Where Is God When Life Hurts Most
A grieving mother is walking behind an open coffin when Jesus steps into her path and changes everything. Luke 7:11–17 drops us into a funeral at the gates of Nain, where sorrow is loud in the streets but even louder in one widow’s silent future. If you’ve ever felt the kind of pain that leaves you unable to explain yourself, this message slows down long enough to let the weight be real and to show where God is when life hurts the most.
We trace the moment Luke highlights: “When the Lord saw her, he had compassion on her.” Dr. Timothy Mann unpacks what that compassion means, why it is not shallow sympathy, and how Jesus speaks “Do not weep” without shaming grief or demanding a fake smile. Then Jesus does something shocking for his Jewish audience, touching the open coffin and showing that mercy matters more than performative rule-keeping. One word, “Arise,” and death gives way to life, spotlighting that resurrection power does not come from a ritual but from Jesus himself.
From there, we connect the miracle to bigger gospel themes: what death is, why Scripture warns about the “second death,” and why repentance and faith in Christ matter now. We also compare this scene to Elijah in 1 Kings 17, where the similarities are intentional and the difference is decisive: Jesus does not plead for power because he is God with us. If you need biblical encouragement for grief, suffering, and the fear of death, this teaching points to a living hope and a coming resurrection morning.
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Guest (Male): Welcome to Foundations of Truth, the Bible teaching ministry of Dr. Timothy Mann. Our mission is to help you build your life on the unshakable foundation of God's word, rooted in scripture and anchored in the grace of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Some moments in life you just don't prepare for. The kind of news that just stops you in your tracks. And in those moments, people say things, but sometimes nothing really helps. So here's the question: where is God when life hurts the most?
Today on Foundations of Truth, Dr. Timothy Mann takes us to a scene in Luke chapter seven: a funeral, a grieving mother, and a crowd full of sorrow. And right in the middle of it all, Jesus shows up, not to avoid the pain and not to explain it away, but to meet her in it. If you're walking through something heavy right now, stay with us. This message is for you.
Dr. Timothy Mann: Luke chapter seven, examining verses 11 through 17. Really, in this chapter, answers to some of life's greatest trials. In the four scenes that are in this chapter, we notice two physical needs, two physical trials, and two spiritual trials. Sickness. And the answer in our situation when we're dealing with great sickness is to have the right perspective and real faith.
This week, the need, the trial, is death. Those two physical trials are probably the greatest physical trials we ever face. And what's interesting about this passage today, as we're looking at this issue of death, there really are no lessons for us as it relates to how we should respond.
In this situation, as we're looking at this passage today, it really is all about Jesus and His life-giving compassion, and how He steps in the middle of a situation. So let's read beginning in verse 11.
The Bible says, "Now it happened the day after that He," meaning Jesus, "went into a city called Nain; and many of His disciples went with Him, and a large crowd. And when He came near the gate of the city, behold, a dead man was being carried out, the only son of his mother; and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the city was with her.
When the Lord saw her, He had compassion on her and said to her, 'Do not weep.' Then He came and touched the open coffin, and those who carried him stood still. And He said, 'Young man, I say to you, arise.' And so he who was dead sat up and began to speak. And He," again meaning Jesus, "presented him to his mother.
Then fear came upon all, and they glorified God, saying, 'A great prophet has risen up among us'; and, 'God has visited His people.' And this report about Him went throughout all Judea and all the surrounding region." Let's stop there. This is God's word.
John Bailey knew what the loss of a child was like. In fact, he and his wife, Mary Lou, had lost three sons. One at 18 days after surgery, another at five years with leukemia, and the third at 18 years after a sledding accident. And so when John Bailey wrote about the death of a child, people listened.
Here's part of what he had to say in the book "The View from a Hearse." He said, "Of all deaths, that of a child is most unnatural and hardest to bear. It is a period placed before the end of the sentence, sometimes when the sentence has hardly begun. We expect the old to die. The separation is always difficult, but it comes as no surprise.
But the child? The youth? Life lies ahead with its beauty, its wonder, its potential. Death is a cruel thief when it strikes down the young. The suffering that usually precedes death is another reason childhood death is so hard for parents to bear. Children were made for fun and laughter, for sunshine, not for pain.
And they have a child's heightened consciousness rather than the ability to cope with suffering that comes with maturity. They also lack the kind amnesia of senility. In a way that is different from any other human relationship, a child is bone of his parent's bone, flesh of their flesh. And when a child dies, part of the parent is buried.
