Revive Our Hearts

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus asked, "Why do you call me Lord, yet you don't do what I say?" Andrea Griffith says that's still an important question.

You know, I think if Jesus showed up in our churches today, that would be the same thing he would be saying to us. This is the Revive Our Hearts podcast with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author of Revive My Heart. For April 6th, 2026, I'm Dannah Gresh.

Well, this week, we're going to hear the story of a young woman who appeared to be a model churchgoer. But eventually, her actions caught up with her sinful heart.

I think the story we're going to hear over the next few days will provide hope for anyone who's struggling with bitterness or with guilt over sins of their past. We're going to listen to a message from my friend Andrea Griffith. That's right.

Andrea is a speaker with FamilyLife. She's ministered to women in hundreds of local churches and spoken at national conferences where she shares her unique story of God's amazing grace at work in her life. She and her husband, Trent, have four adult children and live in Florida. Now, let's listen to Andrea's story about God's power to revive a heart. Andrea's beginning with Psalm 103.

Andrea Griffith: Bless the Lord, oh my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name. Bless the Lord, oh my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's. And I want to tell you today how God has done every one of those things in my life.

I grew up in a Christian home. My dad was a deacon and a Sunday school teacher. My mom was always right there along his side. And I thought that I prayed a prayer of salvation when I was six years old. I remember walking an aisle, I remember meeting with the pastor, and he talked to me, made sure I understood everything that I was saying, that I believed. But I never really noticed a change in my life.

And I guess I just always thought, well, when you're six, you don't have a whole lot to repent from. You don't have a whole lot to change from. But that heart attitude of repentance as I got older, I never really saw that heart attitude being lived out in my life. As far back as I can remember, I was always very deceitful.

I've always struggled with being a people pleaser, wanting people's approval, but at the same time, I wanted my own way. And so in order to get both, to have people approval of me and get my own way, I would just lie and cover it up. That way I got both. I got my own way and they just never knew. Well, when I was little, those little lies had pretty small consequences. But the older I got, the bigger the consequences became with those lies. And it was really a pattern of my life that I would just lie about everything, just to cover my tracks, to cover my bases.

As I was growing up there in my church, I was a leader in the church youth group. We were always there every time the doors were open. If you had asked the pastor, "Tell me a family in your church that's solid," he would have pointed to my family. I was on the Youth Council, singing solos in church, just very, very involved. But in my heart, I was a very different person than what people were starting to see on the outside.

When I grew up and became a teenager, my parents had pretty strict rules on us about dating and that kind of thing. And so I waited a long time until I was able to date. But once I was able to date, I just thought, I'm going to date whoever I want to date. The most popular, it didn't matter to me. I knew that I was only supposed to marry a Christian, but I thought, well, that shouldn't stop you from dating non-Christians, right?

So as I got into my junior year of high school, there was one particular guy that I really had my eye on. Now, he did not grow up in a Christian home, he did not grow up in a Christian family, he didn't know the word of God like I did. And as we began to date, I began to involve myself with him in immorality. And that became a pattern for our dating relationship and it wasn't too long after that, that I found out that I was pregnant.

Now, I remember, um, one thing up front, I'm singing in church. I am one thing on the outside, and I am someone totally different in my heart and where it matters before the Lord. And I look at that time in my life and just see God in his gracious sovereign way, giving me a chance to come clean and get honest about who I really was in my life.

But I wasn't going to get honest quite that easy. I was still wanting to cover. I was still wanting to lie my way through this these kind of things. I was going to give it a shot, so I invited this young man over to my house for dinner. And um, that night, my mom had invited the director of the local crisis pregnancy center over for dinner.

And I think that she was probably trying to have him share his heart with us and so we would know not to involve ourselves in that kind of thing. I think that was her goal and her motive. But given the condition that I was already in, this is not at all what they said. But what I heard was how terrible those girls are who are involved in immorality before they're married. Their lives will never amount to anything. It's over for them. That's not what they said. That's just what I heard, given the condition I was in. And so,

I left my house and I went and sat out on a pier overlooking Mobile Bay and I decided that I would have an abortion. I knew that was wrong. I knew that that wasn't just a piece of tissue, but that that was a child. My mom worked at the local crisis pregnancy center. But in my pride, I wanted to cover and try to keep a reputation.

