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Adoption (Part 2)

July 13, 2026
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The highest thing that Christianity offers to us is to be adopted as God’s sons. It’s little surprise, then, that our identity as his children can radically transform how we live each and every day.

When we look at the great privileges and characteristics of people who know they’re children of God, what do we see?

Let’s walk through five marks of sonship: 1) a fearlessness about our security, 2) access to the Father through prayer, 3) acknowledging our wealthiness in our inheritance and future glory, 4) handling suffering and discipline with grace, and 5) having complete assurance of his love.

This sermon was preached by Dr. Timothy Keller at Redeemer Presbyterian Church on June 28, 1992. Series: Salvation From the Outside In. Scripture: Ephesians 1:4-8.

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Guest (Male): Welcome to Gospel in Life. We live in a culture that encourages us to focus on ourselves, our needs, our goals, our fulfillment. But what if our lives only made sense when we see them as part of a much bigger story?

This summer, we’re featuring one of Tim Keller’s longer sermon series in which he teaches about the core truths of the Christian faith and the big picture of God’s ultimate plan of salvation for humanity, revealing how we can find real meaning, growth, and change in Christ.

Tim Keller: This is the third talk, this third teaching in a row on the subject of Chapter 1, verse 4 of Ephesians. We're going to read Chapter 1, verses 4 to 8. Tonight, for the last time, we're going to look at the subject that we've been looking at that’s so important and so critical. So many of you in the last couple of weeks during this teaching time have been coming to me and talking to me about the teaching that Paul gives here about our adoption.

It’s such a life-changing teaching. It lays bare the foundations of our lives and shows you where you really stand. We're going to look at it one more time tonight and I'm going to read from Chapter 1, verses 4 to 8, but we’re homing in on the doctrine of our adoption. Look, "For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love, he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the one he loves."

"In him, we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding." But the key here is he predestined us to be adopted as his sons. For the last two weeks, we've been looking at this. We've talked about the importance of the doctrine, the cruciality of it.

We've talked about the fact that everything God in all of eternity has planned—all of his plan—everything came down to this, the pinnacle of everything he wanted to do, the capstone and the climax of all of his plans of history. The whole point of Jesus' death on the cross and his redemption and all the things we've been looking at for a number of weeks, this is the apex. This is what it all comes down to. This is the highest thing that any religion even offers its people: to be adopted as his sons.

We saw, for example, that this happens because of Jesus' death and his redemption. You know the subtle beauty in the structure underneath the parable of the prodigal son that's so easy to miss? It’s that the only way the prodigal son is able to come back after his sin and rebellion into the welcome of the father is at the expense of the elder brother. The father cannot exactly freely bring back the younger brother, the prodigal son.

He can't do it freely because everything that he's giving the prodigal son now belongs to the elder brother. Do you remember that? The prodigal son has wasted his inheritance; he owns nothing anymore. For the father to bring him back into the estate, the only way that can happen is at the expense of the elder brother. In the parable of the prodigal son, the elder brother is angry. He says, "Every ring is mine, every robe is mine, every fatted calf is mine. Because of that, these things you're giving him, Father, are at my expense."

So we have an example of a grumpy elder brother, but the Bible says, "Rejoice." That’s not what you really have. Jesus is the true elder brother. He was not at all unwilling, but we're told in Hebrews 2, he is not ashamed to call us brothers. He was made like us in every way so that he could be the firstborn among many brethren. All of that we looked at meant that Jesus Christ willingly and gladly paid the price.

Jesus willingly and gladly knew that the only way we could come into the family of God would be at his expense, and he did it gladly with singing, with joy. We looked at all that. But now what we started last week and which we're going to finish this week is we have to look at the great privileges and the characteristics of people who are children of God and who know they are children of God. People who are children of God and who know it, what are those characteristics?

What are the marks of people who know they're children of God and who live it out? First, and we started with this last week but let's talk about it now, the first is a freedom or fearlessness. We're told in Romans—remember, we've read this before—Romans 8 says that we have not been given a spirit of a slave to make you fear, but you receive the spirit of the sonship and by this spirit we cry, "Abba, Father."