I met a man who was in his 70s. During our first ten minutes together, he brought the faded photograph of a child out of his wallet: his child, who had died almost 50 years before." The death of a child is certainly one of the greater agonies possible in this life. A burying of a part of oneself. A period before the end of a sentence.
The death of a future. It's a burden that all parents fear. Such pain was the emotional context of Jesus's next ministry event that we just read. I want you to feel something of the weight of that.
In verses 11 and 12, what we notice in this text is a very public sorrow that's happening. The town of Nain, if you look at the geography of it, was about 25 miles from Capernaum. It was about a day's journey walking. And so it was probably late in the afternoon that Jesus and His band of followers encountered an unexpected public display of sorrow at the city gate.
An open coffin, preceded by the pitiful, pathetic figure of a woman, stood directly in Jesus's path as He's coming into the city. The coffin is surrounded by professional mourners who were leading a large wailing crowd with flutes and cymbals and frenzied cries, no doubt. The cries were especially deafening because of the loud mourning associated with the death of a child.
But this woman was dealing with a very private sorrow as well. Because this dejected figure of the woman, without the company of a husband and, as far as we can tell, children as well, without the company of children, that communicated in an instant to Jesus and His followers the depth of this tragedy.
This tear-drenched woman was a widow, and the pale young corpse was her only son. In truth, this large crowd posed as a very ironic contrast to her actual state. Tomorrow, she would awake by herself, brokenhearted, without the sustaining footsteps and sounds of her beloved son in her home.
There's something very moving, at least to me, in the tragic woman's picture here, in her silhouette, because given what is about to take place and the declarations about to be made, she, this woman, is an appropriate illustration of the hurting soul to whom Christ ministers. She's a good picture of that, of the kind of people that Jesus ministers to.
Verse 13. As this bereaved woman stumbled toward the burial ground, she had no hint of the miracle awaiting her. Verse 13, the Bible says, "When the Lord saw her, He had compassion on her and said to her, 'Do not weep.'" We see Jesus's heart in this verse.
I love the way another translation puts it. It says, "When the Lord saw her, His heart went out to her." His heart went out to her in unmitigated, unconditional compassion. She did nothing to earn it. She did nothing to deserve it.
Luke here uses the strongest word possible to describe Jesus's pity in the original language, the Greek language. The root word from which it comes actually refers to what's inside: the heart, the lungs, the intestines, the liver—all the internal organs. It describes an emotion that has physical effects.
Literally, Jesus felt for her. That's what this is saying. Jesus felt for her. And we should note, too, this is very typical of Jesus. This is how Jesus was. It's how He is.
Later on, at a very similar occasion when Jesus observed two sisters, His friends Mary and Martha, weeping over their brother Lazarus who had died in John chapter 11 verse 33, the Bible says He was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. That word translated "deeply moved" comes from an ancient word which describes a horse's snorting.
It indicates that the Lord let out an involuntary gasp. The breath just went out of Him. Jesus felt for the two sisters so much, and for His friend, that He had a convulsive reaction. And the Bible says in Luke chapter seven verse 35, in similar way as it is in John as well, this convulsive feeling gave way to tears.
The shortest verse in the Bible: "Jesus wept." He wept. It doesn't say He shed a few tears. It doesn't even say He cried. It says Jesus wept. Have you ever wept? Then you know what that's about, if you've wept.
And so when He saw the widow of Nain, Jesus was again inwardly convulsed with compassion. Jesus's compassion, His extraordinary compassion, was grounded in His sinlessness and His selflessness. Whereas our sin and our self-focus inhibits, I didn't say prohibits, inhibits our ability to care as we should.
But Jesus's sinless self-forgetfulness allowed the full exercise of His sympathy and His pity. And from that reality, we should gather—and very gladly so, I might add—we should gather, and this is a good thing, that Jesus has a heart big enough for our sorrows. Isn't that good? Jesus has a heart big enough for our sorrows.
And His compassion, His empathy, is real. It's not polite. It's not forced. It's real. Lamentations chapter three verses 22 and 23 says, "Your compassions never fail. They are new every morning. Great is Your faithfulness."
