Diligence Secures a Reward (Proverbs 27)
December 4, 2017
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Diligence secures a reward.
“Whoever tends a fig tree,” Proverbs 27 says, “will eat its fruit.” Apparently, faithful diligence brings reward. Now, that’s a speech we want to tell our kids before they go to college. And, one we need to give ourselves when we have a prodigal child. Or are looking for a job or struggling with a bad habit. In faithfulness, keep tending to the tree—the relationship or situation—season after season. It may not bring quick reward or bear the exact fruit you want, but reward it likely will bring.
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Proverbs 27
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“But Ron, what do you do about all the things that you can’t control?” Well, here is one more tip for managing strep-stress at the holidays. Do what you can and accept what you can’t change.
Honestly, this tip may be the most difficult for co-parents. After all, you’ve contacted the other home, tried to be reasonable and cordial, and they still won’t meet you in the middle. It can be extremely frustrating sometimes. So what do you do? Bend when you can bend but say no when you have to and stick to your guns. And, in all things repay evil with good. As for all the other little irritating things you can’t control? For the well-being of your kids, you may just have to grin and bear it.
December 1, 2017
So, what do you call a stepfamily?
There’s a lot of confusion about what term to use for the stepfamily these days. Ah, see there, I used one. “But, Ron, we call our family a blended family because we’re trying to blend everyone together.” Yeah, that works. But, then, for some a blended family is a bi-racial family. Well, others call themselves a remarried family, or a combined family. There’s a lot of terms, but no matter which you choose, just remember to act like a family.
November 30, 2017
Criticism is hard to carry.
Imagine if I walked up to you and said, “I can’t believe your mom. Someone should call the authorities on her. Clearly, she doesn’t love you.” My guess is you’d be pretty mad at me. But what if it wasn’t me talking about your mom? It was your dad. Or it was your grandma talking about your dad. Or your mom talking about your stepmom. No matter how old you are, you’d feel it, wouldn't you? I talk to kids who tell me that’s what their parents say about each other. On their behalf, “Knock it off.”
November 29, 2017
Today, I’m on my soapbox.
There are five stages of grief, right? Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and then acceptance. But this stage model from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross applied to people who are dying not those left behind. She studied anticipatory grief and that’s it. I can’t find any empirical evidence that says these stages exist let alone that you go through them in any particular order. Grief is a journey not a destination and you can’t predict the path. Walk the journey with God and the people who love you.
November 28, 2017
When God repeats himself—pay attention!
Nearly 150 times Scripture tells us not to worry about life or be afraid. 150! God said, “Do not be afraid” to Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, the Israelites (12 times), Joshua (3 times), Gideon, Mary and Joseph, the disciples (10 times), Paul and many more. Now my friend, Ron Walters, points out that most of the time this happened God’s people faced a challenge and God knew they would be anxious. What about you? Does the unknown make you fearful? What do you do? Set aside fear and trust Him.
November 27, 2017
“I don’t know. It just doesn’t feel like home anymore.”
A 35 year-old woman said this as she reflected on her holiday family visit. She went to her childhood home but because her dad married after her mom’s death, he was preoccupied with his new wife and her family. All of that made home feel foreign. Changes to family traditions can make children and teens feel that way, too. That's why parents should keep some traditions. Also, acknowledge that change is hard. Talk about it. Remind them that what hasn’t changed is your love for them.
November 24, 2017
Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise.
The writer of Psalm 100 was not referencing today the national holiday we call Thanksgiving. He was talking about standing before the Lord with a heart of gratitude. This Thanksgiving, be sure to pause between bites of turkey and pumpkin pie, and express your deep gratitude to the Lord who is faithful to all generations. Then, tell Him how grateful you are for each member of your family. Oh, and don’t forget to tell them you’re grateful for them, too.
November 23, 2017
When it comes to insurance, which beneficiary do you want to be—primary or secondary?
Evelyn wrote to our ministry concerned about her husband’s life insurance. He had one policy for his kids and another for her and her children, and that felt odd to her. I suggested he was wise to arrange for money to be passed on to each. “And,” I said, “Don’t get caught up in ‘primary’ or ‘secondary’ language. That’s really not a measurement of your value to your husband. The question should be is he taking care of you and the kids? The good news,” I told her, “It sounds like he is.”
November 22, 2017
Never get caught in a forest fire.
In 1988, Yellowstone National Park was burned by a massive forest fire that cost $120 million to extinguish. A number of factors contributed. For a long time the forest service would quickly put out small forest fires, which resulted in a huge build-up of debris. Some people are like this. When a relational conflict arises, they quickly put it out and relationship rubble builds up. Don’t be afraid of conflict. When managed, it removes what is unhealthy and helps your forest to be free of debris.
November 21, 2017
Stories make faith come alive.
Family author Ron Rose says one way to pass the baton of faith to your kids is to tell them three types of stories. First, tell them the faith stories of Bible characters. Tell them about Abraham’s faithfulness…and doubt. David’s humility…and pride. Second, tell them your faith story. How you came to Christ and how your faith impacts every-day decisions. And third, talk about the faith journeys of your extended family. Let their lives—good or bad—be living examples of how faith connects to life.
November 20, 2017
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