Lures and Waders
Give preference to one another in honor. ROMANS 12:10
For more than 50 years I have enjoyed fishing. And ever since our honeymoon, when we went fishing together, I’ve been inviting Barbara to get into the sport with me. Finally she agreed to give it a try on a vacation out West. I bought her a fly rod and hired a guide to teach her, and finally there we were floating down the majestic Snake River near Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Finally, I thought, she’s fishing with me, enjoying the experience. It was just perfect!
At one point during our float, the guide who was with us began to instruct Barbara in the techniques of fly fishing. Now, one thing you never want to do is stand to the right side of a right-handed fly fisherman; the whipping motion of that line going back and forth can sail wide fairly easily and the fly can snag you. But when I saw the guide had Barbara positioned in the boat to his right, I figured he was the pro and knew what he was doing. That proved to be a wrong assumption. As he was lofting the fly back and forth the wind began to gust. I thought, This really isn’t a good idea for Barbara to be standing to his right. At that very moment, the guide flung his hook smack-dab in the middle of her forehead. I will never forget that moment. It was a ghastly sight. An imitation Caddisfly on a size 6 hook stuck in my beautiful wife’s face! Drops of blood ran down her nose. It wasn’t as bad as it sounds. It didn’t even leave a mark. I was reminded of what a great wife God had given me to be willing to get outside her comfort zone and join me in something I enjoy. When was the last time you stepped outside your comfort zone for your spouse?
And yes, Barbara has been back fly fishing with me since then. But she doesn’t stand to my right.
What would you love for your spouse to try with you just once?
Pray that you two will have fun together and be adventuresome.
Each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself (Eph. 5:33). The longer you are together, the more things you learn about this man or woman that are not very pleasant, not too pretty.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). If you accept only in part, you can love only in part.
Once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was (James 1:24). Sometimes we lose our way, forget who we really are. In those times, God often inspires people around us to hold up a mirror and let us see who we've become.