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Dr. Timothy Mann: You may have such an immense hurt that you cannot even voice it. Perhaps your trauma has left you faltering in life. But He understands. He understands completely, and He understands sympathetically. And not hindered by personal limitations, His immense heart goes out to you.
And not only did Jesus's heart go out to this poor widow, but also His soothing words. He said, "Do not weep. Don't cry. Don't cry." Now, listen. He wasn't telling her to suppress her emotion. He wasn't saying, "Okay, chin up. Don't be a baby about this." That's not it at all. It wasn't like He was saying, "Okay, suck it up, buttercup. This is life. It's tough."
No. Rather, He was expressing genuine care for her, and He was hinting at the miracle about to happen. Moved by her tears, He gave her the gentle command: "Do not go on crying," as a prelude of what's to happen, of what He's about to do.
Look at verses 14 and 15. The Bible says, "Then He came and He touched the open coffin, and those who carried him stood still. And He said, 'Young man, I say to you, arise.' And so he who was dead sat up and began to speak. And He presented him to his mother."
Now, touching a coffin, an open coffin particularly, meant sure pollution according to the ceremonial laws of the Old Testament. You can reference Numbers 19:11, Numbers 19:16. And by that time, the rabbinical tradition, the rabbinical laws added even to the written laws, were even more stringent.
And so this meant He was polluted if He did this. This is a big deal, Jesus touching an open coffin. And there was a dead body in that coffin. But here's the difference. Jesus knew, and this is the way it always is, and this is what we should remember, especially those of us who get so hung up on rules, those of us who are legalists, those of us who are so bound up in these kinds of things.
Jesus knew that the law required mercy over sacrifice. And it does. Mercy trumps sacrifice every time, every single time. And so Jesus took charge. It says He went up, touched the coffin, and those carrying it stood still.
I don't know why they stopped. Maybe they thought this was an unusual situation; they want to see what was going to happen. I don't know. But His touch stopped everything. No doubt there was a moment of silence there.
And what's happening is this: life and death stood face to face in that moment. And what this scene does is this scene shows Jesus's mission to arrest death and swallow it up in victory. That's what this is foreshadowing.
And the silence here was broken by Jesus's simple command. He said, "Young man, I say to you, arise. Get up! Get up!" Now, what strikes me about this, and I think it's pretty significant, significantly, when performing maybe what we would call lesser miracles, Jesus sometimes would direct specific actions to be taken along with the healing, especially the one He's doing the healing to.
He might tell them to do something, right? And the actions were usually spiritually instructive to the one receiving the miracle. But when it came to resurrections—and you can check it out, look at all the gospel accounts where Jesus performed a resurrection—when it came to resurrections, He used only His word.
Only His word. Clearly, He wanted everyone to see that resurrection power rests in Him. And notice, too, that when He spoke to the young man's cold corpse, the boy heard Him. This young man heard Him. The young man was dead in body, but he was fully alive somewhere. We can't forget that.
We shouldn't push that aside. Because for we humans, for those of us in this room who are human, death is only death of the body. It's only death of the body. The human spirit lives on.
Now, I know that the Bible teaches and uses the term, especially as it relates to those who are not Christians, those who have never been saved, those who have never trusted Christ, repented of their sins and placed their hope in Him.
The Bible says that when they die physically, they also experience what the Bible calls in the book of Revelation as the second death: the second death. However, it's not annihilation. It is not cessation. It is always dying, but never dead. It is spiritual separation from God in hell, torment, forever. The second death. Born once, you're going to die twice. Born twice, you're going to die once.
And what happened? This young man heard the voice of Christ and he obeyed, as by the way, every deceased human is going to. The Bible says the dead man sat up. He who was dead sat up and began to talk. I would like to have been there and seen that. How would you have reacted?
Sat up and started to talk. I mean, the gray, cold clay of his face all of a sudden flushed with color. His fixed dilated eyes twitched and focused on the blue sky. He blinked, he sat up, and by the way, he's in a shroud ready to be buried.
He sat up in his shroud and he began to talk. I wonder what he said. "Get me out of these rags! What's going on?" Maybe it was very mundane. Maybe it was, "Mother, you sure look tired," or, "I'm sure hungry, what's for supper?" or, "Who all these people?"
But maybe it was something that was gloriously exalted. Maybe he knew what had been going on. Whatever the case, at any rate, the crowd fell back and some, no doubt, began to shriek, and there was this universal rush of adrenaline all at once.
