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Breaking Stubborn Habits – Part 1 of 2

September 19, 2025
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Many of us are stuck in a rut of bad habits and behavior. We want to change—and even promise to—but we can’t. In this message from Ephesians 4, Pastor Lutzer shows how God gives a person a new nature. In Christ, freedom is possible, even for those trapped in deep darkness.

Dave McCallister: Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us. Looking to Jesus, the founder and prompter of our faith. Many of us are stuck in a rut of bad habits. Let's think of today as the starting line for a new race and learn how to turn our backs on behavior that slows us down. Freedom is possible even for those trapped in deep darkness. To find out more, stay with us. From the Moody Church in Chicago, this is Running to Win with Dr. Erwin Lutzer, whose clear teaching helps us make it across the finish line.

Pastor Lutzer, all of us have stubborn habits, ingrained behavior that's hard to stop. Tell us where we're going in this new series.

Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer: Well, Dave, you know that there are plenty of people as a matter of fact we've all been there, haven't we? We tend to go over the same rut again and again. We find ourselves in a cycle of behavior that we would like to be able to break. And I think that this series of messages is going to be a great encouragement and show people the way to victory. So matter of fact, all those of you who are listening, let me encourage you to call your friends, invite them to listen. You might want to send them a text.

Let them know about this series of messages entitled How to Break a Stubborn Habit. My prayer is that they will gain insight that will enable them to be able to say I don't need to be in the same rut again and again. I can travel the road and I can see my future more clearly. Now with that, I encourage everyone to listen carefully. Let me begin by asking you a question. How do you go about changing human behavior? Here's an alcoholic. Makes many promises that he's going to change. Some of you wives may live with a man like that.

Says that this is going to be the last time I'm ever going to get drunk. But you know and God knows that those promises aren't going to change him. Here's a man who has the vice of gambling, which is a form of stealing. Heard about the man who went to Las Vegas in a $16,000 Cadillac and came back in a $200,000 Greyhound bus. And he gets this into his blood and he sees that he's wasting his paycheck. But it's just there and he can't stop. Or you think of a man in some form of immorality.

He really means well when he says I want to change. But no matter how well he means, he never does. You think of criminals who go through certain behavioral patterns and they do everything within their power to say next time I'm going to live differently. But next time they slip back in their old ways. How do you change a man like that? Now you know that behaviorism, which is the common accepted philosophy taught in our universities today, says that a man does what he does because of his environment first of all. Skinner and others have done some work with rats and with chickens and they found that when you reward them and when you punish them for certain kinds of behavior, they can be made to fit into a certain pattern.

Therefore, all of life, all of behavior is conditioned, determined if you will, by preceding causes of environment. So the feeling is that there is no such thing as a criminal. There is only a criminal environment. Now there's some truth to behaviorism. We thank our children, we reward them and we punish them in order to guide them along certain ways. But all of that can never make a life-changing transformation. And then of course there are those who say no it's in your heredity, it's in your genes. That's why you behave the way you do. Those of you who read the Trib will know a couple of weeks ago it had an article on sex offenders in which it says that a new drug has now been invented which when given to a person can help that individual.

We'll lower their drives and their passions. But the article went on to say that it is indeed only a temporary measure doesn't solve the basic problem of motivation and change of behavior. Now let's remember in order to understand what's happening, man is a tri-part being, a body, a soul, that is to say a mind, emotion, and will. And then he also has a spirit. And the spirit is the deepest level of human existence. It's in the realm of the spirit. The spirit can inform and control the conscience. It's also the spirit that can be in contact with God.

And the spirit of man, an unsaved man, that spirit is cut off from God. So man is dead toward God, but it is quickened and it is made alive when regenerated by the Holy Spirit. Now the great difference between the way that human beings change behavior and the way God changes behavior is simply this. Man begins from the outside and he hopes that what happens on the outside will work itself in. You take drugs to change your hormones. A chemical change of the body hopefully will cause a change in the soul. And perhaps also at the level of spirit.

