't know who he is. Goes to his house, his house, his home. Now what is home? Home is the place, every other place you fit in, but home is the place that fits you. Home is the place where the chair's where you want it, where the colors, the architecture, the furniture, everything is where it ought to be. The smells, the fire, the chair by the window. Ultimate home fits you.

Ultimate home is everything you want, and he goes to his ultimate home, the perfect home, and it's a ruin. And it's a nightmare, and he says it's a nightmare. Of course it's a nightmare. He goes back to the place where he grew up, and its place remembers him no more. He's a man without a place. He's a man without a home. What a nightmare.

Why is it that foreign-born Americans spend $10 billion a year going back to where they're from to see it? Why is it that so many of you always sit in the same spot every week? Why is it that adopted children, many of them feel this unbelievable need to find their birth parent? Why do so many of us want to go and find we can't really enjoy going back to the place we grew up and seeing all the changes? Why is that so awful? Why is it so terrible to realize your place remembers you no more? Why is it so terrible not to have a place, not to be from anywhere?

There was a theme, a whole lot of articles on the "New Mobility," the fact that nobody lives where they're from anymore. Everybody has to migrate around to do business, everybody's got to travel. And one place where Eva Hoffman wrote a really incredibly great article, she says at one point we feel people today feel tended to feel ejected from our first homes and landscapes, from our first romance, from our authentic self. An ideal sense of belonging, of tuning in with others, eludes us. I wonder if in this world of easy come, easy go, sliding so easily among different places and meanings without alighting on any of them for very long, if we don't risk being overwhelmed by what Milan Kundera calls the "unbearable lightness of being." It's the illness that comes to unanchored people. Those who travel perpetually to new moments and sensations and to whom no internal feeling is more important than another.

Why do we need home? Why do we need a place? I don't know, we do. It's incredibly important. We need to know there's a place where our chair is where we want it, right by the fire, right by the window looking over the water or something like that. And it's another reason why some people are working so unbelievably hard materially to make enough money so they can buy that ideal place because the place they were from is no more, or they don't even remember it, and they're going to find a place, they're going to make a place.

Why is place so important? I don't know, but the one thing we do know is this is the human condition. That's what Eva Hoffman is trying to say. Over and over and over again we go back and we find our place remembers us no more. No matter how hard we try, houses crumble, we can't make the mortgage, people break up, people get divorced, children won't speak to you. That beautiful field you always remembered has a shopping mall in it now.

What is this getting at? What it's getting at is we all need a place, we all need a sense of home, and until you realize what your heart is really after, you're going to spend all of your life chasing will-o'-the-wisps. You're going to spend all of your life working too hard. You're going to spend all of your life searching for something, and where can you find it? Where's the only place you can find it? Take a look at the contrast. It's amazing. "Its place," verse 16, "remembers it no more," but verse 17. What's the replacement for that? "From everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear him."

The Lord's love is the home. The Lord's love is the place. The Lord's love is the only place that when you go there, they have to take you in. The Lord's love is the only place where the fire never goes out in the fireplace. The Lord's love. Jesus Christ says to his disciples, "I go to prepare a place for you." Where? "In my Father's house there are many rooms."

The ultimate home your heart's looking for is in there. The ultimate absolute safety you need is in there. The ultimate compassionate anger that you need is in there. That's what it means to say God is the Father. That's what it means when it says as a father, so the Lord.

Now, what do we do about this? What do we do? How do we get that into our lives? I'm going to tell you four things you got to do, four steps if you want. We like steps. All right, four steps, and they're all here. If you want that absolute safety in your life, if you want that compassionate anger in your life, how can you know you're unconditionally loved by God? How can you know you're a child of his? How can you have in your life his compassionate anger—not a sense of indifference from God, nor a sense of being constantly punished and chastised? How can you have that ultimate sense of home so deep in him that it doesn't bother you so much that in so many other ways you're not able to go home? That family that's broken up, that shopping mall next to that beautiful pasture, that house that you've really never been able to get.

How can you get this into your life? Four things. Number one, first is a preliminary step. Realize that being a child of God's not automatic. It's not automatic. Look who it is. Who's he giving all this to? Look at verse 18: "with those who keep his covenant." A covenant is a contract. And you keep a covenant only because you've made a covenant. It means there's a spot where you weren't in covenant and then you are. There's a spot where you weren't in a relationship and then you are.

