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Mike Fabarez: questions that were written in. This is another one. I'll ask this one since Dr. Lee, you brought this up about engagement. Here is someone who says when two Christians, a man and a woman, hate that we have to clarify that today when it comes to marriage, but yes, a man and a woman want to get married, but before they get married, they they fall into temptation, sexual temptation. Is it better Is it better to depart from the friendship counting it as a learning experience or try to do better going forward? Yeah. Rashad, here here's what I would tell you.

If there's not temptation, you probably engaged to the wrong person or dating the wrong person because that's really what this is. This isn't a roommate situation. There needs to be a romantic feelings. There needs to be attraction and that needs to be It needs to be strong. And so what you're going to need is accountability. And if there is a stumbling along the way, and by that I mean you you cross some lines that you don't want to cross, I would say doesn't mean you have to trash the relationship, but I would say you re clarify the lines of of of what is proper in affection before you're married, and you say we're going to going to work on this.

We're going to work on this in a way that we're going to try to conquer this. And that may mean that we are alone in a crowd. You know, all of our alone time is, you know, at a booth at Denny's, and I doubt you're going to cross too many lines there. Although these days, who knows? But I would tell you that there are ways for you to prevent the kinds of things that you fear or if you have gone across some lines, I'm just telling you it doesn't mean you need to trash the relationship.

It does mean you need to do better, and you need to seek the kind of accountability and the kind of context that's going to help you be strong in that. But no, I wouldn't just chalk it up as a learning experience and depart from the friendship. There's got to be other reasons if you're going to do that. And there may be some other reasons, and sometimes I find people ask questions like that, and they don't bring up the other reasons. But if there's more to that, Rashad, give me a call and let's talk about it.