God may use these outer influences, but God's way is totally different. God's way is to begin in the inner man. He begins at the very rock bottom of our personalities. He begins with the spirit down deep inside and then having changed that behavior begins to work itself out from the inside. Now you turn to Ephesians chapter four. The passage of scripture that was just read to us. Let's notice how God changes us. First of all, he gives us a new self. A new self. The text says in verse 24 of Ephesians four put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth.

The new self created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. That means that when a person accepts Christ as a savior, God does a miracle within and he actually changes the person at the level of the spirit by doing a miracle, creating a new nature and making the dead human spirit alive before God. Do you realize that when you accept Christ as your savior, there is a miracle that happens within you that can be done only by God and there's no contribution that you can make toward that miracle. When God creates, he does not use human power.

It is totally divine power. Your responsibility is only to believe and the miracle of the new birth is done by God and by God alone without any contribution of human effort because the miracle is so special. Now many of us when we accepted Christ as savior, if we did it as children, we can't perhaps remember that miracle very well or maybe the transformation wasn't that dramatic. We may not have even felt different. When I was a little boy, I used to pray every night that Jesus would come into my heart and was convinced he never did.

And at about the age 14, I was so miserable and my parents asked if they could pray with me because they could see my misery. And it was at that time they explained that I had to receive Christ by faith even if I couldn't see any change in my feelings. And I remember the next day I had so much peace and I had a sense of belonging to God that I never experienced before and I thought to myself this is conversion. And I believe that it was. Some of you have had that experience. You've heard testimonies where people have said you know I just had this weight of sin and this misery and suddenly I saw that Jesus was the savior of the world and I put my faith in him and cast myself upon his mercy and instantly I knew I had met God.

Just like Dory Van Stone in that orphanage sitting there never having heard of God except through swearing, knowing nothing about what Jesus had done for her and some students come and tell the gospel to the children at the orphanage and she sits there and says God nobody has ever loved me, but if you love me, you've got all of me. And that night when she went to bed, she said she cried because it was the first time in the 13 years that she had ever experienced a sense of peace and thought to herself this must be God.

And it was. It's conversion. So you see what God does is he does a miracle within. He quickens that human spirit and makes it alive to God, gives us that new self. And then of course he gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit to dwell in the area where the human spirit is. So difficult to talk about these things because we're not talking about a spatial relationship. As to say we can pinpoint it in space where it is in the body because it exists in what philosophers call the realm of metaphysics, namely that which is beyond the physical.

But the spirit of God comes to indwell believers therefore having been changed from the inside out, we then also receive the gift of the Holy Spirit of God who dwells within us. That's the first step in changing behavior. You receive a new self. But there's a second step and that is you now have to put on a new wardrobe. Paul here uses the imagery beginning at verse 25 of laying aside. Just like you might cast aside an old garment. Paul is saying that it's time for you now to live up to the new self that God has created within you and you can do that by casting aside your old habits and you put on some new ones.

Because if you've been changed in the inside, you now can see that behavior work itself out in terms of experience in terms of changed habits. And so he says live up to who you now are. Your child of God, begin to live like one. You've been taken out of prison. Shed those prison clothes and get on with the business of putting on some new clothes, clothes of freedom. Now with your bibles open, let's very quickly look at five habits that Paul says we should get rid of and these clothes should be cast aside and you ought to put on some new clothes as a believer.

Notice what they are. Number one lying. Verse 25 therefore laying aside falsehood. Falsehood is the way of the world. It belongs to the old life. What do you do? You put it aside and instead you are clothed with what? You begin to speak truth. You see the answer for falsehood is truth. That seems so basic, but you know that that's true. Because if you were to speak truth every time you were tempted to lie or every time you did lie or exaggerate, you were to say to the person excuse me and you go back to them and confess your sin and ask them to forgive you for what you've said, you would soon begin to speak truth.

And there are people today who find it so hard to speak truth because they are still bound by their old life. And you know it's so easy for us to speak error, not just by outright lying, but by exaggeration. Lord has sometimes had to rebuke me for that. You know you're telling a story and if you just add a little detail that's just an addition, but it makes such a better story. I mean something is missing unless you add that little bit that really didn't happen. Now notice that the motivation ought to be he says because we are members one of another.

