The Real Need
A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind.
As I settled into my seat on the small regional jet, I noticed that the man next to me was embroiled in an intense cell-phone conversation. Although he was doing his best to control his anger and keep his voice down, his conversation was unavoidable for me—and all the passengers within two rows of him. He was talking to his former wife. Listening to him was like watching a sword fight where you can only see one of the competitors.
With his blade, he verbally sliced and pierced the woman on the other end of the phone. The conversation ended with a verbal decapitation when he declared, “And you are no longer my wife!” He demanded to talk with his daughter, and when she came on the phone, the sword fighter was instantly transformed into a puppy. He began by compassionately asking her questions, but at the end of the conversation he made
one last thrust of the sword, saying her mom was a “wimp.” After he hung up the phone, this noble warrior informed me, “Any man can be a father,” he said, “but being a parent takes a real commitment. Hard
work.” I wondered if he was using the same dictionary that I did.
He mentioned that he was living with a woman who was expecting his child. I asked if the baby’s birth might lead them to get married, and his response was, “Why spoil a good thing with a piece of paper?” As I sat there, God reminded me of something: What is this man’s real need? As a sinner myself, saved by grace, I recognized that this man’s real need was to know God’s love and forgiveness. The warrior had certainly made a mess of his life, but there was One who would forgive him and could help him clean it up.
Who in your life needs to know Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior?
Ask God to help you remember that you, too, are a sinner saved by grace and to help you freely share the hope of the gospel.
Each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself (Eph. 5:33). The longer you are together, the more things you learn about this man or woman that are not very pleasant, not too pretty.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). If you accept only in part, you can love only in part.
Once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was (James 1:24). Sometimes we lose our way, forget who we really are. In those times, God often inspires people around us to hold up a mirror and let us see who we've become.