Avoiding Worry (Proverbs 12)
November 21, 2019
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Have you ever noticed that worry can spoil an otherwise happy day?
The Bible has a lot to say about worry: “An anxious heart weighs a man down,” Proverbs 12. And, yet, if you’re like me, you worry frequently. About the economy. Are my kids driving safely? Aging parents, politics, terrorist attacks, what to fix for dinner? Why do we do this? Because we forget that God cares. “You are so much more valuable than birds or flowers and yet God provides for them,” Jesus said. Seek first the kingdom and trust him with everything else.
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You know that scene in Forrest Gump when he runs back and forth across the country for three years? Hey, stop running!
Do you feel like Forrest Gump? I keep running into young people whose parents went round and round on the marriage go-round and they got left behind. Alone. Now as adults they don’t know what a healthy relationship is or what good parenting looks like. So, they run. Well, in the middle of the desert Forrest finally announces, “I’m pretty tired. I think I’ll go home now.” Stop running. Find a ministry or a godly mentor to help you find some answers. Maybe “tired” is trying to tell you something.
November 20, 2019
Well, he didn’t get to walk his daughter down the aisle, but he did get the daddy-daughter dance.
A friend of mine saw that his stepdaughter was struggling to decide who should walk her down the aisle at her wedding. Her dad, who had been in and out of her life or her stepdad, who had been there all along. My friend made a big sacrifice. He told her he would be okay with her father walking her down the aisle. That brought a light to her eyes and a smile to her face. Then she insisted: “But nobody’s going to take away our dance at the reception.” Oh yeah, he enjoyed that daddy-daughter dance!
November 19, 2019
So, what do you call a stepfamily?
There’s a lot of confusion about what term to use for the stepfamily these days. Ah, see there, I used one. “But, Ron, we call our family a blended family because we’re trying to blend everyone together.” Yeah, that works. But, then, for some a blended family is a bi-racial family. Well, others call themselves a remarried family, or a combined family. There’s a lot of terms, but no matter which you choose, just remember to act like a family.
November 18, 2019
One way to develop faith in your children is to think out loud.
Thinking out loud is sharing with kids how you came to a certain decision. The next time you’re in the car, think out loud. “Hey Buddy, we decided not to buy that big screen television. Instead we're going to use the money for a service project. I think this honors God and buying another thing for us really doesn’t.” Thinking out loud shapes the faith of your children and shows them how life and faith connect. And, when stepparents think out loud, kids see your heart and they grow to trust it.
November 15, 2019
Good parenting is in part about managing your children. But often more about managing yourself.
Hector’s daughter pushed his buttons. She was direct and assertive. All of which made him overreact to the point of crushing her spirit. Yes, parenting is about strategies, but it's also about managing what goes on inside us. Hector figured out that assertiveness threatened him. Overreacting didn’t work out with his ex wife and if he didn’t want the same result with his daughter, he needed to change his response. Hey, if you can’t manage yourself what makes you think you can manage your kids?
November 14, 2019
Parents are lying to their kids…for personal gain. And, it’s got to stop.
I’ve worked with divorced parents for over two decades and it drives me crazy when a parent is lying to their child about the other home. Often it's a selfish motivation--money, custody, or winning the favor of the child--and all it takes is blaming the other parent or skewing the story to make yourself look good. It’s all a cowardly lie. Proverbs 12 declares that truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment. Eventually your kids are going to figure it out and then what?
November 13, 2019
A stepmom, Linda, sent me an e-mail. I could see her smile in her words.
She said, “I got a big payoff when my husband threw me a 50th birthday party and my stepson, drove six hours to be there.” Then she said, “I got an incredible call from my husband’s oldest daughter away at college. She called to say how much she loved me and was glad that I married her dad. And then she said, ‘Linda, I was so mean to you when I was 15. I’m so sorry. What was that about?’ Then we talked about it light heartedly and ended up having a good laugh.” Wow. Thanks for sharing, Linda.
November 12, 2019
Thank you for your service.
I was walking through an airport and a man near me walked up to two military servicemen he didn't know and said, “Thank you for your service.” It got me thinking. It’s pretty easy for me to be disconnected from the sacrifices our military personnel make. Stories around Veteran’s Day always put a face on the sacrifices made, but it’s easy to forget. That's why I now make it a practice to walk up to military personnel I don’t know and say, “Thank you.” Perhaps you’ll join me.
November 11, 2019
If you want to feel close in your marriage, do things that make you close.
Healthy couples realize that it’s up to them to make day-to-day decisions to protect their time together. I’m talking about talking together. Just the two of you. No cell phones, no kids, no Instagram. Talking about your day, your parenting, your faith. And doing things together helps your closeness, too, especially for couples in stepfamilies. The vast majority of happy couples in blended families have interests that bring them together. The couple that prays and plays together, stays together.
November 8, 2019
I’m not sure you want to do this, but if you want to push a friend or family member away, just lie to them.
Lying, breaking a promise, or deceiving someone—yeah, those are all good ways of destroying trust and adding distance to a relationship. Proverbs 12:22 tells us that “the Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who are truthful.” We hurt our relationship with God when we’re dishonest and we hurt earthly relationships, too. Many marriages and families are ripped apart by lies. I know the truth is very hard to say sometimes but telling the truth is always less harmful that a lie.
November 7, 2019
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