For we are no longer slaves but sons, and if sons, then heirs. Hear that? You're not a slave, you're a son. If you're a slave, you're full of fears. The Spirit of God's job in life, one of them, is to show Christians that they are children of God so as to get rid of fear. So here it is: if you're living in fear, you do not know that you're a child of God, or else you're not a child of God. Those are the only two alternatives.

In most of the great houses, most of the great families and most of the great estates, you had a great lord or a noble over the house and you had lots of people in the house. Most of them were servants, most of them were slaves, but you had a couple of children. Now, you see, the children took orders from the head and the slaves took orders from the head, and even though they both had the same orders and they both in a sense obeyed, they obeyed out of different motives.

A slave had ultimately to know that if he didn't obey the master, he could be expelled, he could be demoted. In other words, a slave lives under fear, under compulsion and under fear of expulsion. But a son has a whole different attitude. The son says, "This is my house. I can't be expelled from it. This is my father; my relationship is sure." Therefore, a slave and a son obey the same person with radically different motives.

A slave obeys the father out of fear because the person is not their father. A son knows that your acceptance by the father is not based on your performance. Now, that leads to a lack of fearlessness. Let me get real specific. A slave is manic; a son is emotionally even-keeled. Why? Because a slave mentality says, "When I have done well, when I have performed well, when I have lived up to standards, I feel great about myself, but when I have failed, I'm in despair and I'm depressed." Up and down, up and down. Recognize yourself?

But a son, a child of God, relates to the father in a different way. When you have a good week, when you perform well, when you live up to standards, you don't get all that puffed up because you say, "My performance is not the reason that I'm in the father's house; it's what Jesus did." And when you fail, you don't go into despair because you say, "It’s my performance is not why I'm in the father's house; it's what Jesus did."

Do you see the evenness of it? Do you see the reason why there's not a manicness? The manic emotional upswings and downswings over your performance is the mentality of a slave, not a son. Here's another example, another aspect of the fear problem. A slave is a person who's critical and judgmental because a slave is somebody who does not feel acceptable to God unless you feel morally superior.

You don't feel loved unless you're morally superior and therefore you need to see the faults in other people. You need to listen to gossip and to spread it. Gossip makes you feel powerful; it makes you feel lovable. That's the reason it's salacious and delicious, both to listen to and to give, because it makes you feel superior. A slave has got to feel superior to other people in order to feel loved. You've got to be critical. You've got to find fault in people everywhere.

Now, the reason, in all fairness, the reason that a slave is doing that to everybody else is because you're doing it to yourself. You're just as mean to other people as you are to yourself. As a result, you're a critical, judgmental person. But a son has a spirit of affirmation. A son has great listening skills. A son knows that your acceptance and your lovableness does not depend on your performance and therefore you have the ability to affirm people wherever and whatever they're doing.

A slave is manic, a son is even-keeled. A slave is judgmental and critical in spirit, a son is affirming. Or I'll give you another one: a slave is defensive and controlling for the same reason. A slave mentality says, "I've got to look good. Unless I look good, I'm not lovable." Therefore, you can't take criticism without being destroyed. Therefore, you're very defensive when someone brings things up against you, and that's another reason why you have to control people and situations. You've got to look good.

But a son is someone who loves to repent. Not defensive, not controlling, you love to repent, and here's why. A real Christian, a person who is a child of God and who knows that they're a child of God, the reason you love to repent is repentance is almost like getting saved all over again. Because when someone points out your flaws and you realize, "I really am a weak person and a flawed person," but the deeper I see my depths, the deeper I see my flaws, the more I'm amazed at the incredible love and mercy of my father.

And so repentance is great for a Christian and a Christian eagerly repents. A son, a person with a child mindset, a sonship mindset, eagerly repents. Why? Because it's like getting saved again. It's a way—though of course it's painful—it's like pulling a scab off after it's healed underneath. You pull it off and it stings and it hurts and underneath you've got that beautiful-looking baby skin. You wish your whole body looked like that.