And I did go through with that decision. And when I did, not only did my baby die, but I began to harden my heart and just hate and despise who I was and what I'd done. And that was the beginning for me of a very long downhill spiral for my life. The Bible talks a lot about these people in James chapter 1 verse 22, it says, "But prove yourselves doers of the word, not merely hearers who deceive themselves." Do you see what that verse says?

That verse is telling us that we can sit in church Sunday morning after Sunday morning. We can hear it and hear it and hear it. But if we don't obey it, we are deceiving ourselves. I know because I was one of the most self-deceived people walking the planet. I thought because I knew it, therefore I was it and I was okay. It didn't matter what I was doing. If I knew it, I was okay. And I had deceived myself to the point that I couldn't even distinguish truth from lies anymore.

Paul talks about these people in 2nd Timothy chapter 3. It says, "They have the appearance of godliness, but they deny its power. Avoid such people. They are weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions, always learning but never able to arrive at the knowledge of the truth." Have you ever been there? Well, you you learn it. You're filling in the columns of your Bible, you're taking the notes. You're always learning. But you get home, or you get back to that workplace, or you get somewhere in real life where the rubber meets the road, and you're just constantly failing.

You learn it and then you get out in real life and it's just failure. That was the pattern of my life for years. Learning, but never able to live the truth in my life. I went through four years of Christian college. I was being asked to sing in different places. I'd go there and sing. I was involved in Bible studies, I was involved in the campus ministry there at my college.

I was in a small group that I asked to be involved in. And I would do great with the Lord for a while and then I was right back into that sin again, the sin of immorality. Um, in college I started drinking. It was just, I kept trying to pull myself up by my bootstraps and live the Christian life and then I'd fail. And that was the cycle of my life for years.

It was about um that time, I was about to graduate from college and with a music degree and I really had no idea what I was going to do with it. And my parents had just sat through a Life Action two-week summit. And so I came home from college at Christmas and I just said, "I don't know what I'm going to do with this degree." And my dad said, "Why don't you audition for this ministry? I know you'd love to sing and travel with them." So I auditioned for Life Action.

And I just see God's sovereign hand opening the door for me to a place where I could really get some help and meet with him. And when I got to Life Action, I looked pretty much like the other girls. I dressed as modestly as they did, and we had our quiet times about the same amount of times, you know. I looked outwardly the same. But I started noticing this huge difference in our hearts where my attitude toward authority was just like, uh, whatever. If authority told them something, they were going to do it. Where I may have a desire for purity, I certainly want to wasn't going to put myself out to get it. But these girls, they had a desire for purity and they were making sure that that was happening in their life.

And I started noticing these differences in our hearts. And I remember one morning I was up and I was having my time with the Lord. I was regularly in the word. I was having my time with the Lord and God clearly spoke to my heart and he said, "Andrea, if you do not get open and honest about your past and where you've been, we are going no further." Well, that scared me to death because I knew that he was my only way out. And if he wasn't going to help me, I was in big trouble. So that morning I went to church and I found the revivalist wife and I told her basically what I've just told you.

And she cried with me and prayed with me and she set up a time for me to meet with her and her husband. And that very first time that I met with this couple, God and this man literally nailed me to the wall. Just with his questions he was asking and the scripture that he was quoting, he nailed me to the wall. And you know what? I needed it because I was such a good liar and I'd always been able to squirm my way out of situations. And this time there was no getting around it, what the Lord was revealing to me about my heart.

And I remember I got up out of their trailer. And um, I didn't know where I was going or what I was doing, but I just had to leave that trailer. And so I got up out of that trailer and I came into the church and I just found the prayer room. And I got quiet and still before the Lord. And I don't really know how better to describe it than just to say, God showed up in that prayer room. And for the first time, I saw my heart the way a holy God had been seeing it for years.

And I saw how my sin had broken his heart and how I was just blatantly sinning against that God who had died on the cross for my sin. And for the first time, I couldn't justify it or rationalize it away as the light of God shone in on my heart. And I didn't know what was happening because I thought I was saved. I thought I got saved when I was six years old. So I didn't know what to do. I just thought this was another experience with God.

