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Adrian Rogers: And Jesus said, "Take heed to yourselves. If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him." Now notice this. "And if he repent, forgive him. And if he shall trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, 'I repent,' thou shalt forgive him."

What if somebody did the same thing to you seven times in one day, but each time they come, they say, "I'm truly sorry, I repent." Jesus says that you're to forgive. Now, you say, "That's absurd." I imagine that most of us have come to God seven times in a day and asked Him to forgive us, have we not?

Guest (Male): Welcome to Love Worth Finding, featuring the timeless teaching of love, pastor and acclaimed Bible teacher, Adrian Rogers. One of the greatest gifts to us is forgiveness. He forgives us of our own sins, and He empowers us to forgive others who sin against us.

Yet, forgiveness is costly. The forgiveness of our sins cost the precious blood of Jesus, and sometimes it costs something of us to forgive others. Yet, scripture provides endless reasons to forgive, no matter the cost. If you have your Bible, turn to Matthew chapter 18 as Adrian Rogers begins an insightful message on forgiveness.

Adrian Rogers: Find Matthew chapter 18. While you're finding it, I remind you there was an evangelist who was the Billy Graham of his day, Dwight L. Moody. Moody did not have a seminary education, but he had a great mind and a penetrating insight into the things of God and human nature.

And Dwight L. Moody said, "I believe that the sin that is causing Christians more difficulty than any other is the sin of an unforgiving spirit." And he said he believed that that sin more than any other sin was holding back the power of God in prayer in the hearts and lives of people.

Now, I cannot prove that he is right. I think most likely he is. But for him to even say that means that forgiveness is a problem that many people have not properly dealt with. Perhaps tonight your heart is harboring some hurt that somebody has given to you, and you don't know how to deal with it.

Well, I want you to find in Matthew chapter 18 a story that the Lord Jesus told. I'm going to begin reading in verse 21. "Then came Peter to him and said, 'Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Til seven times?' Jesus saith unto him, 'I say not unto thee until seven times, but until seventy times seven.'"

"Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him which owed him 10,000 talents." Now, how much is that? Well, the Bible that I have says here in the margin that if that were silver, it would be $52,800,000.

Now, if that is true, Jesus must have said that with a twinkle in his eye because that was more than the entire taxes of the nation for that year. "But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold and his wife and children and all that he had and payment to be made."

"The servant therefore fell down and worshipped him, saying, 'Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.' Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out and found one of his fellowservants which owed him a hundred pence. And he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what thou owest.'"

And the margin of the scripture that I have right here, the notes say that was about $44. Now, there's a vast difference, I submit, between 52 million and $44. "And his fellowservant fell down at his feet and besought him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.'

And he would not, but went and cast him into prison till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, 'Oh, thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt because thou desiredst me.'"

"Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth and delivered him to the tormentors that he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not everyone his brother their trespasses."

Now, one of God's greatest gifts to us is forgiveness. Thank God He has forgiven us. Thank God for His grace that forgives us. Now, to forgive literally means to release a debt. When we sin, we sin against God, and heaven has sued us for damages. There's a debt that we cannot pay. When forgiveness comes, the debt is canceled.

If, for example, you owe me $1,000 and you cannot pay, and I say I forgive the debt, it cost me $1,000 to forgive that debt. There are no free pardons. Forgiveness costs. It cost the precious blood of Jesus for God to forgive us. Now, I want you to think of somebody who's wronged you.

And if you're harboring a hurt in your heart, there's somebody who's done you wrong, truly done you wrong, and you've not settled that thing in your heart, I want to give you tonight some compelling reasons why you ought to forgive that individual. Now, first of all, we ought to forgive one another because God has so willingly forgiven us.

That's what this parable is all about. We're the ones that had the $52 million debt, and God, in the riches of His mercy, forgave us. Now, if God has forgiven me, then I ought to forgive you. Ephesians 4 and verse 32 says, "Be ye kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

I want to say that I need to give forgiveness to you because Jesus gave forgiveness to me. That's reason number one that we ought to forgive. Number two, here's another reason you ought to forgive. If you do not forgive, you shut out the forgiveness of God.

Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount, in Matthew chapter 6, verses 14 and 15, "If you don't forgive men their trespasses against you, neither will your heavenly father forgive you your trespasses against him." Now, in plain English, an unforgiving spirit is unforgivable.

As long as you have an unforgiving spirit in your heart, you cannot get the forgiveness of God. You, in a very real sense, destroy the very bridge over which you must travel. How dangerous it is to fail to forgive one another. The only person who can afford not to forgive is the person who never, ever really needs forgiveness.

Let me give you a third reason that we ought to forgive. We ought to forgive because if we don't forgive, the unforgiving spirit that we have will do us great, great emotional damage. The Bible calls this unforgiving spirit bitterness. And bitterness is an acid that destroys its container.

So many times people don't want to forgive because they feel that they ought to take revenge. They feel that they ought to get even. Now, if you're up here, right with God and living with God, and somebody sins against you and you say, "I'm going to get even," what do you do? You lower yourself.

