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Dr. Robert Jeffress: Hi, this is Robert Jeffress, and I'm glad to study God's word with you every day on this Bible teaching program. On today's edition of Pathway to Victory, the fact is forgiveness leads to life. Bitterness leads to emotional and sometimes even physical death. It is a poison that will destroy you and everyone around you. Release it and begin today to experience the freedom that comes from choosing forgiveness over bitterness.

David J. Mullins: Welcome to Pathway to Victory with author and pastor, Dr. Robert Jeffress. You know, a lot of people believe that forgiveness depends upon whether or not the offender comes asking for it. But in reality, forgiveness is an attitude choice that starts with you. Today on Pathway to Victory, Dr. Robert Jeffress shares both how and why we should choose forgiveness over bitterness. But first, let's take a moment to hear some important ministry updates.

Dr. Robert Jeffress: Thanks, David. And welcome again to Pathway to Victory. During the month of January, I've been pleased to welcome many new pathway partners into our circle of friends. A pathway partner is someone who commits to a monthly contribution in an amount that fits their heart and capacity. But they become so much more than a financial supporter. These remarkable friends serve as ambassadors who represent the gospel of Jesus Christ.

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As a bonus, I'll include the book I wrote for our teaching series, Choose Your Attitudes, Change Your Life. And then, I wanted to remind you that we're hosting the Pathway to Victory Cruise to Alaska, and I'd love for you to join us. Along the way, we'll be sailing through some of the most spectacular scenery God ever created. I can't wait to explore this magnificent wilderness with like-minded Christians who appreciate the creator's handiwork.

If you've been dreaming about a soul-feeding vacation, this Pathway to Victory Cruise to Alaska is the one for you. Check out all the details at ptv.org. All right, let's turn in our Bibles now to Ephesians chapter four. I titled today's message, Choosing Forgiveness Over Bitterness.

While I was pastor in a previous church, I used to have a weekly newspaper column in our local newspaper called Ask the Doctor. And people would write in various questions about the Bible, theology, the Christian life. And one of the most frequently asked questions was this one: What is the worst sin a person can commit? What is the worst sin? And people were always surprised by my answer. They would expect that I would mention one of the big three: murder, adultery, homosexuality.

They would say surely that would be the worst sin, but that wasn't the worst sin that I would mention. Now, we know that God doesn't grade sin. All sin is sin in God's eyes, and any sin is enough to disqualify us from God's kingdom. We know that God doesn't grade sin, but the fact is there are some sins that have a greater consequence in this life at least than other sins. And that's why I chose the sin of bitterness as the worst sin that somebody can commit.

Bitterness, refusing to let go of hurts in your life, refusing to forgive the offenses of others, has devastating results, not only in our life but in the lives of those around us. In Hebrews chapter 12, verse 15, the writer says, "See to it that no one of you come short of the grace of God, that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble and many be defiled." In our series, Choose Your Attitudes, Change Your Life, we're saying that we don't get to choose our circumstances in life.

We don't get to change our circumstances in our life, but we can choose our response to the circumstances of life. One common circumstance every one of us in this room or watching this broadcast have is this: At some point in your life, you're going to be hurt and hurt deeply by another person. Have you discovered that you can't control what other people do to you? Somebody's going to hurt you deeply. It may be a friend who betrays you, a parent who abuses you, a business associate who cheats you.

But the fact is we're all going to be hurt. That's a common experience. But we do have control over how we respond to those hurts in life. We can hold on to them—and that's what bitterness is—until that bitterness metastasizes into a tumor and destroys our life and those around us. The other choice we have is to forgive those offenses. The word forgive literally means to let go of.

Forgiveness is actually an attitude choice that honestly acknowledges an offense and then releases it on the basis of God's forgiveness of us. Let me say it again. Forgiveness is actually an attitude choice that honestly acknowledges an offense and then releases it on the basis of God's forgiveness of us. Today, we're going to talk about why we ought to choose forgiveness over bitterness. How can I let go of that deep wound in my life? How can I let go of it and why should I let go of it?

Probably the passage to me in the Bible that best answers those questions is found in a familiar story that Jesus told and is recorded in Matthew chapter 18. Turn to Matthew chapter 18 as we look first of all at forgiveness illustrated. Now, Jesus told a lot of stories, a lot of parables, but to understand those parables, you have to first of all understand the context of the parable. What is it that led up to Jesus telling whatever particular story it is he told?

It's true here as well. Earlier in Matthew 18, Jesus has been talking about church discipline. How should a congregation deal with members who sin and hurt that congregation or hurt the reputation of Christ? And remember Jesus gave us a four-step process. You're to go to that person in private. If he repents, you've won a brother. If he doesn't repent, then take two or three with you. If he doesn't repent, then tell it to the church and have the church pray for the person.

If he still doesn't repent, then you're to turn him out of the church so that he doesn't become a cancer in the church. That's how you deal with people who are sinning against the church or hurting the reputation of Christ. But then, beginning in verse 21, Peter changes topics. He says, then Peter came to him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Peter's no longer talking about sins against the body of Christ.