In the same way, repentance is like pulling that scab off and it hurts, and underneath it's like getting saved again. A Christian is a person who repents with joy. Repentance doesn't grind them into the ground. Repentance isn't something that's a last resort, something that at all costs we avoid. Do you see what I mean? You have not received a spirit of slavery to fear.

If your life is characterized by the fear of criticism, by the fear of other people's opinions, by the fear of getting close to people because they'll see your flaws, by self-consciousness and tremendous introspection, constant introspection and looking in, if your life is characterized by that kind of fear, then you—even though you might be a born-again Christian, you might really be a child of God—you're not acting like a child of God.

You know what's really unique about Christians in New York City? By New York City standards, Christians have a moral framework, a set of values that's medieval in nature. Christians believe that there's things that are sins that most people just take for granted. They eat and breathe them like air and drink them like water. When you come across a Christian living in New York City, you find on the one hand you have somebody here who's got a moral conscience and got a scrupulosity of conscience that most people would be staggered by.

And yet, a Christian who's living in your sonship can deal with people who are so violently opposed to you, deal with people who have such differences of opinion, such radically different approaches, and you can deal with them with warmth, without defensiveness, without getting threatened. A Christian is an absolute marvel and if you're not capable of that, then you have forgotten that you're a son. The first mark of sonship is a fearlessness.

The second mark of sonship is access to the father, a spirit of prayer. In Romans 8, we already read it says that we do not have a spirit of slavery, but we have a spirit of sonship and we have gotten a spirit of sonship that leads us to cry, "Abba, Father." Abba, Father. Now listen, the word Abba, as many of you know, is an intimate phrase and it really means "Daddy."

I must say that therefore Christianity alone of all religions has the audacity to offer us an intimacy with the infinite that no other religion would dare offer us. As a matter of fact, I think it's fair to say that most other religions are appalled and even irritated and disgusted. In fact, I've been told by some adherents of other religions that the kind of intimacy that we assume with the Father in heaven is blasphemous.

Audacity, yes. In fact, I'm going to use this word: shamelessness. In Luke 11, there's a parable told of the friend at midnight. Jesus gives a story about a man who asks a friend at midnight for help and he says the man will get up and give the friend what he asks for, for his persistence. But the word persistence, the little Greek word persistence that's translated "persistence," would be better translated "shamelessness."

Shamelessness. Here's what I'm trying to get at. There is an effrontery, there is a boldness that would be impudence in a neighbor or a friend but is natural in a child. What is considered impudence, what is considered shamelessness, what is considered rudeness in a friend or in a neighbor is natural in a child. Listen, a child's attitude toward his daddy is utterly and radically different than the perspective of anyone else.

If your father is the president, if your father is a king of a continent, if anyone else would ask that man at 4 a.m. for a drink of water, it would be impudence. It would be sheer effrontery. It would be ridiculous to demand that level of care, to demand that level of intimacy, to demand that level of involvement would be absolute blasphemy. But if that's your daddy, he gets up. He may be king to everybody else, but to you, he's daddy.

He may be a hanging judge to everybody else, but to you, he's daddy. Now, have you got that attitude toward God? Because if you do, you'll be a praying fool. You will be praying shamelessly. You'll be praying constantly. You'll be praying boldly and relentlessly. You'll be praying about everything. My friends, you are just shadows of what you could be, you are husks of what you could be, if you prayed as if you were children.

That's how children act. That's how children are. Come on. You don't see a five-year-old say, "Well, I don't want to bother you, Dad. You're awfully busy." When's the last time you saw a five-year-old like that? When's the last time you saw a six-year-old come and say, "Gee, Dad, I wanted to ask you for something, but you're an important person. I don't know how I could impose on you like this"? And when you look at God and you say, "He's never going to answer this prayer because of what I've done," or, "He's not going to answer this prayer because it's too small to bring to him," you’re speaking like a slave, not as a child.

Do you realize who he is to you? You'd be a praying fool. This is one of the most important ways that you can learn about whether or not you're still thinking of yourself with the slave mentality or the son mentality, and that is: do you pray like that? Do you think of him that way? Do you cry out, "Abba, Father"? A missionary told me a story of a missionary who had four children and adopted a fifth child, a 10-year-old girl.