You come to their level when you get even. You see, why not just continue to hate? Because hate will boomerang on you. It will come back to you. It is an acid that will destroy its container. Not only do you forgive an individual for their sake, but you forgive an individual for your sake.

Now, that's very hard to human nature because if somebody has truly hurt you, I mean truly hurt you, human nature doesn't want to let them off the hook. But what you don't understand is that you also are on the hook. When you forgive, you set a prisoner free and discovered that that prisoner is you.

Now, here's another reason that you ought to forgive. Not only has God forgiven you, not only is an unforgiving spirit unforgivable, not only does an unforgiving spirit eat you like a canker, like a cancer, like an acid to destroy you, but when you do forgive, forgiveness restores a broken fellowship.

If there's a person that you have an unforgiving spirit to, you have a broken fellowship. That's the reason Jesus said in Matthew chapter 18, verse 15, "Therefore, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone. And if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother."

Again, Matthew 5, verse 24, Jesus is talking about bringing your gift to the church. And He says if when you're there and you recognize that there's a broken relationship between you and a brother, He says, "Leave there thy gift before the altar, go thy way, first be reconciled to thy brother, then come and offer thy gift."

A brother is a very precious thing. I had a brother, not a brother in the flesh, but a dear brother, a preacher brother that I loved very much and still do love very much. He wronged me. He did something that was wrong. He ought not to have done it. And there was something rose up in me that said, "I'm finished with him. I can't trust him. He's been dishonest."

And then I thought to myself, "Now, why should I do that? I love this man. He's a brother. I refuse to let his mistake ruin what has been a good relationship." I prayed about it, gave it to God, went and restored the relationship. And today, that man—I'll not tell you his name—is a precious brother and a friend.

Well, you say, "What if the man who has wronged me is not a brother?" Well, he is still a potential brother. Now, if he is not a brother, he's a potential brother. And if you have an unforgiving spirit toward him, then what chance do you have to bring him to Christ?

Would you let your sense of revenge, the attempt to get equal, cut off an opportunity to bring him to the Lord Jesus Christ? Let me tell you about the person who has wronged you. That person who has wronged you is more than a person who has hurt you. He is a person who needs you.

Now, these are reasons to forgive, and they're all Bible reasons. Now, those are the reasons, but let me talk to you about the requirements. Remember what I told you? That forgiveness costs. The king—it cost him $52,800,000 according to the margin here to forgive. And when God forgave us, it cost the silver of Jesus' tears and the gold of His blood.

Forgiveness is costly. Jesus is the model for our forgiveness. Be ye kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven us. Now, how should you forgive? Listen to me. First of all, forgive freely.

Have you ever wronged a person and needed forgiveness, and after they stuck the knife in and twisted it, after they whipped you up and down and poured salt in the wounds, finally they say, "Well, that's okay, I'll forgive you." I feel like saying, "Never mind, I've already paid. I've already paid."

No, forgive freely, not after you've collected your revenge. And forgive freely before the wound gets infected. Cleanse it quickly. That's what Jesus did. And as a matter of fact, when Jesus was on the cross, while they were crucifying Him, Jesus was praying for their forgiveness.

We should be so anxious to forgive people that not only do we forgive them if they come to us and ask for forgiveness, we should literally seek them out to forgive them. In this same chapter, go back to verse 15 and look at it. "Moreover, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone. If he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother."

Now, don't go to tell him off. Go to get him back. Go to gain your brother. Do it freely. Take the initiative. Is there somebody who's wronged you? I challenge you in the name of Jesus to say, "I will go to that person. I will not wait for that person to come to me."

And not only forgive freely, but forgive fully. Don't forgive halfheartedly. Don't pretend, "Oh, it didn't matter." If a person says to you, "Would you forgive me?" and you say, "Well, there's no big deal, don't worry about it." No, that's not forgiveness. The reason we say that it's not a big deal and not to worry about it is our pride.

We don't want to admit how deeply we have been hurt. Don't ever let a person say that if you come to that individual for forgiveness and they say, "Never mind, just forget it." No, it cannot be forgotten until it is cleansed. And if somebody asks you to forgive them, don't just act big and magnanimous.

Truly forgive them. Make sure it is forgiveness that you get. Don't merely apologize if you've done wrong. Ask an individual in the name of Jesus to forgive you. Forgive freely, forgive fully, and forgive finally. Once you forgive, bury it in the grave of God's forgetfulness and don't bring it up again.

It cost to forgive. You have to taste a little bit of Calvary when you forgive. And the way to do that is to let the Spirit of the Lord Jesus be in you. It is not in me. By nature, I want to get even. By nature, I want to strike back. But only when the nature of Jesus Christ has free reign in my heart can I truly forgive.

This brings up a real question. Peter asked a question. Notice in verse 21. "Peter came to him and said, 'Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Til seven times?' Jesus saith unto him, 'I say not unto thee until seven times, but until seventy times seven.'"

