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“My Addiction Was a Terrorist”: How Bob Sklar Found Real Recovery, Not Just Sobriety

May 25, 2026

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟏 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒

In this powerful facilitator spotlight, JJ West and Doug Barnes sit down with Bob Sklar, one of the original Every Man’s Battle facilitators. Bob shares a 36‑year recovery journey that includes childhood sexual abuse, early pornography exposure, a porn‑shaped view of sex, coming to Christ at 18, harmful church advice, multiple relapses, and finally discovering the missing piece: connection with God, self, and others through Every Man’s Battle and Sustained Victory.

You’ll hear:

  1. How abuse, secrecy, and moving every three years formed emotional “templates” of not belonging, driving Bob to porn to “thermostat” his feelings and escape reality.
  2. Why negotiating with addiction (“I’ll just look once…”) is like bargaining with a terrorist, and how poor disclosure and “work your own side of the street” thinking delayed his wife’s healing.
  3. How EMB and deep friendships with other facilitators taught him rigorous honesty, emotional language, and authentic connection, leading him to say, “I didn’t just get sobriety; I got a life.”


🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about Sustained Victory and online recovery groups so you’re not fighting this battle alone.


📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 & 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐑 𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒

Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month?

👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Bonus Content” in the subject line to receive exclusive Every Man’s Battle Podcast resources.

To send your questions, feedback, or topic ideas for upcoming Q&A episodes:👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Podcast Question” in the subject line.


☎️ Need more help—counseling, groups, or a structured plan after this episode stirred things up?

👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com to connect with Christian sexual integrity counseling, workshops, and recovery groups.


🎟 𝐒𝐏𝐄𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋 𝐎𝐅𝐅𝐄𝐑 – 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 𝐌𝐀𝐍’𝐒 𝐁𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐋𝐄 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐕𝐄 & 𝐒𝐔𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐈𝐍𝐄𝐃 𝐕𝐈𝐂𝐓𝐎𝐑𝐘

If Bob’s story feels uncomfortably familiar—decades of white‑knuckling, partial disclosure, relapse, and secret negotiation with your addiction—it may be time to stop managing and start truly recovering. The Every Man’s Battle Intensive is a 3‑day, Christ‑centered workshop where:

  1. Licensed Christian counselors teach biblically grounded, clinically informed material on sexual integrity.
  2. You participate in small‑group sessions led by trained facilitators like Bob, JJ, and Doug.
  3. You experience real connection with men who share your struggle and want the same freedom.

After the workshop, New Life’s Sustained Victory and other Every Man’s Battle groups (online and in person) offer weekly community so you don’t go back to isolation. They help men continue to build connection with God, self, and others—the very missing piece Bob describes as revolutionary for his recovery.


💵 Concerned about cost? Scholarships are often available so finances don’t have to keep you out of the battle. When you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE, ask about assistance for Every Man’s Battle and Sustained Victory.

Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 when you register to save $100 on your Every Man’s Battle registration.


🎧 Discover more ways to listen & watch:

👉 Every Man’s Battle Podcast hub: https://newlife.com/podcasts/every-mans-battle/

👉 New Life LIVE & other New Life podcasts: https://newlife.com/podcasts/

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Every Man’s Battle Intensive

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.

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About Every Man’s Battle Podcast

New Life has been helping thousands of men with their sexual integrity for over 3 decades. Every Man's Battle podcast discusses the topics that will help men understand their challenges, the pathway to Christlike character, and hope for recovery. Becoming a man of sexual integrity is an ongoing process, and we can help you on the journey. New Life's EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST can assist you on the pathway to becoming the man you hope to be. As all things sexual integrity, EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST is for EVERY MAN!

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive.

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About New Life

JJ WEST

JJ is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Orlando. With a Master’s and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education, JJ began private practice after years of working with children, adolescents and families in outpatient settings. In 2009, he became an Every Man’s Battle Workshop facilitator, taking over as the main presenter in 2022. Before becoming a therapist, he worked for several years with college students in both Christian ministry and church settings. JJ is married with 2 adult children; and enjoys outdoor adventures, traveling to other cultures, good movies, and Florida State sports.


DOUG BARNES

Doug is a LifeCoach and Licensed Professional Counselor with Supervisor status working in private practice in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex; working primarily with men and couples in finding restoration and redemption from sexual brokenness. His journey into becoming a clinician began in his teens and cultivated into a road to healing in his early twenties after the death of his father. He has worked with Every Man’s Battle Intensive Workshops as a facilitator since 2006. His passion is to give other men what God has given him—freedom. Doug has been married for 31 years and has 2 sons. He is a rollercoaster junkie, runner, all around fitness gym rat, and sometimes even breaks out his guitars to play.

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Phone Number

(800) NEW-LIFE (639-5433)