Even though she was legally adopted, there were months before she would call her parents—her new adopted parents—"Daddy" or "Mommy." She called them by their first names. In other words, legally adopted, but there wasn't that bonding. Then one day, she fell down in the yard and she cut herself pretty badly and she cried out, "Daddy!" And he went running to her.

I want you to see that many of you are in the same boat. You're legally adopted, your status is vouchsafed, you've got the status of children of God, you've given yourself to him, but you're not crying out to him. You're not crying out to him shamelessly and boldly and constantly for everything. That's the condition you're in, too. Are you a child of God? Do you know you're a child of God? Do you pray like that?

Billy Bray, the boxer, a British guy last century, used to have a way of talking. When something went wrong, he'd say, "I have to talk to Father about that." He had that attitude. First, fearlessness. Secondly, access, a spirit of prayer. Thirdly, the third mark of a child of God is a sense of being wealthy. It’s a sense of being wealthy.

There's an amazing passage in Romans 8 that we've been quoting from, but let me just read this to you. In Romans 8, it says, "Creation itself waits with eager longing for the sons of God to be revealed. The creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the glorious freedom of the children of God. And we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, we groan inwardly and we eagerly await for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies."

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Tim Keller: That's a puzzling passage because it says all of nature is groaning in bondage to decay and can't wait for us to be adopted. And then Paul says, "And we ourselves await the adoption, the glorious liberty of the children of God." Now how can Paul say here we're already adopted and then just a little bit later here in Romans 8 say we're awaiting our adoption? Because you see, when you become a Christian, you're legally adopted.

The greatest thing about adopting a child is you want to treat that child as if that child is your biological and natural child. You want to give that child everything you'd give your natural child. There's one thing, though, you can't in the human context give your natural child, and that is your DNA. In many cases, that's just as well. We don't want her to have my nose, we don't want her to have my ears.

But what we've got here in the gospel is that not only do we become legally adopted, but God actually gives us his DNA. He actually puts into us his own nature, the Spirit of God. We've got the firstfruits of it, but the day will come in which we absolutely will resemble him. We're going to get the family likeness finally. It's growing in us gradually, but someday it's going to come down in fullness. That day Paul talks about in amazing terms.

You see Jesus, when you look at Jesus, there you've got someone with the DNA of the Father. There you've got someone and all you see is moral glory. It says in Hebrews 1:3, "He is the express image of the Father. He is the radiance of God's being." And that radiance and that likeness is going to come to us. It's going to fall on you on the last day. It's going to come down on you.

Here's the amazing part. Paul says that the day that we actually come into the fullness of our sonship, all of nature is going to at the same time be changed. How can that be? Why would nature be waiting for us? It means the glory that's going to hit us is so powerful that we're going to bring all of nature with us when we're changed. And you know, here's the reason why.

We were built to be gardeners, we were built to take care of nature, we were built to take care of creation and the environmentalists can tell you what a lousy job we've done. When we fell into sin, somehow we took nature with us, and when we come into glory, somehow we're going to bring nature with us. Paul says, we talked about this this morning, Paul says in that context, in this passage talking about this glorious liberty, he says, "In this hope we are saved. For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us."

What does he mean when he says, "In this hope we are saved"? Listen, this is the most practical thing you can possibly understand right now. We hope for our sonship, we hope for the glory, we think about the inheritance. We think about the glory that's going to come down and it's going to be so incredible that when it hits us, when the glory hits ground zero, it's going to transform all of creation into perfection. So there's no more decay anymore.

We're going to have a new heavens and a new earth and we're going to be in charge, where every blade of grass is so beautiful and so clear, it's beauty that'll break your heart, that'll lead you to kneel down and worship at the glory of the one who created it. That's all going to come to us and Paul says, "My hope for that saves me." Now it doesn't save me in the sense that it forgives my sins, but he's saying it purifies me.

My hope, my thinking about my inheritance, my wealth, the glory that is mine and the glory that is guaranteed to me and the glory that is coming, he says that's how I deal with my sufferings. I reckon them, I think them out. Paul says unless you're hoping for your inheritance, unless you know you're wealthy, unless you know you're going to come into your inheritance, you cannot live a life of stability and of peace.