So I just started at the top of my head and I went all the way down to my feet and I just gave God every part of me. I had sinned so much with my body that I needed to put my body under the authority of Christ and under his Lordship. God showed me my heart that day. It was so wicked. And so ugly. I hope that I never have to see that again. Now God shows it to me, but it's small and it's specific and God says, okay, now we need to deal with this and let's deal with this attitude. But that day, it was everything. And I was just undone before him. I remember staying in that prayer room for hours. I got there probably about 2:30.

I missed our team meeting at 4:00. I missed dinner. I missed the service as I was just in that room weeping before the Lord as he brought back situation after situation to my mind. And I left the prayer room that day and went on home to the host home where I was staying. And I slept like a rock. I woke up the next morning, my face was still swollen. And I came back into the church and and my job was to be the hostess. I was supposed to set out the snacks and the drinks. So when the people had a break, they would have something to eat. Well, when I got to the church, there'd been a miscommunication and the church had not bought the food that I was supposed to set out.

So I grabbed some car keys and I got in the car and I raced down to the grocery store. And I was pushing the grocery cart and listening to the music overhead and kind of singing along. And all of a sudden, a voice spoke to my heart and said, "Andrea, are those your ears that you're listening to that music with? Are those your lips that you're singing along with?" And I said, "No, Lord, those are yours. I I gave those to you last night, didn't I?" And I was walking through the checkout counter and I was looking at all the magazines there. And again, a voice said, "Andrea, are those your eyes that you're looking at that filth with?"

And I I said, "No, Lord, those are yours. I I gave those to you last night." And I know I must have had this shocked look on my face as I'm talking to this checkout lady, but for the first time, true Christianity was happening in my life. God spoke and I just had to obey. It wasn't me trying to live this life and failing and trying and failing. It was me being in tune with a holy God who was speaking to my heart and I just had to obey.

Well, I look back on that time and it took me six months to realize this, but that day in the prayer room was my point of salvation. That's when I came to know the Lord. And there's differences that show up even right here in these verses. When Paul went around preaching the gospel, he said, "I preach two things. I preach repentance toward God and faith in our Lord Jesus Christ." Well, I'd had faith that Jesus was the son of God for years. You know, growing up here in the south, you hear those stories from the time you're knee-high to a grasshopper. We've heard it, we've been in church all our lives. And I had faith that Jesus was the son of God, but do you know where I'd missed it? Totally?

Repentance. Repentance. Repentance is a change of mind. It's a change of direction. Even with a baseball, as the pitcher throws that baseball as hard as he can in one direction. When that bat hits that baseball, do you know what the ball does? It repents. Another force acts on the ball. The force of God, the force of his Holy Spirit impacts our lives and we can't help but head in a different direction.

There's another verse that says Jesus was talking and he said, "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven will enter." Do you hear the difference? One is calling him Lord with our mouths. One is obeying him as Lord with our lives. I had been calling him Lord for years. You see this problem from the Old Testament all through the New. In the Old Testament, God said, "These people draw near to me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me."

Jesus says, "Only the one who does the will of his Father will enter the kingdom of heaven." Do you see the difference? One is calling him Lord, the other is obeying him as Lord. Which category do you fit in today? It's easy to fit in the one where we call him Lord. We get the stamp, we get the label. But the life never changes. Which one will enter the kingdom of heaven?

Only the one who does the will of God. Only the one who obeys. It's a lifestyle of obedience to God, not a lifestyle of just lip service. At the end of the Sermon on the Mount, in Luke chapter 6 verse 46, Jesus looks at the crowd of people and he says, "Why do you call me Lord, Lord, and do not do what I say?" You know, I think if Jesus showed up in our churches today, that would be the same thing he would be saying to us. "Why do you call me Lord, but you don't obey me as Lord?" And Jesus was saying that to me for years of my life and I was never hearing him, never listening. I just kept thinking that my Christianity didn't satisfy. So I kept running to those artificial substitutes to satisfy. But you know, it wasn't that my Christianity didn't satisfy. It's that I didn't have true Christianity.

People will say to me, "Well, isn't it enough just for me to call him Lord? Does it matter how I live as long as I just call him Lord?" And I say, "Yes, it matters how you live. That word Lord, it's more than a word. It indicates a relationship. His total possession of me and my total submission to him." That's salvation. That is him being Lord of our lives.

