Friendship. When you hear that word, what goes through your mind? Vulnerability? Transparency? Heart-to-heart communication? These are probably a good start in describing a woman’s needs. Now, allow me to give you some insight into your husband’s heart.
Barb was having lunch with some of her female friends one afternoon, and one of the women began
complaining that her husband was golfing too often.
“Why don’t you go with him?” Barb asked.
“I can’t stand to golf!” her friend proclaimed.
“But you love your husband, Anna. Go out and play with him. Join him. Crawl into his world.”
What Barb helped her friend get a handle on was that you don’t have to be “good” at everything your husband excels at, nor do you have to be as enthusiastic about things as he. What matters to him is that you validate his interests and join him in some of his activities. Play with him. Recreate with him. Certainly he will have “his things,” and you will have “your things.”
What excites your husband? Playing the stock market? Join an investment club and learn the lingo. Watching a football game? Pop some corn and join him for a quarter of the game. This doesn’t mean that the stock market or football has to become your passion; what it does mean is that your husband needs to be your passion. Just as you desire your husband to enter your world, enter his. Encourage him. Cheer him on. If you don’t, who will?
In their book The 5 Love Needs of Men & Women
, Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg share insights into how to become your spouse’s best friend. Gary talks to women about the deepest needs of their husbands, and Barb talks to men about the most intimate needs of their wives. The article above is adapted from the book published by Tyndale House Publishers in which Gary speaks to women about how they can deepen the friendship they have with their husband. Visit americasfamilycoaches.com to learn more about the Rosberg’s many books and resources.