I've got a couple friends—you probably do, too—who, like most of us, are living off of the income that they make from year to year, but they know that someday they're going to come into a fortune. They're not totally sure when it's going to be, but it won't be far. As a result, they don't have the same worries that the rest of us do. You know, they try to save and they try to get things done and they think about the future and they think about their kids.

They don't have the same worries because they know they're going to come into a fortune. And they've got a stability and they've got a—you see, there's an overarching comfort. They know they're wealthy even though they can't touch it right now. They know they're wealthy. They've got a whole different attitude. Paul says unless you've got this hope, unless you're able to reckon it, unless you're able to remember it, unless you're able to live as if you're wealthy even though you can't touch it right now, you will not be able to handle the problems of life.

You will not be able to face them. You will not be able to see them out there. You're like a newborn king in a cradle. Wait 'til you see. Here you are fussing because somebody took your rattle away from you, but wait 'til you see what's really yours. Infant kings have no idea of the glory that's waiting for them. All they are upset about is that nobody got me my toy, all they're upset about is that nobody's fed me now.

Oh, they're so upset. Can't you identify with that? I can identify with that. What am I so upset about because this hasn't gone right this week and this hasn't gone right this week? Somebody took my rattle. So what? In this hope we are saved. For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing—the rattles that are being taken away from me are nothing compared to my inheritance. I'm going to be rich! Rich!

That's how a son of the king talks. Samuel Rutherford, the old Scottish preacher, said, "You feel like you have a bad life, you feel like you're grieving for the things that you seem to be losing? Keep a record," he says. "Go ahead. Keep a bill, and on the last day, go to your father and give him that bill and watch how he makes good on that bill with one instant of glory that will outweigh all of the debts that you think you've been accruing."

You're rich! All right? A son is free, a son has access and lives as if he has access. A son knows he's wealthy and lives as if he's wealthy and deals with life through the knowledge of his inheritance. He’s hard-nosed about it. Fourth, a son handles suffering as discipline. The fourth mark of sonship, the fourth mark of sonship, is the graceful handling of trouble.

Hebrews 12 says, "Do not make light of the Lord's discipline because he chastens all those he accepts as sons." We had human fathers who disciplined us, the Hebrews writer says, but God disciplines us for our good that we may share in his righteousness. No discipline is pleasant now, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness for those who are trained by it.

Now, the minute you realize that you're a child of God, you have a completely different attitude toward the suffering and the tragedies of your life. A child of God sees the suffering and would never ever say, "I'm being punished." You don't say that because God isn't a magistrate. A child of God says God is not a magistrate, he's not a civil magistrate, he's not a policeman, he's not a judge of me.

He's not punishing me for my sins and exacting retribution because my elder brother got the retribution. He's paid all the penalty. And therefore, if there's troubles in my life, it's my father's discipline. My father is not just trying to take out of my hide revenge for my sins. No. Because I'm a child of God, I now see sufferings in a whole different light. My father is humbling me.

My father is showing me what my heart is really made of. My father is showing me what's really important. My father is trying to make me like my elder brother. Listen, do you treat, handle the troubles of life as children or as a slave? A child first of all—you know what it means to handle suffering as a child? First of all, a child knows you're a child.

Some of you say, "I can't trust God because this came into my life," and you know, I say to you, "But why can't you trust God?" "Because God's not explaining to me why." In other words, "I don't want to act like a child. I don't want to think of myself as a child. I want God to explain why this is happening or else I will not trust him." That's a refusal to be a child.

Listen, children are constantly being told by their parents, "Honey, you can't understand. Later you will." You try to explain to your children and they go, they don't understand. And you see, children basically understand that, most children do. For you to treat the suffering of your life as if your father is the father and as if you're a child means you have to be willing to say, "Father, you don't have to explain everything for me to trust you."

Until you're willing to say that, you are resisting the very idea of sonship. You're refusing to be a child. Until you say, "Father, you don't have to explain everything for me to trust you because after all, I am a child." But also to handle your suffering as children means that you have got to say, "I see and I realize that God does not mean me any ill. He is not out to get me, he is not out to harm me. He is out to somehow change me and build me up and he knows what's best for me."

