Difficult People 1
August 29, 2018
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Got any difficult people in your life? Yeah, me, too.
Hey, wouldn’t it be nice if everyone were nice? Yeah, it would be great. That’s just not real life. Even more, it’s unreasonable to expect an unreasonable person to become reasonable. You know, what you can do though, is manage yourself. Go the extra mile. Go above and beyond what they deserve and let your servant heart make a strong statement about integrity, humility, and not being self-centered. Who knows, maybe some of it will rub off on them. But even if it doesn’t, you have testified through your actions to the grace of God in your life. And He has taken notice.
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Your kids and mine…are precious little sinners.
At The Parent’s Summit, family pastor Dave Bondeson said that ultimately sin is the issue for both us as parents and our children. We can change behavior and shape attitudes, but if we don’t deal with the underlying issue of sin, we miss the mark. To help us, Dave suggested we deliberately give others permission to speak into our lives and our parenting journey. We need to love our spouses and friends enough to do this. He said, “It takes gospel-obsessed parents to train gospel-obsessed kids.”
August 28, 2018
Come on; show us what you have.
Mic drop moments show somebody what you can do before dropping the mic and walking off the stage with swag. What’s the point? To impress. Jesus turned down his mic drop moment. The devil invited him to throw himself off the temple to prove he was the Son of God (Luke 4). He basically said, “Jesus, show us what you’ve got.” Jesus replied, Don’t test God. In affect he said, “I know who I am—and I won’t use God to impress you.” Stop trying to impress others. Trust God. You have an audience of one.
August 27, 2018
How do you respond to people who are negative and unfair? Repay them with stubborn goodness.
Carrie called me for some marital counseling. What surprised me was she got my name for her children’s stepmother. Carrie said, “I’ve come to trust her but it didn’t start out that way. When she first married my ex-husband I thought she was the enemy. I was threatened by her. But she has proven herself to be decent and selfless.” Wow, the power of stubborn goodness! If your enemy is hungry and thirsty, says Proverbs 25, give him something to eat and drink and the Lord will reward you.
August 24, 2018
Can you imagine being married to a robot?
A robot once took my order at a restaurant. It catered to my every need. It got me thinking. What if you had a robotic spouse who would always do as you wish? Well, it wouldn’t be real love without free will. All you’d have is an algorithm. What about you? Would you be a better spouse to a robot? I think not. Your selfishness would only increase and so would your lonely, colorless life. No, I think God’s design calling for two people filled with dedication and surrender is a much better plan.
August 23, 2018
So why do you think it was not good for man to be alone?
We all have a need to be seen. To be valued and known. I can know myself and what I’m good at but if I’m not seen by anybody else I remain invisible. In my opinion, people who feel like they can walk through life without friends or a church home are deeply misguided. One way we know who we are is in how we’re reflected in the eyes of others. And in the way we reflect back what we see in those we love. We’re made for community and for family and should do our best to remain connected to both.
August 22, 2018
Because you each love someone the other loves.
When a parent marries in later life, many adult children do not see themselves as stepchildren or think of their parent’s new spouse as a “stepparent.” Technically both are true but practically the adult child doesn’t need another parent figure in their life. The answer: relationship. Now that’ll happen when both the adult stepchild and stepparent open themselves to being friendly. Gradually build your relationship. Because you each love someone the other loves, strive to love each other.
August 21, 2018
Is your family playing “game of thrones”?
We all have a kingdom and we try to conquer other kingdoms. Whether it’s a bully at school, a business, or social-political agendas, it’s pretty much a game of thrones. When Satan offered Jesus the kingdoms of the world in Luke 4 Jesus replied, “You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only shall you serve.” Your kingdom is what you worship. We play this at home, too. My agenda becomes my kingdom. How do we stop? Submit to God’s rule, set aside your kingdom, and the game of thrones dies.
August 20, 2018
“Ron, I’ve been a stepparent for fifteen years now. When is it going to happen?”
Stepparents say, “my kids,” when referring to their stepchildren so they sometimes wonder why kids struggle to use the term, “mom" or "dad” when referring to them. Well, kids are loyal to their parents and they don’t want to hurt their feelings. Reserving the “mom” or “dad” label for just one person keeps it special. Stepparents, just relax about this. Labels are not the issue. Your role in the life of each child is. And that rose, by any other name, does smell just as sweet.
August 17, 2018
My single dad friend asked me a great question: “Should I get married someday?”
As far as the kids are concerned, no one can really say whether single parents should or should not remarry. Research confirms that kids raised in single parent homes do just as well as kids raised in stepfamily homes, so you’ll have to balance your needs and theirs and trust God with your decision. And if you’re divorced, consider what scripture says about reconciliation. No one can predict what’s best for your family but we can predict that trusting God will lead you down the best road.
August 16, 2018
Did you see the SNL skit about stepmoms? No, you didn’t.
Saturday night live has some funny skits but thankfully they never aired their sketch My Little Stepchildren. It advertises the perfect doll for children who want to play the wicked stepmother. Some kids gut instinct is to go dark, the skit claims. Really? Look perpetuating negative stereotypes that harm family relationships is going dark. The Bible says, “Don’t let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.”
August 15, 2018
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