â€œAnyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.â€
One reason divorce has become so common today is the advent of â€œnoâ€faultâ€ divorce laws, first introduced in California in 1969. Over the following fifteen years, every state in America adopted some form of noâ€fault legislation. And to what result? According to the Statistical Abstract of the United States, since these laws began taking effect the number of divorces in this country has increased 279 percent.
In essence, noâ€fault divorce has nullified the sacredness of marriage in the eyes of the law, making it an unenforceable contract. A man and woman can abandon their family more easily than they can abrogate almost any other agreement that bears their signature. In terms of the law, it matters not that theyâ€™ve made a solemn promise before God, friends, relatives, a member of the clergy, or a licensed representative of the state.
However, no matter how easy the laws make it to get a divorce, it will always remain infinitely difficult to repair the damage.
Just between us . . .
â€¢ What would you say to the couple who insist, â€œOur divorce is nobodyâ€™s fault. We just didnâ€™t get along, so weâ€™re going our separate waysâ€?
â€¢ Do we know anyone who has sought a divorce, only to regret the move?
â€¢ Are we committed to staying together, even through tough times?
Lord, the courts have made it so easy to tear apart that which You have bound together. Forgive us, forgive our land, and bring us to repentance. Help us keep Your commands as the ultimate law of our marriage and family. Amen.
This devotional is taken from Night Light for Couples. Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved. Used with permission.
And a husband must not divorce his wife (1 Cor. 7:11). The distress young children experience after a divorce remains with them throughout their lives.
When faced with the breakup of her parentsâ€™ marriage, a hurting teenager used the following word picture in this letter to her father.