Are you able to handle that? Are you able to handle your suffering as children? Until you fill your mind with the greatness of God's wisdom and the fact that he's a father and you're a child, all you're going to do is go all through life bitter as all get-out. And some of you are. And the reason is because you will not see that you are children of God or you refuse to give yourself to Christ to become a child of God, and therefore your bitterness ultimately rests on your shoulders.

One more thing about this. It says the Father disciplines us so we might share in his holiness. And one of the things I've always noticed is it is impossible, unless you as a child of God yearn for your father's holiness, you will never be able to handle suffering. You see, if you sit down with a child of God and you say, "This is really hard, but somehow or another, if you obey and trust him in this, God's going to make you more like him."

"You're going to be growing in grace, you're going to become more like Jesus, you're going to grow in holiness." And that settles down a child of God and the child says, "Yeah. All right. And I do know that being holy is more important to me than anything else: to be like my father." But when you sit down with a person who is a moralist, not a Christian, a person who is being religious as a way of getting favors from God, a person who did not get into Christianity to serve God but to get God to serve him, a person who's religious but thinks that because I'm religious therefore God ought to be giving me a great life, who does not yearn for holiness and does not yearn to be like the Father but basically wants a sugar daddy—which is not the same thing as a father—and you say to a person like that, "Well, we don't know all the reasons that God is letting this happen to you, but one thing is for sure: if you trust in him, it'll make you holy," and they say, "So what?"

If you don't yearn for holiness above everything else, you will never handle suffering, ever. Because you won't be comforted when it says, "All discipline for the present is unpleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness that you may share in his holiness." That won't comfort you a bit. All right, lastly. We've seen that to be a son, to know you're a child of God, will bring you into freedom.

To know you're a child of God will bring you into access and dependence on him in prayer. To know you're a child of God will make you feel wealthy and give you a stability and ability to handle life in a way you couldn't otherwise. To know you're a child of God means that you look at suffering in your life with completely different eyes. But lastly, to know you're a child of God means you have complete assurance of his love.

I know in some ways this runs through everything else, but let's close here. It says Jesus is not ashamed to call you brothers. The Father is not ashamed to call us children. And that means fundamentally there should be a security in your life, a knowledge that God loves you no matter what. And I know a lot of you don't have that. But here is where it is. I'm a human father. I'm a mighty imperfect father, and yet my desire for my children's happiness is unbelievably strong.

With all of my flaws and with all of my selfishness. Everybody in this room who's a parent, you know what happens: the minute a child is born, you will never be happy again. You know why? Because your heart, you will find out within days, is so completely bound up with that child's happiness that you will never ever ever be able to be completely happy unless your child is completely happy and he won't be any more completely happy than you are.

In fact, as I can tell already that when my children grow up and they go somewhere else, it's going to take tremendous self-control for me to be not completely involved in their lives. I'll want so much to still control their lives so that they're happy. And you know why? Because I won't be happy unless they're happy. Because even in our fallen condition, even in this most incredibly selfish of hearts, I see an image of the Father's perfect love.

Parents are relentless, dogged in their support for their children. How many times have you heard somebody say, "But she's still my daughter"? That means no matter what the heck you do, your mother's going to say, "She's still my daughter." No matter what you do, they're going to say, "That's still my son, that's still my daughter." And that's in us, imperfect people.

My wife and I sometimes just weep over our children's faults because we say, "You know, it's not bad now, but I'm just afraid if they don't overcome that ten years from now, think of the trouble." We want our children to be perfect, we want our children to be perfectly happy, but we can't bring it about. Now if logically I know that my Father in heaven must have more desire for your perfection and your complete bliss than I do for my children, all right?

If logically I know he must have a more perfect and more powerful passion for your bliss and happiness than I have for my own, and yet I know my own is unbelievably strong, it's uncontrollably strong, then his love for you must not only be incredible, but don't you understand? This is an omnipotent Father. If I had it within my power, what would I do for my children? Everything.