The reason I have to say this is because the average person today in America has an idea of God, and even has an idea of God as a father, but believes that aren't we all God's children? Now, the answer is yes and no, but mainly no. Here's why. If you think of the metaphor of parent, parents give you three things: your existence, your resemblance, and a relationship.

First of all, parents give you your existence. Someone is your parents because you literally sprung from their body. Secondly, resemblance. All of your genetic code came from one or the other. All of what you look like, all of who you are in all those senses, comes from one or the other. So existence, resemblance, and last of all, relationship. Because that's what we've been talking about. A parent doesn't just give you existence and resemblance but also has to create absolute safety, also has to bring you into a place of guidance and personal engagement and compassionate anger and create a home, a place where you can grow and nurture, a place that fits you, and so on.

If you ask those three things, is God the Father of everybody? In the first sense, of course. God is the author of everybody. God is the creator of everybody. And Paul talks about that. You can say that, I can say that. Acts 17, Paul actually says we are all his children. Of course we are, in the first sense. If you primarily think of God's fatherhood in terms of the source of your existence, we're all God's children.

But the Bible doesn't primarily think of it that way, because it's really not the most important. Secondly, if in the other hand you say primarily his fatherhood means resemblance, in that case, nobody but Jesus is his child. If you think primarily of the first one—existence—basically everybody's his child. If you think of the second one—resemblance—nobody but Jesus. He's the only one who's just like his Father. He's the only one who's perfectly good, perfectly loving, perfectly honest. If you look at those first two aspects of fatherhood in this metaphor, either everybody's a child or nobody's a child.

But we all know from what the Bible says that that's not the primary part of the metaphor that God is using. It's not the primary part of the metaphor that the biblical authors have in mind when they talk about it. John chapter 1 verse 12 says, "As many as received him, as many as believed in his name, he gave rights to become children of God." There it is.

The first thing you have to understand is being a child of God is not automatic except in the most general sense. It's a relationship you can enter into. You're either not in the family or you can come into the family. You've got to know that or you'll never get in. If you don't know you're out, you're never going to get in.

Number one. Number two, transformative step. You have to have your heart melted into a relationship of filial love toward your Father by seeing how it's possible that the Great King of the universe would be your Father, that the universal Judge of the universe would be Father. How could that be? If you understand the complexity and the reality of who God is, you're going to ask that question. If you don't ask that question, if you don't say, "How could God do this? How could he love us like this? How could his anger be not payback anger? How could he never ever ever ever pay us back? How could God accept us like this?" If you never ask that question, it's because you've got a cartoon God, just loving, and who doesn't—isn't judge, isn't holy, doesn't have standards. That's a neglectful God. That's not a loving God.

So the question is, how could God do this? And here's the answer. George Bailey, that was just a story. But what a nightmare: his place knew him no more. He had no place in the world. What a nightmare. But then it was over. But there's someone who came and who said, "Foxes have holes, birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place." Where was Jesus' home, by the way? He would visit his hometown, but he didn't have one.

And on the cross, when Jesus Christ turned to the Father—every every every time you see Jesus talk to God, he says Father, my Father, our Father, holy Father, Abba Father. Every time but one. Only one. When he was on the cross, he says, "My God." What was happening there? Its place knew him no more. He lost the spirit of sonship. The door was closed. No fire, no light from within. The ultimate nightmare, something vastly deeper, something unimaginable, cast away, out of the family, out of house, out of the home. Its place knew him no more. He was gone. He felt gone. It was like going to hell forever and worse.

He lost the spirit of sonship so we could have it. His place knew him no more so we would have a place. The door was closed on the ultimate home so the door could be opened for us. Why? Because Jesus paid the penalty for our sin. If somebody says, "I don't believe in that, I don't believe in a God of justice," listen, don't you want your Father to be the big God? Don't you want your Father to be the ultimate power? Don't you want your Father to be real?

