We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
In recovery, we learn new ways of seeing things, new ways of responding, and new guidelines for making decisions. Our old patterns of thinking and living didn't work very well. Now that we're establishing new patterns, we'll need counselors. They will supply the support we need and will listen as we share our story.
King Solomon gives this advice: "Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success" (Proverbs 15:22). "There is safety in having many advisers" (Proverbs 11:14). King David looked to God's word for counsel, saying, "Your laws please me; they give me wise advice" (Psalm 119:24). Isaiah prophesied of the Messiah (Jesus), saying, "For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace" (Isaiah 9:6).
When we surround ourselves with dependable counselors, we are developing a safety net. Good counsel can come from the Bible and from people. When we admit our wrongs to other people they can also become a source of counsel for our lives. They may be professionals who understand addiction and recovery. They might be people who know us and measure their advice by godly wisdom. Or perhaps they are people who have experienced what we're now going through. Find someone!
We need the help of those who can enlarge our vision and broaden our perspective.
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