Restoring Relationships: Reconciliation, Not Always Resolution
By Rick Warren
“Search for peace, and work to maintain it” (1 Peter 3:11 NLT).
The seventh biblical step toward restoring a relationship is to emphasize reconciliation, not resolution.
It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to agree about everything. Reconciliation focuses on the relationship, while resolution focuses on the problem. When we focus on reconciliation, the problem loses significance and often becomes irrelevant.
We can re-establish a relationship even when we are unable to resolve our differences. Christians often have legitimate, honest disagreements and differing opinions, but we can disagree without being disagreeable.
The same diamond looks different from different angles. God expects unity, not uniformity, and we can walk arm in arm without seeing eye to eye on every issue.
This doesn’t mean you give up on finding a solution. You may need to continue discussing and even debating, but you do it in a spirit of harmony. Reconciliation means you bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue.
The seven steps toward restoring relationships are simple, but they’re not easy. It takes a lot of effort to restore a relationship. That’s why Peter urged, “Search for peace, and work to maintain it” (1 Peter 3:11 NLT).
When you work for peace, you are doing what God does. That’s why God calls peacemakers his children.
Talk It Over
With whom do you need to restore fellowship? Pause right now and talk to God about that person. Then pick up your phone and begin the process.
How has disagreement kept you from restoring a relationship?
In what ways can you model unity and not necessarily uniformity in your relationships?
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