Ask Pastor Mike Live

Focal Point Ministries: Marie has written in: “I'm a mom of a teenage girl at youth camp. The pastor said that basically every guy, even married men, struggle with pornography. Is there a better way to teach on this, or should all women just assume every man has an issue with pornography?”

Well, that sounds really depressing, doesn't it, Marie? How do I answer this question? Well, I guess here’s the thing. Not every single last man in the world, but in some ways, Marie, it’s like asking this: Does every woman love a warm hug and a man saying, “You’re a wonderful woman, a beautiful woman”? Does every woman love that? Really, are we supposed to believe that every woman loves to be held in a warm embrace and told that she’s beautiful and wonderful? Yeah, I think almost every woman loves that.

In return, men are wired to love beauty in the form of a woman without clothes on. That’s how it’s made. That’s how the world works, and so that’s always going to be an issue. Read the first ten chapters of Proverbs, and you’ll see that that’s going to be the challenge in this world. So, I don’t mean to depress you, Marie, but I am going to say that is going to be an issue. I’m not trying to pile on what your daughter has heard at camp, but yeah, it’s going to be an issue.

That’s why modesty is important for gals. There are plenty of sins the Bible talks about that women are prone to and some sins men are prone to. I’m not saying every last man in the world, but it’s certainly one that most are prone to. Men have to work to make sure they do all they can to strengthen their lives against those kinds of things.

There are certain things where men and women are equally prone to certain sins. I think of gluttony. We all have an appetite to overeat. Men and women are equal in that regard, but we’re wired differently when it comes to gratifying the desires of the flesh in certain ways as it relates to the opposite sex. So, sorry about that. All right.