Veteran’s Day—Thank You
November 11, 2019
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Thank you for your service.
I was walking through an airport and a man near me walked up to two military servicemen he didn't know and said, “Thank you for your service.” It got me thinking. It’s pretty easy for me to be disconnected from the sacrifices our military personnel make. Stories around Veteran’s Day always put a face on the sacrifices made, but it’s easy to forget. That's why I now make it a practice to walk up to military personnel I don’t know and say, “Thank you.” Perhaps you’ll join me.
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If you want to feel close in your marriage, do things that make you close.
Healthy couples realize that it’s up to them to make day-to-day decisions to protect their time together. I’m talking about talking together. Just the two of you. No cell phones, no kids, no Instagram. Talking about your day, your parenting, your faith. And doing things together helps your closeness, too, especially for couples in stepfamilies. The vast majority of happy couples in blended families have interests that bring them together. The couple that prays and plays together, stays together.
November 8, 2019
I’m not sure you want to do this, but if you want to push a friend or family member away, just lie to them.
Lying, breaking a promise, or deceiving someone—yeah, those are all good ways of destroying trust and adding distance to a relationship. Proverbs 12:22 tells us that “the Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who are truthful.” We hurt our relationship with God when we’re dishonest and we hurt earthly relationships, too. Many marriages and families are ripped apart by lies. I know the truth is very hard to say sometimes but telling the truth is always less harmful that a lie.
November 7, 2019
Parenting over the long haul is tough. Stepparenting is really tough.
Not all stepparents feel like their job is tough, but clearly, on the whole, if you listen to stepparents you’ll see they have many challenges and they also have fewer rewards. Biological parents have challenges, too, but on a regular basis they also enjoy sweet, positive moments with their kids: a sincere “thank you” or a teachable moment that brings them together. Stepparents enjoy these kinds of moments, too, but far less often. And, that’s why stepparents need a really big hug.
November 6, 2019
Ron, I’m an adult and my mom is dating a guy and I’m having a rough time with it.
I heard from a listener who was struggling with her mom’s serious relationship. “My dad died five years ago,” she said. “Even though I’m happy for my mom, I’m not comfortable with her new relationship, but I’m trying to be supportive.” I don’t care how old you are, when a parent dates or marries, it dramatically changes your life in many unwanted ways. I appreciate her attitude. But this doesn’t necessarily make the adjustments easy. It does bring a grace to the equation and that always helps.
November 5, 2019
Parents, what’s your role when it comes to your kids and the other parent?
Whether you’re married and raising your kids together, or you have a co-parent who lives in the other home, or maybe there’s a stepparent who lives with you; I’m wondering, are you a defender--speaking up for one side or the other or an interpreter who tries to translate and bridge the gap between the other two. You can play either one of these roles some of the time but don’t get stuck in them all of the time. And, as much as you can, stand with your spouse. Be united.
November 4, 2019
Okay, let’s face it some people are just easier to forgive than others.
The ease with which we forgive others is in part determined by the size of the offense and who it is, right? Many consider their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, or ex-spouse an enemy. Jesus specifically told us to pray for our enemies, even more to love them. One great way to love them is to forgive them, just as the Lord has forgiven you. Maybe pray this, “Lord, in response to your forgiving mercy, give me a grateful heart, so much so, that I am able to forgive those who have hurt me.” Amen.
November 1, 2019
How do you maintain parental unity when you disagree?
Well-intentioned, good-hearted parents disagree sometimes. But what do you do if one of you has already taken action? What you don’t do is make critical comments in front of the kids about how the other handled it. Or even worse, reverse the decision. Instead have a parent meeting behind closed doors, and listen. Find out why they did what they did. Then share your thoughts about what might happen next time. Parenting is a live-and-learn experience. Just make sure you live and learn together.
October 31, 2019
Parents really must work together. So, here’s another tip for maintaining your parental unity.
There are many ways to handle parenting decisions and supporting one another is important. When in doubt call a parental meeting and get on the same page. It’s fine to say to a child, “hey, let me get back to you,” and then have a quick conversation with your spouse about how you’d like to handle it. Stepparents who are unsure of their role benefit from a quick check in too. When a mom or dad takes time to check in with them, it speaks volumes to the children about respecting the stepparent.
October 30, 2019
Now here’s another no-brainer about blended families: adding a stepparent to the parenting team is bound to change something.
When things change maintain your parental unity by letting the biological parent communicate the change in rule. Sometimes a stepparent’s authority is naturally questioned by kids. When things are changing they really need to hear from their mom or dad. Have a parent meeting to discuss what the new rule is and how you’re going to communicate it and then stand side by side as the biological parent does much of the talking. It is vitally important that you maintain a united front.
October 29, 2019
Your strength in parenting comes in part from your unity as a team.
Parenting was meant to be a team sport. Here is the first rule to maintaining your parental unity. Be proactive. Don’t wait until problems occur to discuss your expectations, punishment, and how you’ll build character in your kids. That sounds like a no-brainer, but about half of stepfamily couples are parenting on the fly never discussing their parenting strategies. You have to work hard to get on the same parenting page and it’s important that you do. United you stand, but divided they fall.
October 28, 2019
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