That's why we ought to tell the truth. You begin to lie, you hurt yourself and when you hurt yourself, you hurt the body. There's just no way about it. If my body began to lie, if I began to say if my brain, my mind to speak more accurately, were to say to my hand would you please rise and the hand deceives and doesn't rise, I'd be in trouble. You think it's tough watching me now. You just see what it would be like then. So Paul says lying, cast it aside, speak truth. Number two, what about your temper?

It says be angry and do not sin. It's all right to be angry. Mark chapter three verse five. Jesus was livid with anger when he saw the hardness of their hearts. One of our problems is that we can't get angry about the things that ought to stir us and make us angry. But Paul says that when angry, do not sin. So you see you cast off that outer garment called the hot temper. And particularly in marital relationships, how important it is that that be cast aside. And the answer is deal with all of the issues that come up through communication, learn to communicate, learn to solve the problems that cause the anger and do it before the sun goes down.

Don't let that anger fester. My wife and I have sometimes had disagreements and we've gone to sleep without them being resolved and that's tough. That's tough. Oh, I feel so sorry for marriages where that happens all the time. And how I thank God for my wonderful wife who's sitting right over there. Because I'll tell you when God gave her to me, he gave the most precious gift he could ever give to a man. And we have had to learn that when difficulties arise and she and I do not always agree that when difficulties arise, they must be dealt with immediately because if you let them fester, they will always grow and be magnified and it will be totally out of proportion.

And that what he's saying. He says cast aside that hot temper, that anger and put on what does he say? The ability to resolve the issue. Now parenthetically, some people have a hot temper because the issues that cause them anger are deep down inside almost at the level of spirit. Perhaps it's rebellion against their circumstances. They may be rebelling against their parents. They may feel that they are failures. They may hate God because of the way they look. All kinds of things and suddenly here's a man who's a volcano just waiting to go off. The slightest thing sets him into a tizzy.

And the real root cause could be anyone of the things I've listed or guilt. But down there he's to deal with the things that are causing the anger. Third, stealing. Says in verse 28 let him who steals steal no longer. Punctuation is very important. You heard about the thief who read this verse this way. Let him who steals steal. No longer let him labor with his hands. You know it's easy for us to say well I haven't broken into a store so I don't steal. But you know there are people who steal from their employers because they don't work a full eight hours.

There are people who steal from the government. We'll hurry over quickly when we speak of that. There are people who steal from God. Malachi says will a man rob God? The answer is yes. People often do it in their tithes and offerings. There are people who gamble. They steal in these ways. And notice what the answer to stealing is. You cast that garment aside and what do you put in its place? He says let him work with his hands. You say well I don't have a job. I'm sorry, but it doesn't say unless of course the economy is bad and you don't have a job then don't work with your hands.

That is not in the text of scripture. It might be in the reversed vision, but it's not in my translation. There are too many people today who aren't willing to do absolutely anything to have a job and I mean anything unless of course it's immoral or wrong. And as a result, they fall into the temptation of stealing not because of hunger. You know there are a lot of people who are wealthy who steal. It is because first of all because of laziness and secondly because of greed. And so the answer is work with your hands says Paul and give.

It's what the text says. You have a temptation to steal. You begin to work at whatever thine hand of find is to do. You do it with all your might and then you begin to give generously and every time the offering is taken, give a little bit more than you think you can afford. And you know that that will take care of your habit of stealing. So what the text of scripture teaches. Well, let's keep moving on. What about blasphemy? Verse 29 let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth. Somebody who can't control his tongue just seems to be out of control.

I just say whatever comes into my mind. I give people a piece of my mind. Listen, don't ever give someone a piece of your mind unless you're absolutely sure that you can get by with a little bit that you have left over.

Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer: Well, my friends, this is Pastor Lutzer. Of course you've been listening to an exposition found in the book of Ephesians that helps us to understand that we can change our behaviors. And it is so important for us to look into our hearts and to ask the Lord a very specific question. What am I doing that is displeasing to you and what are those issues that I need to confront? And that's why this ministry of Running to Win really does exist. It helps us to see our sin, but thankfully it also focuses our mind on Christ and the victory that he has won.

