From Beating Yourself Up to Befriending Your Younger Self: Practical Tools for Real Change
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒
In Part 2 of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes draw on Gabor Maté’s insight that the real question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” They show how sexual acting out is a flawed attempt to soothe unaddressed childhood wounds, and they model a compassionate, curious way of revisiting those stories instead of piling on more shame.
You’ll learn:
- Why slowing down, journaling, and tracing your last relapse backward in time helps identify emotions, thoughts, and needs that drove the behavior.
- How JJ’s and Doug’s own stories of public shame and insignificance still echo in adulthood—and how compassionate re‑parenting of their younger selves changes their responses today.
- Practical first steps for processing acting out (journaling, naming needs, seeking legitimate ways to meet them) and why doing this work in community—through groups like Sustained Victory and other men’s sexual integrity meetings—is essential for lasting transformation.
🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about scholarships so finances don’t keep you from the help you need.
📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐅𝐎R EMAIL 𝐒𝐔𝐁𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐁𝐄𝐑𝐒
Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month?
👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Bonus Content” in the subject line to receive exclusive Every Man’s Battle Podcast resources.
Have questions or feedback, or want JJ and Doug to address your specific struggle in a future episode?
👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Podcast Question” in the subject line.
☎️ Need prayer, a counselor, or help finding a group?
👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com for counseling, groups, and faith‑based sexual integrity resources.
🎟 𝐒𝐏𝐄𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋 𝐎𝐅𝐅𝐄𝐑 – 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 𝐌𝐀𝐍’𝐒 𝐁𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐋𝐄 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐕𝐄 & 𝐌𝐄𝐍’𝐒 𝐆𝐑𝐎𝐔𝐏𝐒
If you’re tired of beating yourself up after each relapse and ready to learn why you keep going back, the Every Man’s Battle Intensive is a crucial next step. This 3‑day, in‑person workshop combines teaching, story work, small‑group interaction, and practical tools so men can address both behaviors and the pain beneath them.
After the weekend, Sustained Victory and other New Life men’s sexual integrity groups offer the ongoing support, accountability, and compassionate community needed to keep processing wounds, needs, and triggers in real time.
💵 Concerned about cost? Scholarships are available because New Life does not want finances to be the reason you stay stuck. When you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE, ask about assistance for Every Man’s Battle and ongoing groups.
Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 when you register to save $100 on your Every Man’s Battle registration.
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Featured Offer
Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.
Featured Offer
Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.
About Every Man’s Battle Podcast
Becoming a man of sexual integrity is an ongoing process, and we can help you on the journey. New Life's EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST can assist you on the pathway to becoming the man you hope to be. As all things sexual integrity; EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST is for EVERY MAN!
Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive.
About JJ West & Doug Barnes
JJ WEST
JJ is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Orlando. With a Master’s and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education, JJ began private practice after years of working with children, adolescents and families in outpatient settings. In 2009, he became an Every Man’s Battle Workshop facilitator, taking over as the main presenter in 2022. Before becoming a therapist, he worked for several years with college students in both Christian ministry and church settings. JJ is married with 2 adult children; and enjoys outdoor adventures, traveling to other cultures, good movies, and Florida State sports.
DOUG BARNES
Doug is a LifeCoach and Licensed Professional Counselor with Supervisor status working in private practice in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex; working primarily with men and couples in finding restoration and redemption from sexual brokenness. His journey into becoming a clinician began in his teens and cultivated into a road to healing in his early twenties after the death of his father. He has worked with Every Man’s Battle Intensive Workshops as a facilitator since 2006. His passion is to give other men what God has given him—freedom. Doug has been married for 31 years and has 2 sons. He is a rollercoaster junkie, runner, all around fitness gym rat, and sometimes even breaks out his guitars to play.
Contact Every Man’s Battle Podcast with JJ West & Doug Barnes
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