Ask Pastor Mike Live

Guest (Male): On our chat on YouTube, Loni says if a transgender person alters the flesh and they're seeking to be the other gender, God sees it as sin, correct? Yes. It's like telling God he made a mistake.

Mike Fabarez: Well, yeah, that's true. Even if you feel like you are a mistake, and I think every adolescent at some point feels like they're a mistake. Job felt like a mistake by the fourth chapter of Job. He's saying it would be better if I was never born. Jonah thought he was a mistake in the sense that he was despairing of life. Elijah was there running from Jezebel thinking his life was a mistake. He wanted to die.

So even if you feel that way, it doesn't matter what you feel. You've got to look at the truth and the facts. And the facts are you are here because God designed you to be here. And if He designed you with the gonads of a male, you're a male, and you need to be a masculine male. Not that you have to be a middle linebacker. You could be a chess strategist on the chess club, but you've got to be a man and you should seek to be a man. And if you're a woman with ovaries, you need to be a female and you need to seek to be a female.

So, yes, you shouldn't alter your flesh nor should you alter your hairstyle. The Bible's pretty clear. He cares about what gender He made you and you should express that gender as a masculine male and as a feminine female. And when we try to bend the genders, so to speak, even in mild ways, by having women toughen up to be like men and men trying to soften up to be feminine beta males, God is not pleased with that.

God wants strong men and He wants feminine women and He wants those two genders with the expressions of masculine and feminine to glorify Himself. So we need to seek to establish that. We should start teaching our children that. And if you want a book on trying to raise men out of boys, I might suggest a book I wrote and you can find it on Amazon or wherever you buy books. Just type in Raising Men, Not Boys. Or just type in my name, you can find several books that I've written. Fabarez, F-A-B-A-R-E-Z. If you search my last name, which is pretty rare, although there are some in our country, some in France. The name is out there, but not many of us.

But if you look up Raising Men, Not Boys, I try to express in that book the importance of the distinction between male and female and how we should be raising our boys to be men because men have a specific assignment in this world that is distinctive from women. If you're raising young daughters, you should definitely raise those daughters to be women. That's the goal. And for most women that are going to end up having romantic interest, then according to 1 Corinthians 7, if you have a romantic interest, you should be aiming at marriage. And if you're aiming at marriage, that comes with children.

We're supposed to be fruitful and multiply, regardless of what the population growth people say. Now we're realizing, the demographers say now we don't have enough children, so finally they're going to agree with the Bible in our generation and say, "Let's have some kids." They're saying it now in China, they're saying it in Spain, they're saying it all over the place where the birth rates have plummeted. And we should be saying it in America. I pray in our church our people will continue to have babies. I want a full nursery because God said He loves to bless families and marriages with children.

And that doesn't mean it is going to happen every time. My wife and I dealt with infertility for many years, over a decade. So I know that sometimes that is not medically right because our bodies aren't what they were in the garden. But I am telling you that having children in marriage is certainly going to demand some things of a young lady who is going to become a wife and a mother. And our parents should be driving our daughters and discipling our daughters in a direction of fulfilling that job well.

Today it is blasphemy. If you say, "What we really need in this school is a home economics course," they're going to run you out of town with torches and pitchforks. But what we need is to return to what God says about the distinctions between male and female and work hard to try and fulfill God's glorious plan by leaning into that, not leaning away from it. We're not unisex, we shouldn't have these androgynous people. We should seek for men to be men and women to be women.

Frankly, even the women that campaign in college for the kind of feministic "let's turn every man into a beta male" and "hear me roar," guess what they end up with in ten years? Most of them really wanting a man to be a man because they're designed to want men, if they're romantically inclined, men who will be men and provide and be strong and do the things in their homes and in their churches and in society that they're called to do.

I'm sure I hacked some people off with that little soapbox, but oh well. I've seen my reviews of my book and some people don't care for it either, and I get that. But that's how it goes. Stand for the truth. Mike Fabarez signing off for today. Thanks for listening. Bye-bye.