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What Really Works in Sexual Integrity Recovery? Ancient Paths, Boundaries, and Brotherhood

January 5, 2026
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📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩

Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off Season 3 with a powerful conversation on what really works in sexual integrity recovery—ancient paths, clear boundaries, daily structure, brotherhood, and the “gift of getting caught.”​

In this episode, they:

  1. Unpack Jeremiah 6:16 and why recovery is a path, not a quick fix.
  2. Share real-life tools that still shape their own integrity walk years into recovery.
  3. Highlight books and concepts that helped them move from secrecy and shame into freedom and community.​


☎️ 𝐄𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐎𝐃𝐄 𝐓𝐎𝐏𝐈𝐂𝐒 & 𝐃𝐈𝐒𝐂𝐔𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍:

  1. “Recovery isn’t a sprint; it’s a marathon on an ancient path.” JJ and Doug explain why there is no magic formula—and why asking for the “good way” and walking in it is the only way to find rest for your soul.
  2. “What keeps me on the path?” Doug shares five core practices: integrity and secondary boundaries, understanding triggers, living a battle-plan routine, proactive check‑in calls, and letting trusted brothers really know and love him.
  3. “Why can’t I fix myself by myself?” JJ talks about the “gift of getting caught,” the renewal of the mind, and how both heart and brain need healing in sexual addiction recovery.
  4. “What do my porn patterns say about my story?” They discuss how the specific content a man is drawn to can point to wounds of the heart and legitimate needs he’s been trying to meet in illegitimate ways.
  5. “What if my dad—or spiritual leaders—failed me?” JJ shares how “bad kings” can still drive men toward their good Heavenly Father, and how God can re‑father the parts of a man’s heart that were never nurtured.


📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐒𝐔𝐁𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐁𝐄𝐑𝐒

Want extra tools and follow‑up content for Season 3?

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📚 FEATURED RESOURCES & MENTIONED BOOKS:

(Consider linking these in the show notes/store as available.)

  1. 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙄𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙫𝙚 (3‑Day Workshop) – Tools, teaching, and brotherhood for men ready to break free from pornography, affairs, and sexual acting out.​ https://newlife.com/workshops/every-mans-battle/
  2. 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙇𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝘼𝙙𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 – Sharon Hersh’s book that unpacks why you can’t fix your broken self with your broken self, and why “getting caught” can be a gift that leads to freedom. https://www.amazon.com/Last-Addiction-Recovery-Lasting-Freedom/dp/0877882037
  3. 𝙒𝙞𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙄𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙘𝙮 – Dr. William Struthers explains the brain chemistry of pornography and how God renews the mind in recovery. https://store.newlife.com/purchase/wired-for-intimacy
  4. 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙃𝙚𝙧 𝙏𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩 – Jason Martinkus on rebuilding trust with radical honesty and practical amends after betrayal. https://store.newlife.com/purchase/worthy-of-her-trust
  5. 𝙐𝙣𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙙 – Jay Stringer shows how your unwanted sexual behavior can actually map the story of your wounds and point you toward healing. https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Heal
  6. 𝙎𝙖𝙢𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙞𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙈𝙤𝙣𝙠𝙨 – Nate Larkin on why David was restored and Samson wasn’t—and how brotherhood makes the difference. https://store.newlife.com/purchase/samson-and-the-pirate-monksing/dp/1631466720
  7. 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙒𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 – Milan & Kay Yerkovich reveal how attachment styles shape intimacy and sexual acting out (featured more deeply at the Intimacy in Marriage workshop).​https://store.newlife.com/purchase/how-we-love-expanded-edition
  8. 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙚𝙭𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝘼𝙙𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 – Mark Laaser’s clinical and pastoral guide to understanding sexual addiction. https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Wounds-Sexual-Addiction-Laaser/dp/0310256577


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About JJ West & Doug Barnes

JJ WEST
JJ is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Orlando. With a Master’s and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education, JJ began private practice after years of working with children, adolescents and families in outpatient settings. In 2009, he became an Every Man’s Battle Workshop facilitator, taking over as the main presenter in 2022. Before becoming a therapist, he worked for several years with college students in both Christian ministry and church settings. JJ is married with 2 adult children; and enjoys outdoor adventures, traveling to other cultures, good movies, and Florida State sports.


DOUG BARNES
Doug is a LifeCoach and Licensed Professional Counselor with Supervisor status working in private practice in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex; working primarily with men and couples in finding restoration and redemption from sexual brokenness. His journey into becoming a clinician began in his teens and cultivated into a road to healing in his early twenties after the death of his father. He has worked with Every Man’s Battle Intensive Workshops as a facilitator since 2006. His passion is to give other men what God has given him—freedom. Doug has been married for 31 years and has 2 sons. He is a rollercoaster junkie, runner, all around fitness gym rat, and sometimes even breaks out his guitars to play.

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