Not Optional

Ephesians 4:32

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

It can be a real challenge to forgive when you suffer for something that wasn’t your fault. Nobody makes it through life without some undeserved hurt, and it’s easy to let that grow into an unforgiving spirit that touches your entire life. It can become a filter that colors everything. If you can’t stop thinking about how much someone hurt you, if you can’t wish the person well, or if you want them to suffer like you have, those are signs of an unforgiving spirit. If you find yourself harboring any of those feelings, remember that forgiveness is not optional, and it doesn’t depend on your emotions. If you wait to feel like forgiving, you’ll probably never do it. So we choose to forgive, just as in Christ God forgave us.


Heavenly Father, thank You for the forgiveness You have shown to me. I choose to forgive just as You have forgiven me. Specifically, I forgive __________ (insert person’s name). I forgive them for ____________ (tell the Lord what they did or did not do). I cancel the debt they owe me. Bless them in all they do.  In Jesus’ name, amen.

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