Your heavenly Father loves you more than I love my children and he's got the power. And therefore it is infallibly sure that his love for you will not fail, but instead will bring you into perfection of being and into perfection of happiness. It's got to be. And to know that and to rest secure in that is the foundation for everything else I've been telling you.

If you know because you're a child of God that he loves you infallibly and unconquerably, his love will triumph for you and his desire and passion for your holiness and perfection will triumph. If you know that, then everything else falls into place. Then you will not be a person of fear, of judgmentalism, you will not be a person who's afraid to pray, you will not be a person who feels poor, you will not be a person who can't handle suffering.

Are you a child of God? Have you seen that Jesus Christ has died for you and you're resting in that? Are you recognizing that only because your elder brother has paid the expense that you can be in the family? On the other hand, how many of you know that you're in the family and you're not living it out? Are you living in freedom or are you defensive, driven, nervous, controlling and critical?

Are you living in prayer or are you worried, powerless and anxious? Are you living in your inheritance and your wealth or are you bored, self-pitying and hopeless? Are you living with courage in suffering or are you in despair or are you repressed? Are you living in the security of God or are you nervous and overcome with a sense of inferiority? Behold. Behold what manner of love the Father has given unto us.

Behold is a command. Behold, look at it, hold it, grab it. Behold, the whole reason that you're not living in the way that we've just described is because you're not beholding. Well, do it. Behold what manner of love the Father has given to us that we should become the children of God. Let's pray.

Now Father, we thank you for this most basic of truths. In many ways it's at the foundation of what you want for us and therefore it's at the foundation of the life issues of our week, the life issues that we're grappling with most. Father, I pray two things. First of all, I pray that the individuals who are listening might suddenly have a revelation through your Holy Spirit that their fearfulness and their poverty and their boredom and their cynicism and their critical spirit and their defensiveness and their controlling nature and their prayerlessness and their inferiority feelings are all because they are not listening to your Spirit who tells them that you are our Father.

Father, enable everybody here individually to behold the manner of love that you've given us that we should be your children. But I also pray we might become a church that's characterized by this teaching. I pray that we become a church where everybody understands this and knows this and talks to each other about it and preaches it to one another.

And I pray that we might become a church of people who are so bold and yet at the same time so humble because of this teaching that nobody can figure us out, but everyone will be attracted to you through us. Now Father we pray all this in Jesus' name. Amen.

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Gospel In Life is a ministry that features sermons, books, articles, and resources from Timothy Keller, Redeemer Presbyterian Church, and Redeemer City to City. The name reflects our conviction that the gospel changes everything in life. In 1989 Dr. Timothy J. Keller, his wife and three young sons moved to New York City to begin Redeemer Presbyterian Church. He has since become a bestselling author, an influential thinker, and an advocate for ministry in cities and to secular people.

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Timothy Keller is the founding pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, which he started in 1989 with his wife, Kathy, and three young sons.  For 28 years he led a diverse congregation of young professionals that grew to a weekly attendance of over 5,000.

He is also the Chairman & Co-Founder of Redeemer City to City (CTC), which starts new churches in New York and other global cities, and publishes books and resources for ministry in an urban environment. In 2017 Dr. Keller transitioned to CTC full time to teach and mentor church planters and seminary students through a joint venture with Reformed Theological Seminary's (RTS), the City Ministry Program. He also works with CTC's global affiliates to launch church planting movements.

Dr. Keller’s books, including the New York Times bestselling The Reason for God and The Prodigal God, have sold over 2 million copies and been translated into 25 languages.

Christianity Today has said, “Fifty years from now, if evangelical Christians are widely known for their love of cities, their commitment to mercy and justice, and their love of their neighbors, Tim Keller will be remembered as a pioneer of the new urban Christians.”

Dr. Keller was born and raised in Pennsylvania, and educated at Bucknell University, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and Westminster Theological Seminary. He previously served as the pastor of West Hopewell Presbyterian Church in Hopewell, Virginia, Associate Professor of Practical Theology at Westminster Theological Seminary, and Director of Mercy Ministries for the Presbyterian Church in America.

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