He's talking about personal sin. What am I to do about people who hurt me, Lord? Now, Peter had been around the Lord long enough to know he was supposed to forgive. Should I forgive up to seven times? Why did he choose seven? Well, there was a popular rabbi in Jesus' day who said, if somebody wrongs you, forgive. If he wrongs you again, forgive. If he wrongs you a third time, forgive. If he wrongs you a fourth time, don't forgive.

Three was the limit in Jesus' day for forgiveness. And so when Peter said, should I forgive up to seven times, he was being exceedingly generous. But how did Jesus respond? Verse 22: I do not say to you up to seven times, but up to 70 times seven. That was a way of saying you're to forgive and forgive and forgive and to keep on forgiving. Well, why should I do that? Why should I keep on forgiving somebody who hurts me?

That is the question that resulted in this story that Jesus told. Look at verse 23: For this reason, because you're supposed to forgive an unlimited number of times, let me tell you a story, Jesus said. The kingdom of heaven can be compared to a certain king who wished to settle accounts with his slaves. And when he had begun to settle them, there was brought to him one who owed him 10,000 talents. Here was a king who needed some money and he needed it quickly.

He was running short on cash. So he calls in all of his accounts receivable, people who owed him money. And he started obviously with the person who owed him the most money. It was a slave who owed him 10,000 talents. Now, in Jesus' day, a talent was a unit of measurement. It was about 80 pounds of gold. That was one talent. This slave owed the king 10,000 talents. You want to compute how much gold that is?

I did it one time, and then I did it according to the current price of gold today. You know how much money that would be today? That would be 16 billion dollars. Here is a slave who owed a king 16 billion dollars. You say, how could a measly slave end up owing that much money? Remember, this is a parable. It's a story Jesus told. He was using exaggeration to say, here is somebody who owed a debt he couldn't repay in 10,000 lifetimes if he wanted to.

But the king said, you owe me this money, repay. And verse 25, since the slave did not have the means to repay, the king commanded him to be sold along with his wife and children and all that he had and repayment to be made. The slave, therefore, falling down prostrated himself before the king, saying, "Have patience with me, and I will repay you everything." Now, how was he going to do that? Take a little bit out of his check every week until it was repaid 16 billion dollars?

I don't think so. It was impossible for him to repay the debt. But the Lord, verse 27, the king of that slave felt compassion and he released him and he forgave him the debt. There is the meaning of forgiveness. It's a financial term. It means to release someone of a debt. The king chose to forgive the debt, to absorb the loss himself. Then this is where the story takes a twist. But the slave, the one who had just been forgiven the 16 billion dollar debt, went out and found his fellow slave who owed him 100 denarii.

Now, a denarius in Roman culture was 16 cents. One denarius, that was a day's wage. This slave found a fellow slave who owed him 100 denarii. That would be about 16 dollars. And he seized him, and he began to choke him, saying, "Pay back what you owe." So his fellow slave fell down and began to entreat him, saying, "Have patience with me, I will repay you." Sound familiar? It's exactly what the first slave had said to the king: Have patience with me and I will repay you.

But unlike the king, this first slave was unwilling, verse 30 says. And he went and he threw his fellow slave into prison until he should pay back what was owed. So when his fellow slave saw what had happened, they were deeply grieved and came and reported to their Lord all that had happened. Then summoning him, the king said to him, "You wicked slave. I forgave you all that debt because you entreated me. Should you not have also had mercy on your fellow slave even as I had mercy on you?"

And the king moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. And then Jesus adds the zinger in verse 35: So shall my heavenly father also do to you if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart. Make no mistake about it. This second slave who owed a 16 dollar debt owed a very real debt. This was not an imaginary debt, just like the first slave owed a very real 16 billion dollar debt to the king.

That was real as well. This slave had every legal right to collect his 16 dollars, but he had no moral right to collect it because of the great debt he had just been forgiven. Listen to what Jesus is saying to us about forgiveness. He's not asking you to deny that you've been hurt or wronged. He's not asking you to sweep that hurt under the rug and play like it's never happened. He's not denying the pain you have suffered because of that wrong.

All he's asking you to do is to keep your hurt in perspective. You see, the difference between how much somebody has wronged you—the worst thing they've ever done to you—the difference between how much somebody has wronged you and how much you have wronged God is the difference between 16 dollars and 16 billion dollars. Forgiveness is the obligation of those who have truly been forgiven. That's what Jesus is saying in this parable.

You know, in the Bible, there is an inseparable link between our receiving God's forgiveness and our willingness to grant that forgiveness to others. In Ephesians 4:32, Paul said, "And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." We are to forgive just as God has forgiven us in the same way that God has forgiven us. Well, how has God forgiven us? I want you to turn over to Romans chapter five.