And here and there, all these incredulous voices began to praise God. And think about his mother. Think about his mama. No doubt there were still tears, but her wet eyes radiated heavenly light and overwhelming joy as she embraced her only son, her only son.
And ladies and gentlemen, this is a picture of our future as well. That voice that raised this young, poor, babbling man from his coffin is going to be trumpeted into the depths of the sea. It's going to be trumpeted into the roots of the mountains, into the scattered dust and the lost molecules of God's physically dead children.
And all who know Christ will hear it. We will all hear His voice. It'll be, "Get up, Ray! Get up, DJ! Get up, Patty! Get up, Josh! Get up, David! It's resurrection morning!" That's what it's going to be. And you're going to hear it. You will know His voice if you belong to Christ.
As heart-stopping as the resurrection of this widow's only son was, the resurrection was amazing. There's some further revelation here, though, in this event for Jesus's Jewish audience.
Over 500 years earlier, the prophet Elijah had gone to another small town, Zarephath, just as Jesus went to Nain. There he met a widow at the gate of that town, just as Jesus did at Nain. The widow had an only son who became ill and died, as had happened in Nain.
The highlight of the story goes like this: First Kings 17. "Give me your son," Elijah replied. He took him from her arms, carried him to the upper room where he was staying, laid him on his bed. Then he cried out to the Lord, "O Lord, my God, have You brought tragedy also upon this widow I am staying with by causing her son to die?"
Then he stretched himself out on the boy three times and cried to the Lord, "O Lord, my God, let this boy's life return to him." The Lord heard Elijah's cry, and the boy's life returned to him and he lived.
Elijah picked up the child, carried him down from the room into the house. He presented him to his mother and said, "Look, your son is alive." And then the woman said to Elijah, "Now I know you are a man of God and that the word of the Lord from your mouth is the truth."
Now, Jesus, at His Father's direction, sovereignly performed a miracle that nearly duplicated Elijah's. The language of Luke's account here is conclusive. Because in Luke chapter seven verse 15, which records here that Jesus presented him to his mother, is the same words as First Kings 17:23: presented him to his mother.
And not only is the language identical, but the results are very similar. Because there the widow became convinced that Elijah was a prophet, a man of God, and spoke God's word.
Here we read after Jesus's miracle that, "Then fear," verse 16, "came upon all, and they glorified God, saying, 'A great prophet has risen up among us'; and, 'God has visited His people.'" Literally, "has come to help His people."
Now, Jesus was much more than a great prophet. But ascribing to Him such a title was the best the townspeople could do without any further revelation at this moment. It was a spontaneous chorus of realization that messianic times had come upon them, the kingdom of God had come.
Their response here—"God has visited us," "God has visited His people," "come to help His people"—similar to what Zechariah had said in the birth narratives where he said in Luke 1:68, "Praise be to the Lord, the God of Israel, because He has come, He has visited His people and redeemed His people."
And so Jesus had come in Elijah-like power, except for one huge difference. And it was this: Elijah had to stretch himself out over the boy three times while crying out to God for help, but Jesus only had to speak the word because He is God.
How awesome Jesus is. Wouldn't you agree with that? How awesome Jesus is. We see in this passage His awesome compassion and we see His awesome power. His compassion and His power. And we need His awesome compassion.
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Dr Timothy Mann is the founder of Firm Foundations Ministries. Pastor Tim grew up in Western North Carolina and became a follower of Jesus as a teenager. While serving in the U.S. Army, he responded to God’s call on his life to preach the Gospel and left military service to begin pastoring in a local church.
Pastor Tim is the founding Pastor of Providence Church and has pastored churches in Missouri, North Carolina, and Florida. He attended Southwest Baptist University in Bolivar, Missouri; Luther Rice Seminary in Atlanta, Georgia; and Anderson University in Anderson, South Carolina. He has a Bachelor of Arts in Religion, a Master of Arts in Christian Studies, a Master of Divinity, and a Doctor of Ministry degree in Biblical Preaching. He is a member of the Evangelical Homiletics Society, and his philosophy of ministry is centered upon being used by God to help others become committed and mature followers of Jesus and leading the church to glorify God through fulfilling the Great Commission that Christ gave his followers. What he loves most about ministry is when others understand God’s Word and grace and love Him more fully.
Pastor Tim and his wife, Patty, have been married 30+ years, and they have two adult children and one grandson.
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