Well, after I came to know the Lord, everything in my life changed. God, um, I could not get enough of God's word. Literally, this this word leaps off the page at me. There's a quote that says, "Your word has hands, it lays hold of me. It has feet, it runs after me." And that's what started happening in my life and that still happens to me when I get with the Lord in his word.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: We've been listening to the story of Andrea Griffith. Perhaps you can relate to some of her testimony. You're good at keeping up appearances, but you've never fully surrendered your life to the Lord.

I hope you'll do what Andrea did. Get honest about your sin, confess it to the Lord, and find someone in your church who can help you grow. Over the next couple of days, Andrea is going to show us the process that the Lord took her through after that initial moment of surrender. She needed to clear her conscience, and she needed to give and receive forgiveness. And she needed to embrace a lifestyle of holiness.

Yes, and it's not just Andrea. Every one of us needs to go through these steps. We'd love to come alongside you as you do. Whether you're newly following Jesus or you need a spiritual refresh, we're here for you, cheering you on.

Prayer played a beautiful role in Andrea's story, and it can in yours as well. Would you let us pray for you as you seek personal revival in your life? To submit a request, visit reviveourhearts.com/prayer. When you do, a member of our team will receive that and bring your request to the Lord.

We'd also love to equip you with some encouraging resources. This month, when you support Revive Our Hearts with a gift of any amount, you can receive the Refresh Journaling Set to help you on your journey toward personal revival. That set includes cards with prompts to meditate on selected scriptures, plus a journal with space to record your responses and prayers. To give and request yours, visit reviveourhearts.com or call us at 1-800-569-5959.

Andrea Griffith will be back tomorrow to tell us more of her story. Before we go, though, let's hear again from Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. She says true heart revival, like the kind Andrea experienced, only comes as the Lord implements in us an important character quality.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: Honesty, being transparent and open and honest before God and before others about the true condition of our hearts. Not play acting, not pretending, but being real.

Now let me ask you to turn in your Bibles to the book of Psalms, if you would, and I want us to see a number of passages in the Psalms that talk about the importance of being open and honest before God. If we're going to meet with God, we've got to get rid of the masks, quit pretending, quit playing, and get real. Psalm chapter 15, first of all. Psalm 15 verses 1 and 2. This is a Psalm of David, and he's talking about approaching the Lord, getting close to God, and he says, "Oh Lord," verse 1, "who shall sojourn in your tent? Who shall dwell on your holy hill? He who walks blamelessly and does what is right and speaks truth in his heart."

Now, it's interesting that he doesn't end the sentence with, he just speaks truth, because you think of speaking truth as something you do outwardly. But David's saying, no, this is something more than speaking truth outwardly, it's where communication begins, and that's in the heart. God lets the person draw near to him, to dwell in his holy hill, who speaks truth in his heart. He's not pretending, he's not play acting, he's real.

Turn over a few pages to Psalm 24. And you'll see the same principle beginning in verse 3. Psalm 24, "Who shall ascend the hill of the Lord and who shall stand in his holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, who does not lift up his soul to what is false and does not swear deceitfully. He will receive blessing from the Lord." The person who is holy, has clean hands and a pure heart, and the person again, who doesn't lift up his soul to what is false and does not swear deceitfully. He doesn't profess one thing and live something differently.

Turn over to Psalm 32. And you see the same principle there. Psalm 32, and you remember that when David sinned his great sin of adultery and murder as related to Bathsheba and her husband. This is the one of the Psalms that David wrote afterwards, expressing the process that God took him through from covering his sin to uncovering his sin. He says in verse 1, Psalm 32, "Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered."

Now, who's going to cover that sin? We're going to see in this passage, if we cover the sin, we're not blessed. But if we bring it out into the light, then God will cover it. There's a difference between God covering my sin and me covering my sin. We're going to see that we need to be open and honest with God and at times with others about what we have done, how we have failed, so that God can then cover our sin. So he says, "The one whose sin God covers, that person is blessed. The one whose transgression is forgiven." It's wiped out, it's covered over. "Blessed is the man," verse 2, "against whom the Lord counts no iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit."

No double-mindedness, no pretending, no play acting, no hypocrisy. That person is blessed.

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: This program is a listener-supported production of Revive Our Hearts in Niles, Michigan, calling women to freedom, fullness, and fruitfulness in Christ.