The real God created the universe. How will he not be powerful? And the real God made us to love our neighbor as ourselves and we haven't done it, so the real God will be a judge. But here's the great thing: Jesus Christ allows you to have the ultimate judge, the ultimate guide, the ultimate warrior, the ultimate power in the universe be your loving heavenly Father, because his justice has been satisfied. The greatest power in the universe now you can call him at 1:00 a.m. and ask for a glass of water and he'll come, because great kings do that even for their little kid. Nobody else. You can get on his lap. Nobody else can get on the king's lap. He'll listen to you no matter what, he'll love you unconditionally only if you understand that Jesus Christ's place knew him no more so that you can have a place.

Thirdly, there's the contractual step. You have to make a covenant. That's what it says. How do you do that? You could do it today. I hope some people will. I hope that when we go to pray, some of you are going to say, "I always knew you were a God and I've tried to be good, or I thought you were loving and I was always grumpy that you weren't answering my prayers, but now I realize what your Son did for me. And now I want you to accept me into your family because of what Jesus did. I trust you because Jesus paid for my sin, so I don't have to get any payback anger from you again." Those people who are trusting in you for Jesus' sake today, let them feel your Fatherly love immediately.

And lastly, wonder and wonder and think and praise and meditate and reflect and celebrate the Father love of God into your heart till it changes you for the rest of your life. Why did I put verses 1 and 2 there? Look at what verses 1 and 2 tell us. This entire Psalm, who's it addressed to? Who is the Psalmist saying, "as a father has compassion on his children"? Who's he saying, "from everlasting the Lord's love is on those"? Who's he talking to? God? No, God knows it. Others? No. "Praise the Lord, O my soul."

All of your problems come because your soul does not know that you're a child of God. You've forgotten. Do you know that he absolutely loves you? You'd never have a problem with rejection. Hebrews 13: Jesus Christ suffered outside the city gate to make the people holy through his blood. Let us then go to him outside the camp taking his disgrace, for here we do not have an enduring city but we are looking for a city that is to come.

Jesus Christ was thrown out so that we could be brought in. If you know you have the Father's love, does it matter if you're disgraced? Does it matter who rejects you? Why are you so upset with criticism? Why are you so upset with the fact that someone that you valued seems to have gotten cold to you? Why are you so devastated? Why do you struggle with problems of self-worth? Your soul doesn't know this. You're living as if it isn't true. Praise the Lord, soul. Listen, soul.

Some of you are so mad at your parents. But there are no perfect parents. You're so mad because they haven't given you this kind of love. God says how could they? If you are parents or if you're ever going to be parents, you won't be able to do it either. Some of you are too dependent on your parents. You're desperately looking to them. God says they can't give it to you. I can free you from your family bitterness and I can free you for your family.

Or money. Over and over when the Bible talks about don't be worried about money, don't be afraid, don't try to make too much money, don't be greedy, don't drive yourself into the grave in order to make money, it always says because Father knows what you need. If you're worried about money all the time, you don't believe he's your Father. Or if you're working like crazy so you can build that beautiful dream house, I want you to know it won't work. It won't be enough.

If you tell your soul that you're a child of God, if you know you're a child of God, you keep telling yourself, you push it and push it and push it in, you'll be free from the need for approval, you'll be free from either bitterness or over-dependence on your family, you'll be free from the need for money or the worry for money or for overwork.

And one more thing. When bad things happen to you, terrible things even happen to you, you'll relax. Lovers are contemporaries. Kings and citizens are contemporaries. Friends are contemporaries. But Father is 45 and you're four. And that means Father's always bringing things into your life that you don't get. And most four-year-olds are much smarter than us, because most four-year-olds get real mad for a while when you say "no, you can't do this," and then they forget about it. Why? Because they know they're four. "I'm four, okay, I'm four. I mean what do I know?" They seem to know that they don't know. and they can kind of relax and say, "Yeah, Mom and Dad, I don't know, but they come through."

When bad things happen to you, do you say "I don't know"? Can you relax? What a load off if you realize you're a child of God. Praise the Lord, O my soul, as Father. You're forgetting the benefits. All your problems come from that. Know that.

Let's pray. Our Father, I pray, Father, that the people who right now in silence and in prayer are saying accept me because of Jesus, receive me in unconditional love because of what Jesus did, I pray that you'd help them, you'd come around them and let them feel your Fatherly love immediately. Help us to wonder, help us to celebrate that you are our Father. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.

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