I sat nervously on the monkey bars as my twin sister dashed across the playground. She was on a mission: ask my crush out for me. My palms got sweaty as she approached me with the answer.
"Well ... he wants to know where you want to 'go out' to?" she said.
Not exactly what I was hoping for. Clearly he didn't understand the whole 'going out' concept meant you simply liked the person, not that you actually went somewhere. So I sent her back to explain and thensee what he'd say.
What seemed like an eternity later, she skipped back with his reply, "He said yes!" My little 5th grade self couldn't be more thrilled.
I am sure it doesn't take long to recall your first crush. You know, that thumpity-thump-thump of your heart? Or the butterflies that fluttered around in the pit of your stomach every time he pulled your hair and ran?
We don't have to look too far into the Bible to see that God designed us this way.
"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." (Genesis 2:18, NLT)
So it's not so much that we have these desires, but rather how we manage them in a way that honors God. That will lead to lasting and fulfilling relationships.
Unfortunately, it's not so black and white. My own experience has taught me that when our burning desire to love and be loved is not rooted in God, our hearts can steer us in directions we never intended to go. We often end up in a mucky mess of emotions and 'lines' getting crossed; these can lead to frustration, discontentment and emptiness.
We may not be able to trust our own hearts, but thankfully, we can trust the One who made them.
We must understand the value and importance of turning to God and His Word for wisdom and guidance in all we do—especially in dealing with matters of our hearts in relationships, whether married, dating or single. When we put our full trust in Him, He will be the one to lead us along not just the right path, but the best one.
Let's take our first step today and re-directing our precious heart's desires towards the One who knows best. I promise, He will take us on a grand adventure beyond our wildest dreams!
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it determines the course of your life." Proverbs 4:23
Ali no longer relies on her twin to ask guys out for her. But she admits, sometimes it is tempting. For more on Ali, check out her blog.
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