It took three nails to crucify our Savior to the cross. God says that if we are to allow Christ to live through us then the old man must be crucified. We can each voluntarily crucify our flesh, but we often cannot complete the process by ourselves. It usually requires a third party to put the third nail into the old man that allows the work to be completed in us.
For Jesus, it was Judas.
For David, it was Absalom.
For Joseph, it was his brothers.
Betrayal is a nail that will either complete the death process, or we will linger in unforgiveness and bitternesss that will result in an even worse state - partial death.
This condition never allows you and me to experience true freedom.
When Jesus died He was freed to fulfill His mission on earth. He was resurrected from death to glory. When you and I die we are freed to become all God wants us to become in our lives before God. God gives us the cross to give us God and a new life in Christ.
Is someone in your life trying to put the third nail into your death process? Do not fight it. Allow God to complete His process.
"Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints. You have freed me from my chains." -Psalm 116:15, 16