When parents say no, they need be sure they have a relationship with the kids—a relationship of intimacy and love. One of the major reasons I lived right as a teenager is that for thirteen years my dad had proved that he loved me. He was a busy man, but he didn't forget that he was my dad. Close relationships between fathers and their sons and daughters are far more important than any War Against Drugs the government might initiate. Our kids need to be able to say with confidence, "I was a son to my dad," or "I was a daughter to my dad." The moms are important in this parenting love in Proverbs, but the book stresses that dads must step up because they have the greatest influence. Proverbs challenges us as dads to make sure that before our kids hit thirteen they have no doubt that dad loves and cares for them as a unique person.