Now, that's Matthew. But I want you to put in your margin Luke. Luke chapter 17. And Jesus is speaking on the same subject. Verses 3 and 4. And Jesus said, "Take heed to yourselves. If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him." Now notice this. "And if he repent, forgive him."

"And if he shall trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, 'I repent,' thou shalt forgive him." What if somebody did the same thing to you seven times in one day, but each time they come, they say, "I'm truly sorry, I repent."

Jesus says that you're to forgive. Now, you say, "That's absurd." I imagine that most of us have come to God seven times in a day and asked Him to forgive us, have we not? And be ye kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

But here's the verse that I want you to notice. Verse 3, this is Luke 17, verse 3. "Take heed to yourself. If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him, and if he repent, forgive him." You cannot forgive anybody that has not repented. God does not forgive without repentance, neither should we.

And so that's a very interesting thing. If I'm to seek out a brother, and that brother has wronged me, and I need to forgive him, how can I forgive him if he says, "I've done nothing wrong"? Or if he says, "I have done wrong and I'm going to continue to do wrong," and there's not a repentant spirit, how can I forgive him?

It's a very big question. What you need to do, and what I have done, is to forgive in this sense. That I give forgiveness out of my heart and I put it in the bank on escrow. I unload it. I download it. I refuse to carry that burden in my heart.

Even if the individual cannot receive that forgiveness, I have offered it. I have given it. It is there. All they need to do is to write the check of repentance and faith, and they can lay hold on that forgiveness. I have put it in the bank in escrow for them. Is that not what Jesus did for us when He died on the cross?

He provided forgiveness for us. It is there, but we can't receive it though He has given it until we repent and receive it by faith. So you can download it even if they don't upload it, even if they don't receive it. You get it off of your heart.

And even if they don't repent, you can in your heart refuse to carry that spirit of bitterness. Now, what happens when you truly forgive? First of all, there will be release. The results are this. When you forgive, you are set free from the prison of bitterness. When God forgives you, you're set free from the prison of guilt.

And there's not a reason on earth that you should start tomorrow dragging the chains either of bitterness or guilt. Now, I'm not a perfect person. God knows that I fail in many ways, but I give Him glory, and I thought about it before I preached this message.

There's nobody on God's green earth that I have resentment or bitterness to. And so far as I know, there's no unconfessed, unrepented of sin in my heart and in my life. You say, "Well, you think you're somebody." No, that's normal. That's the way a Christian ought to live. That's just plain average Christianity.

That's not supernormal like I'm saying, "Hey, look at the big guy up here who says that he doesn't have any bitterness or any guilt." That's just the grace of God. That's the way we are to live. What fools we are to drag these chains with us.

We can start every day as clean and pure as the driven snow. There's no reason for us, none whatsoever, to live in a prison house of bitterness or prison house of guilt. If you're guilty, if there's some unconfessed, unrepented of sin, the Bible says in 1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

If He didn't do it, He'd be unfaithful, a liar. If He didn't do it, He'd be unjust, a crook. God is not a liar and God is not a crook. He is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us, not from some, but from all unrighteousness. And we are to forgive our brothers.

If they won't repent, then we just put forgiveness in the bank for them. Whenever they come along and write the check of repentance and faith, they can receive that forgiveness. Now, there's going to be release when you do that, and most likely there will be reconciliation.

You're going to gain some brothers, some sisters, and they're going to be precious. Those people that have been restored by forgiveness will be your dearest and nearest friends. And I believe that when there's release and reconciliation, there will be revival.

And I believe in your family, a revival can take place like that. I believe in a business, I believe in a school, in a church, in a community. When people begin to believe in the Bible, the Word of God, and begin to practice it, then they are set free. So, question: is there anybody, anybody that you are harboring hate over, anybody that you are carrying a grudge over, is there bitterness in your heart?

In the name of Jesus, in the name of Jesus, deal with it. Because if you don't, if you don't, you have destroyed the bridge over which you yourself must travel. If you don't, you are having in your life an acid that will destroy you, that will hinder your prayers, and that will keep you from having genuine spiritual revival in your life.

And would you just pray over the message for a moment? Would you say, "Lord, you know so-and-so. I've really harbored bitterness toward that person. They've hurt me so bad." Maybe it's a former husband, a former wife. Maybe it's a mother, a father. Maybe a schoolteacher, maybe a former business partner.

Maybe somebody has stolen money from you. Maybe somebody has hurt your child, molested a loved one. And you just have such bitterness in your heart. Friend, get rid of it. Not just simply by saying, "I'm not even going to think about it anymore."

You can't handle it that way. Give it to Jesus and let Him take it away. And if you need to go seek that brother out to forgive them, that sister out to forgive them, that unsaved person out to forgive them, tell the Lord that you'll do it. Make up your mind that you'll do just that. Lord, show us how to react to this message. In the name of Jesus, amen.

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