This chapter, perhaps more than any other, clearly explains two principles about how God forgives you and me and therefore how we should forgive others. Look at Romans five, verse one: Therefore, having been justified—that is declared not guilty by faith—we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Verse six: For while we were still helpless at the right time, Christ died for the ungodly. Verse eight: But God demonstrates his own love toward us and that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

My point out to you just two simple principles about how God forgives us. First of all, God forgave us when we didn't deserve forgiveness. We have this funny idea that somehow God only forgives those who deserve to be forgiven. God came to forgive the righteous, not the unrighteous. But no, it's not the healthy who need a doctor. It's the sick who need a doctor. Matthew 9:12: It is those who are healthy who need a physician. No, it's not those who are healthy; it is those who are sick.

In the same way, it's not the righteous who need a savior; it is the unrighteous. God didn't just forgive those who deserve to be forgiven; he came to forgive sinners, all of the unrighteous. And that would be you and I. In Romans 3:10, Paul says, "For there is none righteous among us, no, not even one." There is no one who does good, Psalm 14:3, no, not even one. Romans 5:6 says God forgave us when we were helpless, when we were apart from Christ.

He didn't forgive us when we deserve to be forgiven. Secondly, God forgave us on the basis of grace, not works. In other words, he didn't make us to do anything to earn his forgiveness. He granted it to us. Why did he do that? Remember our verses in Romans chapter four, verses four and five. Paul explains to the one who works, his wage is not reckoned as a favor, but what is due. When you go to work and receive a paycheck, your employer is not doing you a favor.

You earned that. You deserve that money. If God allows us to work for our salvation, then we deserve salvation. He refuses to owe any man or woman salvation, and that's why verse five says, but to the one who does not work, but believes in him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is counted as righteousness. God forgave us not based on our works, but based on his grace. Now, let's review what we've seen. God forgives those who don't deserve to be forgiven.

God forgives on the basis of grace, not works. Isn't that exactly what you saw in that parable about the king and the two debtors? The king forgave that first slave of his 16 billion dollar debt, not because he deserved to be forgiven. He deserved to go to prison if he couldn't pay back the debt. That's what he deserved, but the king forgave him anyway. And secondly, the king forgave the first slave on the basis of grace, not works.

He refused to allow the slave to try to earn the forgiveness of the debt. Why? Because he was totally incapable of earning it. The king realized he had to grant the forgiveness of that debt. Now, Paul is saying you and I are to forgive others just as God has forgiven us. Listen to this. First of all, we're to forgive those who don't deserve to be forgiven. In our minds, most of us have people we are willing to forgive and people we are unwilling to forgive.

In our mind, there are what we call unforgivable sins. Thank God that's not in his mind. We're to forgive those who don't deserve to be forgiven. And secondly, we forgive on the basis of grace, not works. We refuse to require somebody to earn our forgiveness. We grant it as a gift, just as it was granted to us. And yet, in spite of that clear teaching of scripture, there are many even in Christian circles who teach what I call conditional forgiveness.

They teach that there are some categories of sin that just can't be forgiven, and we can't expect a wronged person to forgive those sins. Or they teach that somebody has to earn your forgiveness before you can grant it. There are two problems with teaching conditional forgiveness. First of all, conditional forgiveness misinterprets the Bible itself. One of the favorite passages people turn to to say you can't forgive those who don't ask for it is Luke chapter 17, verses three and four.

Jesus said, "Be on your guard. If your brother sins, rebuke him. And if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day and returns to you seven times saying, 'I repent,' forgive him." People say, "Well, see, Pastor, there it is. Jesus said if he repents, forgive him." Isn't that conditional forgiveness? Notice what Jesus didn't say. Yes, Jesus said if he repents, forgive him. Jesus didn't say if he doesn't repent, don't forgive him.

He wasn't addressing that situation. He was saying if somebody comes to you and asks forgiveness, you are to grant it. But what about the case where somebody doesn't ask your forgiveness? Well, Jesus answered that question in Mark chapter 11, verses 25 and 26. He said, "And whenever you stand praying, forgive if you have something against anyone, so that your father also who is in heaven may forgive you your transgression. But if you do not forgive, neither will your father who is in heaven forgive your transgression."

Since the moment I began this sermon, there's a name, a picture that has come in some of your minds of somebody you need to forgive. You know what Jesus is saying right now where you are in that pew? You've got the ability to let go, to release that hurt. It doesn't matter if the other person is in the next city, the next state, or the cemetery. It doesn't matter whether that person knows he's wronged you, cares that he's wronged you, doesn't matter. Right now, you have the ability to forgive, Jesus says.

David J. Mullins: Maybe you feel like you've been running a three-legged race with someone you can't seem to forgive. I hope today's message inspires you to give up the fight. Let it go.

Dr. Robert Jeffress: Well, as your radio pastor and Bible teacher, I'm excited about spreading the message of Jesus Christ and the forgiveness he offers. And given the threats upon our country and given the violence and warfare around the world, I'm sensing an urgency as never before. The time is now to double our efforts so that all will know and receive the gift of God's forgiveness and grace.

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That's P.O. Box 223609, Dallas, Texas, 75222. I'm David J. Mullins, inviting you to join us again next time for part two of the message, Choosing Forgiveness Over Bitterness. That's right here on Pathway to Victory. Pathway to Victory with Dr. Robert Jeffress comes from the pulpit of the First Baptist Church of Dallas, Texas.

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