Courageous Parenting (Part Two)
Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. DEUTERONOMY 31:6
It takes courage to raise children today according to biblical standards, especially when the culture doesn't exactly support us in our striving to courageously protect our sons and daughters.
So what's a parent to do?
First, resolve that you will not be a parent who does the easiest thing: nothing. Loving children today will mean that you will make some mistakes. Perhaps you will go too far in setting some standards; but if your child has a secure, loving relationship with you, then I would rather you challenge your children to a high standard rather than one that is too low.
Second, pray. Someone has said, "Courage is fear that has said its prayers."
Parents need to pray that they will be courageous. Barbara and I did—continually. We needed God's wisdom and strength.
Third, meet as a couple and establish courageous boundaries for your family. Set some clear rules about the following:
•Use of the Internet and the phone
•Dating (i.e., if so, when, how and whom to date?)
•Relating to the opposite sex (i.e., how far do you want your child to go with the opposite sex prior to marriage?)
Remember the question I mentioned yesterday? Whatever courageous acts you have accomplished in your lifetime, it could be that the most courageous is determining that you will remain involved in the lives of your children.
Being a parent calls for repeated, heroic action. Doing your duty.
In the struggle against evil, our generation needs men and women who can stare at critical choices and not blink. It's this private brand of courage that should set a Christian family apart—the fortitude that turns a mom and dad into spiritual warriors on behalf of their family.
What biblical standards would require the most courage to uphold in your family right now?
Ask God for the courage to take specific steps to uphold these standards.