I'm so thankful for the many of you who support this ministry. You've heard me say this before, but because of people just like you, Running to Win is now in 50 different countries in seven different languages. We receive many letters. One that is in front of me right now. This person says about 15 years ago your ministry got my life back on track and pointed me back to Christ. Thank you. I trust that the joy that was restored to me will continue to lift others up. Thank you, my dear friend. And thank you to the many of you who have been blessed.

You may not have connected with us, but nonetheless we're deeply grateful for this ministry. Now I do have a question for you. Would you be willing to help us on a regular basis? Would you consider becoming an endurance partner? Now that's someone who stands with us regularly with their prayers and their gifts and I do hope that you have a pen or pencil handy because I'm going to be giving you some contact info. Would you investigate becoming an endurance partner? Very quickly you go to rtwoffer.com. rtwoffer is all one word. rtwoffer.com and when you're there, you click on the endurance partner button or you can call us at 1 888 218 93 37.

Dave McCallister: It's time now for another chance for you to ask Pastor Lutzer a question about the bible or the Christian life. Tithing. It means giving a tenth of your income to God through the church and through other ministries. Cornelius wants to know Pastor Lutzer's take on tithing. He puts it like this. I want to know what Moody Church believes about tithing. I've heard some say this is an old testament concept that has been done away with.

Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer: Cornelius, thank you for asking. In the New Testament there is no emphasis on tithing and I'll tell you why. Because under grace we have a brand new relationship with God and therefore we should give as God has prospered us. We should give with joy. We should not be bound by a law that says you must give. That takes out the actual heart of what giving is all about. In the old testament the 10% was a kind of a tax. It was used in the temple. It was used to pay the priests etc etc. And in the New Testament we don't have that.

And therefore tithing is not a requirement. But Cornelius, I do need to add the 10% is a good way to begin the giving process. It's a good benchmark. And if we give generously, we'll want to give even more generously and according to second Corinthians God is going to prosper us so that we can give more. So it's a whole matter of the heart not of the law. So go in peace, Cornelius, but be generous and God will bless you.

Dave McCallister: Thank you, Cornelius, and thank you, Pastor Lutzer. If you'd like to hear your question answered, go to our website at rtwoffer.com and click on ask Pastor Lutzer or call us at 1 888 218 93 37. That's 1 888 218 93 37. You can write to us at Running to Win 1635 North LaSalle Boulevard, Chicago, Illinois 60614. Running to Win is all about helping you find God's road map for your race of life. Pastor Erwin Lutzer has brought part one of Breaking Stubborn Habits, the first of four messages on Getting to Know, a series designed to set you free from that which binds you.

Next time more on removing footholds the devil can use. Thanks for listening. For Pastor Erwin Lutzer, this is Dave McCallister. Running to Win is sponsored by the Moody Church.

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About Running To Win

Running the race of life is hard. But with the Bible front and center and a heart to encourage, Pastor Erwin Lutzer presents clear Bible teaching, helping you make it across the finish line. Since 2011, this 25-minute program has provided a Godward focus and features listeners’ questions.

About Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer

Dr. Erwin W. Lutzer is Pastor Emeritus of The Moody Church where he served as the Senior Pastor for 36 years (1980-2016). He earned a B.Th. from Winnipeg Bible College, a Th.M. from Dallas Theological Seminary, a M.A. in Philosophy from Loyola University, and an honorary LL.D. from the Simon Greenleaf School of Law (Now Trinity Law School).

A clear expositor of the Bible, he is the featured speaker on two radio programs: Running to Win—a daily Bible-teaching broadcast and Songs in the Night—an evening program that’s been airing since 1943. Running To Win broadcasts on a thousand outlets in the U.S. and across more than fifty countries in seven languages. His speaking engagements include Bible conferences and seminars, both domestically and internationally, including Russia, the Republic of Belarus, Germany, Scotland, Guatemala, and Japan. He has led tours to Israel and to the cities of the Protestant Reformation in Europe.

Pastor Lutzer is also a prolific author of over seventy books, including the bestselling We Will Not Be Silenced, One Minute After You Die, and the Gold Medallion Award winner, Hitler’s Cross. Pastor Lutzer and Rebecca live in the Chicago area and have three grown children and eight grandchildren. Connect with Pastor Lutzer on X (@ErwinLutzer) or moodymedia.org.

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