The way God designed the family to work is for the man to be the head and take the responsibility. The only way this can work in the greatest way is if that man is following God as his head. God has modeled for that man the perfect way to love the bride unconditionally and giving is life up for her. Though that may not always happen, and consequences come when mistakes are made, it is essential to continually check that the marriage relationship is working the way God intended it to work, and that comes first with the relationship between God and the man. God is good and full of grace to help pick the man up when he has stumbled so that he can continue moving forward, modeling for his children the kind of man boys should be and girls should look for.